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« on: November 30, 2010, 02:22:00 AM »

I would like to humbly ask for your prayers/intercessions for my marriage.  My wife gave up on our marriage this evening and left me for her parents' house.   Cry  I don't believe in divorce and I love her "as Christ loves the Church", so I am very VERY depressed right now.  Please pray that the Lord will "let no man separate what God has joined together" and that he will carry me through the night in his loving embrace.

In Christ,

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« Reply #1 on: November 30, 2010, 02:32:50 AM »

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« Reply #3 on: November 30, 2010, 02:58:25 AM »

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« Reply #4 on: November 30, 2010, 03:24:20 AM »

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« Reply #5 on: November 30, 2010, 07:10:21 AM »

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« Reply #6 on: November 30, 2010, 05:00:50 PM »

Thank you for your prayers.  I made it through the night, but I'm still too sad to eat or leave the house.  Please pray that my wife doesn't lose her faith in Christ and that I can make it through, yet, another night. 

God bless,

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« Reply #7 on: November 30, 2010, 05:07:06 PM »


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« Reply #8 on: November 30, 2010, 05:08:51 PM »

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« Reply #9 on: November 30, 2010, 05:10:02 PM »

No children, but our 7 year old Beagle is very sad. 
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« Reply #10 on: November 30, 2010, 05:30:54 PM »

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« Reply #11 on: November 30, 2010, 06:26:07 PM »

Thank you for your prayers.  I made it through the night, but I'm still too sad to eat or leave the house.  Please pray that my wife doesn't lose her faith in Christ and that I can make it through, yet, another night. 

God bless,

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« Reply #12 on: November 30, 2010, 06:28:09 PM »

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« Reply #13 on: November 30, 2010, 06:31:24 PM »

Don't allow yourself to dwell on things. Get out of the house. Stay busy.

Thank you and may the Lord be with you.  I tried leaving the house for lunch with my family and was too nauseated to eat.  To say that I'm devastated is an understatement.  I'm going to try to get to Bible study this evening; hopefully that will take my mind off of the pain. 
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« Reply #14 on: November 30, 2010, 06:43:23 PM »

Don't allow yourself to dwell on things. Get out of the house. Stay busy.

Thank you and may the Lord be with you.  I tried leaving the house for lunch with my family and was too nauseated to eat.  To say that I'm devastated is an understatement.  I'm going to try to get to Bible study this evening; hopefully that will take my mind off of the pain. 

It may help, just don't have unreasonable expectations that it's not going to hurt.

Just remember, you have your desires, but in the end, what happens, happens. If things are going to change, it's not going to be because she can tell you're moping around and sick. (You know what I mean?) It's a lot harder than it sounds, I know, just don't allow yourself to get wrapped up in it. It won't help things, and that's they last place you want to be.

Aside from the bro-talk, I hope the Holy Spirit is present in your life to give you the strength for your days.

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Sadness and grief can also lead to anger. Allowing yourself to be controlled by it, is allowing yourself to fall from God. How can you hear God's voice, when you've allowed yourself not to listen?

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« Reply #15 on: November 30, 2010, 06:50:50 PM »

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« Reply #16 on: November 30, 2010, 07:58:32 PM »

"Lord have mercy."

Try to keep praying. Pray for the strength to continue loving your wife regardless of her actions. God wants us to love others unconditionally. Remember Hosea's love for his harlot bride Gomer. We tend to love those who love us back, who treat us right, who are faithful to us, etc. But true love is loving those who forsake us, loving those who abuse or abondon us. I do not pretend that I have learned such perfect love yet. But in the midst of your sorrow and despair, try to see it as an opportunity to cultivate true Christian love. For whatever reason, God has allowed you to go through this period of adversity. Embrace it as an oppprtunity to draw nearer to Christ. As you lean upon Him and experience His perfect love, then perhaps He will grant you the grace and strength to love your wife more perfectly. Try not to obsess on whether or not your wife will return. Know that God remains just as real and present in you life either way.

