I am new to this forum and hoping for some suggestions in defining (the practice of) my faith.
I was raised (novus ordo) Roman Catholic but through my own research and experience in recent years I have been significantly drawn first by my family towards tradition Roman Catholicism and later by my spouse towards Russian Orthodoxy. I am particularly drawn to the eastern liturgy, but I am also convinced of papal primacy (if not supremacy). I am also quite familiar with the arguments of legitimacy on both sides, but even so, I am convinced that Roman Catholicism and Russian Orthodoxy are not mutually exclusive because both the Catholic and Orthodox Churches are of one Apostolic Faith, and it is for this reason I believe unity of the Eastern and Western Churches is inevitable. Not to mention that unity is my greatest hope simply for the fact that I have come to respect and adore aspects of both traditions! I have decided, therefore, that the reasonable compromise, for my situation and in accordance with my beliefs, is to become a Russian Byzantine Catholic. But my question is how to realize that faith/practice?
I believe it is vitally important for a person and his/her family both spiritually and sacramentally to be a member of a church/parish in order to nurture and develop his/her faith. Fortunately where I live, I am able to go to a Latin Tridentine Mass, a Byzantine (Ruthenian) Liturgy, and a Russian Orthodox Liturgy, so I alternate going to each one. I am not, however, able to go to a Russian Byzantine Catholic Church. My spouse is (and so far will be nothing but) Russian Orthodox. My children were baptized Roman Catholic but are still very young. If we go to the Russian Orthodox Liturgy, neither I nor my children can receive Communion. If we go to the Roman Mass or Byzantine Liturgy, my wife cannot receive Communion.
Can a person in my situation legitimately live a Russian Byzantine Catholic Faith? If so, how would I go about doing it? Or would it be best, all things considered, to just pick a side (Catholic or Orthodox) and just go with it?
Any suggestions and/or criticisms are welcome!