If you do not mind me asking, how did you work this out?
And yes married life is fun! Seems that the wife will look for the opposite and choose it! If I didn't feel so strongly about the EO church I'd just ignore this but the truth changes you. What I enjoyed it the past is no longer sufficient.
We are opposites on many many levels . . .but what works for us and what our relationship has always been based on is a deep respect for the other person. My husband is athiest. . .he does not believe in anything spiritual on any level. That's fine, that's him. . . and if my God wants to change that, He can and will do a much better job than I ever could. He loves my husband more than I ever will be capable of.
I used to get up at 5am to pray from 5am to 6am, but that disturbed his last hours of sleep. Now I do my morning prayers after he goes to work - before I go to work. If I cannot manage get to my prayer corner, I take my prayer book with me to work and pray while I'm working. My prayer corner is located in my office, it is not in the central part of the house - as this is actually his house - and has been in his family for four generations. I talk about my experience in my faith as it blesses me - as an experience, not as a 'you should believe this way or that.' And I leave it. I do not go on and on. . . I do not get mad at him when he looks at me with a blank "I have nooooo clue why this is such a meaningful thing for you!" look on his face. I do not ask him to join or to believe, or to pray with me. BUT I PRAY FOR HIM every day, many times a day. Giving birth is up to the mother, not the midwife. It's up to My Father in heaven to birth life in to my husband, I cannot do this. So, if I could simplify this? I respect my husband and do not overwhelm my faith onto him. Nor do I deny my faith. I try to be as considerate and as loving as I can be in his requests to allow him let me know when something makes him very uncomfortable. I give the time I owe to my God to God and give the time I owe to my husband - to my husband. I don't deny either.
Fasts are a non-issue as my husband loves to eat and when I fast there's just more for him to munch on.
We have had some knock down drag out fights over some issues with my faith - especially alms giving and tithing. This was where my faith was not being respected and I needed to stand up for Christ in my heart to live the way I am called to live. We came to an agreement on these things that work for both of us.
I go to Wednesday Vespers, I go to Great Vespers (Saturday) at least once a month, but not every week. I go to Matins and Liturgy every Sunday, and the Agape meal afterwards. I do these alone. He did come to my church for Liturgy when I was chrismated - out of love for me. He is very cooperative during the Advent and Lenten seasons where he knows I 'live at church'.
My husband is not a believer on any level, though - and only prayer and God's mercy will change this fact. If he were a believer? I think I would be apt to talk to my priest and ask him for what he suggests and follow him to the letter. My priest in this instance has told me to love my husband - and pray for him, but do not attempt to persuade him in any way. My husband has softened toward my faith in the last year in so many ways. It was very very good leadership on the behalf of my priest.