I know it's easy for me to say these things to you. I am not the one going through it. But please know that I do speak from my own experiences of loss and heartache.

Peace to you.


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« Reply #17 on: November 30, 2010, 09:44:17 PM »

Lord Have Mercy! I feel your pain... I didn't want to go anywhere when my wife left me (we are back together now and I pray the same for you), but my friends forced me out and to start working again and that really helped. For the longest time I could not eat with out getting sick, I lost some weight. I prayed and cried (like a baby who just had its pacifier stolen) every night, and the that among my friends helped me the most.

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« Reply #18 on: November 30, 2010, 11:53:19 PM »

Thank you so much for your prayers and advice.  I realize that many of you have been through similar situations, so please don't hesitate to share your advice with me (thanks to those of you that have already offered your wisdom).  I wish that I could conjure up a few more sentences to express my gratitude, but I am currently at a loss for words. 

Grace and peace to all,

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« Reply #19 on: December 01, 2010, 12:10:03 AM »

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« Reply #20 on: December 01, 2010, 04:46:14 AM »

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« Reply #21 on: December 02, 2010, 02:29:49 PM »

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« Reply #22 on: December 03, 2010, 01:08:57 AM »

My wife confirmed to me that she is not a "practicing" Orthodox Christian right now, confirming my worst fears.  Please keep her in your prayers! Lord have mercy, lord have mercy, lord have mercy (on Bridget).
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« Reply #23 on: December 03, 2010, 01:30:50 AM »

My wife confirmed to me that she is not a "practicing" Orthodox Christian right now, confirming my worst fears.  Please keep her in your prayers! Lord have mercy, lord have mercy, lord have mercy (on Bridget).

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« Reply #24 on: December 03, 2010, 07:25:11 PM »

Lord have mercy!  you, your wife, and the dog are in my prayers!!!!!  I know that this is tough to deal with, I recently watched my parents go though it.
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« Reply #25 on: December 04, 2010, 01:46:53 AM »

You will be in my prayers as well.  I know how awful divorce can be.  It can take a long time to get over the worst.
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« Reply #26 on: December 21, 2010, 04:59:06 AM »

"Lord have mercy."

Try to keep praying. Pray for the strength to continue loving your wife regardless of her actions. God wants us to love others unconditionally. Remember Hosea's love for his harlot bride Gomer. We tend to love those who love us back, who treat us right, who are faithful to us, etc. But true love is loving those who forsake us, loving those who abuse or abondon us. I do not pretend that I have learned such perfect love yet. But in the midst of your sorrow and despair, try to see it as an opportunity to cultivate true Christian love. For whatever reason, God has allowed you to go through this period of adversity. Embrace it as an oppprtunity to draw nearer to Christ. As you lean upon Him and experience His perfect love, then perhaps He will grant you the grace and strength to love your wife more perfectly. Try not to obsess on whether or not your wife will return. Know that God remains just as real and present in you life either way.

I know it's easy for me to say these things to you. I am not the one going through it. But please know that I do speak from my own experiences of loss and heartache.

Peace to you.


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« Reply #27 on: December 21, 2010, 07:34:17 AM »

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« Reply #29 on: December 21, 2010, 12:07:20 PM »

I was despondent also when this happened to me decades ago. I hope that you take Azurestone's and Gebre's advice. I would also suggest the following prayer by St Ephraim the Syrian:

O Lord and Master of my life, take from me the spirit of sloth, faintheartedness, lust of power, and idle talk. (+)

But give rather the spirit of chastity, humility, patience and love to your servant. (+)

Yes, O Lord and King, grant me to see my own sin and not to judge my brother, for You are blessed from all ages to all ages. Amen. (+)

(The “(‘+)“ indicates that those praying make a deep bow or prostration at this point.)


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« Reply #30 on: December 21, 2010, 12:54:57 PM »

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« Reply #31 on: December 22, 2010, 01:19:32 PM »

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