Hello everyone! It's been a while.
I'm happy to report that I have been received as a Catechumen and couldn't be more pleased. I haven't brought up the marriage deal yet - I just haven't found an appropriate moment - but all the comments on this board, plus my additional research, have made me fairly certain that it shouldn't be an issue. This particular church seems to have an appropriately broad understanding of Orthodoxy - some decades back their priest was defrocked because of heretically fundamentalist and bigoted statements - so I would be very surprised if there was any wish to block my Chrismation because of my marriage. (I don't mean to suggest that it is an excessively liberal church - just Orthodox.)
In any case, I have another question. It is not a big deal but it is gnawing at my mind a little bit. Last Saturday, at Vespers, I was one of maybe six people attending. At a certain point in the service, the woman up by the iconostasis who was doing some of the chanting - perhaps a little further on in catechism I will better know how to refer to her! - made what I'm fairly certain was a gesture at me that I confess I am at a loss as to how to interpret. I forget at exactly which part of the service it was - it's mostly in 1st century Greek, so it's not always easy to follow! - but I was standing, as was everyone else, when she looked over at me and made a gesture that, under normal circumstances, would look like "get up!" In other words, hands out, palms upwards, moving them up and down. Does that make sense? Since I was already standing up, I had no idea what to do. I was also uncomfortable being, it seemed, singled out during my worship, which had never happened to me before and had the unfortunate effect of making me self-conscious when I was trying to be with God. All I could think of was my hands were crossed in front of me, at about crotch level - I would never have thought twice about it, but could this somehow give offense? Forgive me, but that would seem a little odd. Then I wondered if she wanted me to hold my hands outward like that, in a supplication gesture. But no one else was doing this, and frankly, besides crossing yourself, I'd never heard of there being mandatory hand gestures from the faithful in Orthodoxy.
I'm baffled. On the other hand, I'm delighted to finally be on the home stretch of this journey and this of course is a very minor thing.
Thanks to everyone for their help on my previous question!