To answer the OP one of the things that really made protestantism distasteful to me over the years was the constant rock throwing amongst the various faiths and segments of faiths. It's almost a cottage industry. It goes far beyond genuine concern. I'm right, you're wrong pridefulness rules the day in that arena. I can't help but wonder how many people are turned away by attitudes like that.
If I need to tear someone else down to make myself attractive, I'm prolly not that attractive to begin with.
It sounds like you were burnt a number of times. Yes, it's true, the name calling and the tearing down of someone as well as the tearing down of other groups happens alot among the more conservative groups. In that type of environment I grew tough skin. But after a while one can get burnt out. One can get tired. One can get weary. And that's what happened to me. For sometimes I don't want to argue. Sometimes I don't want to fight! Sometimes I just wanna rest, relax, and do nothing. Sometimes I just want the Faith to defend itself. In the conservative protestant world, I always had to fight! I always had to defend what I believed.
And so I am not against showing why a group is wrong. I mean, we all can't be right! But at the same time I don't want to be mean or rude while I do it, nor do I want to do it all the time.
There is a method to the madness. Each group is gonna defend something that they think is true and each group is gonna critique another group based on how they see the world. There is nothing wrong with that.......I mean, that is what they are suppose to do.
I just believe that if every group under the sun can do it, then why can't we? Why are we the only ones that are not allowed to critique the beliefs and claims of other groups? Why are we the only ones who are not allowed to defend ourselves when other groups bash us? Why can't we defend what we believe? Why must we always be silent? Why can't we let people know that we are in Town? Everybody else seems to be allowed to let people know that they exist, but for some reason the same rule doesn't apply to us? Why can't we let people know that we exist?
I don't get offended when Mormons, JW's and others say what they say about themselves. I don't get offended when they call me Apostate, heretics, unregenerate, lost, unsaved.........etc.
I don't get offended. Why? Because, according to how they see the world, that is what they are suppose to think. A group should have the right to defend itself and it's flock.
But for some reason if I try to defend myself and if I try to flip the tables on them you will most likely see that as being a turn off. You will see that as pride, you will see that as rock throwing.
I'm sorry if you were hurt in the past. I'm sorry for the suffering and pain you went through, but there is a time and place for everything. .......even for the things you may not like.
If other groups want to put the label "Christian" on themselves and denounce us as being "unChristian", then I think we should have the right to show why we are Christian. The word "Christian" should have a context, especially a historical one. One that I think most groups(the ones that attack us)
And so, there is a time and place for everything.