First, your wording makes no sense - the Church does not sanctifies...and then...provided the marriage is blessed in the Orthodox Church.
The Church allows Christians to marry. Therefore, if one partner is Orthodoxy, they are allowed to marry another Christian. However, not a Muslim, Budhist, Hindu, etc. Faith should be at the core of your life. Therefore, if do not share core beliefs, how do you expect that marriage to last? It's not that Orthodoxy does not accept people of other faiths...it's that Orthodoxy views marriage as a Sacrament.
The wording that you point out makes no sense comes straight from the page you referred me to. It is not my wording, that's why I have put quotes around it! I could have highlighted the grammar issues as well but I try to work out what the point is that the author is getting to rather than worrying about rules of grammar.
It's nice that the Church allows..., what would probably me more important is what God is happy with, rather than what the church allows. I also don't see how "what the Church allows" has anything to do with being a good and moral person with a goal towards love.
I certainly don't agree that Faith should be the core to your life. I would certainly be more for LOVE being core to my life, but really I try not to say should or shouldn't as it implies I know better than others with regards to what they should or shouldn't do with their lives, which is untrue as I have not lived in their shoes, I try to reserve judgment on such matters.
A couple who are close friends of mine have different beliefs, one is Christian and one is Bhudist. They have four lovely daughters and have been happily married for over 15 years now. I am grateful that the Orthodoxy don't come knocking on their door telling them that their marriage is destined to fail. It seems Orthodoxy doesn't understand how powerful love is and that it can conquer many obstacles, even the obstacles that organised religion thrusts on to people. BTW - it was good of you to highlight that organised religion can be an obstacle to love between two people. Athiesm and Agnosticism are tolerant and would always put love ahead of the rules and obstacles made up by organised religion.
...the Church does not tell anyone they should divorce. If they are still in love, even if one or the other has committed any of the things you mentioned...by all means, stay together.
However, if one of the two feels their life is in danger, or that their spouse has broken their oath...then, while not recommended, they may still divorce. There is such a thing in Orthodoxy as Economia.
You misread my post. I was suggesting the Church is telling people not to divorce. This is the problem I have. There are many circumstances where I have seen people being miserable in unhappy marriages, they have divorced and remarried and have gone on to live happy lives with a loving partner. I am unsure why the Church would rather people continue with an unhappy marriage. Also it concerns me that the Church tries to put much pressure, guilt, eternal damnation pressure on these people to stop them moving on into a more loving relationship.
BTW i wasn't mentioning those things. Please pay attention to the quotes. these bits come directly from the page that you wanted me to read.
Key words..."as Christ loves His Church". Christ would never do any harm to the Church. Therefore, the woman obeys her husband only to the point he does no harm. If for some reason he asks or does things against the Faith, she does NOT need to obey.
There is certainly some spin going on here. The fact of the matter is that Atheists and Agnostics most likely agree with equal rights. Men and Women are equal. No-one is the boss and no-one must obey. If this relationship does occur then it is not because of the random gender of the participants. Your Church and possibly your God would be advised to get with the times and learn about the merits of equal rights.
Well, let's see..."fornicating" with a different partner each day, with no emotional bonds....yes, I can see how that might be good for a person...NOT! Are you for real?
What's the big deal with sex. It is an enjoyable activity. Of course it would be good if people were fully informed of the dangers e.g. STDs, Pregnancy etc and informed of precautions that can be taken to minimise risk. But really, I don't know what the issue is with informed adults partaking of consentual sex, regardless of how often or with whom they partake it with.
Orthodoxy is most tolerant of things that benefit the soul. The things you mentioned, don't. You should feel guilt if you have done something immoral....otherwise you are a psychopath.
What if I was feeling particularly randy and masturbated, would that be seen as immoral? If I didn't feel guilty about it then would you label me as a psychopath? Sorry if this seems a stupid question but I am not sure how extreme Orthodoxy is. Does the Church promote love and tolerance or guilt and self restraint?
The Church is always there to help everyone. The doors are never closed to any believer. In fact, they can get all manner of guidance and assistance from the clergy for any issues they might be battling with.
OK, so if a young person came to the church and said that they were going to have sex and wanted to know if they did it standing up whether that would avoid an unwanted pregnancy, how would the church respond? Would they simply say to abstain or would they inform the person about Condoms, Diaphrams, the Pill etc?
The reason for considering "previous" children is not to leave them motherless, if she dies during the current pregnancy.
Additionally, she not made to feel "guilty"...but, the Church helps her to get over her loss...not repress the loss of the unborn child, but, work through it.
OK, so the church values her life if she is needed to be a mother to her current children otherwise the Church doesn't value her life. Nice!
Penance is to confess to sin or to undergo a punishment in token of penance for sin. This sounds like guilt to me. Don't you think the woman would be feeling terrible enough about having to make such an awful decision. She certainly does not need salt rubbed into her wounds. It does not seem to me that your Church shows compassion and love in this instance.
The love is there....but, you seem not to see it. I think you need to do some self examination before you throw accusations on the Orthodox Church.
All your issues are simply with you, not with the Church. You see them, because you want to see them. You make issues where none exist.
Praying the negativity you have leaves you, and that you find peace and love.
Take a deep breath....let it out.
Here's a cyber hug!
Please don't waste your prayer on me. Nice gesture but a waste all the same. Pray for world peace, equal rights, end to world hunger, happiness and love instead. Maybe one more prayer request will be all it takes for God to decide to grant these prayers, I would hate to think you wasted that important prayer on me. If there was a God who fulfilled prayer, I would never be selfish enough to pray for myself when there are much bigger issues in the world to solve. Again, please direct me to the form I need to fill out in order to nominate myself for a sainthood.
It is interesting to hear from you that you think that the problem is me and that I need to be aligned with your church. From your responses it seems that you are totally aligned with them, which is an amazingly good fit, I am truly happy for you. I hope that your church allows its other followers who may have differences to question the church and diverge on matters that are important to the individual followers.