I had a similar question to yours.... my situation is a little bit similar to yours. I've discussed this with my parish priest and he was very open about it and respect each person's decision. That is to say that we must display the same patience and live our life as true Orthodox Christians. Prayer is always at the center of one's own decision to join the Church or not. Sometimes, miracles do happen, it's all for the Glory of God.
My prayers are with you and your wife!