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Offline Justin Kissel

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Leaving Monasticism Question
« on: October 30, 2010, 12:04:38 PM »
Suppose a young man or woman isn't really interested in marriage, and decides to become a monastic. Let's say that everything goes fine when they're a novice, and for the first few years after that in the monastery. Now let's say 10 years later they decide that they were wrong, that they want to be married after all, and they leave the monastery. Would this be considered a betrayal or great sin, or would it just be considered someone changing their mind?

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Re: Leaving Monasticism Question
« Reply #1 on: October 30, 2010, 12:25:37 PM »
Suppose a young man or woman isn't really interested in marriage, and decides to become a monastic. Let's say that everything goes fine when they're a novice, and for the first few years after that in the monastery. Now let's say 10 years later they decide that they were wrong, that they want to be married after all, and they leave the monastery. Would this be considered a betrayal or great sin, or would it just be considered someone changing their mind?
Were they tonsured? If not, it is like breaking off an engagement rather than a divorce.
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Re: Leaving Monasticism Question
« Reply #2 on: October 30, 2010, 01:01:01 PM »
If a monk is tonsured and decides to leave that is automatic excommunication, as I've been told.  I may be wrong.
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Re: Leaving Monasticism Question
« Reply #3 on: October 30, 2010, 01:02:09 PM »
Yes, I meant a tonsured monk.

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Re: Leaving Monasticism Question
« Reply #4 on: October 30, 2010, 01:07:54 PM »
Riassophore tonsure or little schema tonsure?
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Re: Leaving Monasticism Question
« Reply #5 on: October 30, 2010, 01:09:35 PM »
I wouldn't have thought that that particular aspect of it would matter... interesting :)  Hypothetically, let's say we have one of each...

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Re: Leaving Monasticism Question
« Reply #6 on: October 30, 2010, 01:30:43 PM »
There are  4 stages of monasticism: novitiate => rassophore => little schema (you make vows, change name etc.) => great schema. One could quit the first two with no consequences.
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Re: Leaving Monasticism Question
« Reply #7 on: October 30, 2010, 02:27:01 PM »
There are  4 stages of monasticism: novitiate => rassophore => little schema (you make vows, change name etc.) => great schema. One could quit the first two with no consequences.

Yes, but what are the consequences for the latter two?

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Re: Leaving Monasticism Question
« Reply #8 on: October 30, 2010, 03:12:15 PM »
There are  4 stages of monasticism: novitiate => rassophore => little schema (you make vows, change name etc.) => great schema. One could quit the first two with no consequences.

This is similar to what I was told by my Godfather (a monk).  A novice is not part of the Brotherhood and can come and go as he pleases.  A rassophore is a member of the Brotherhood.  Quitting as a rassophor was still not considered "of no consequence", but more like a Priest who's wife dies and he wishes to remarry.  He can no longer be a priest, but he is still a layman.  As to the schema, quitting that was not really even discussed as an option.  I got the impression that it was as Scamandrius has said.
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Re: Leaving Monasticism Question
« Reply #9 on: October 30, 2010, 04:02:14 PM »
However, a friend of a friend was a monk and I think he attained rassaphore "status."  He had to leave the monastery because he developed a severe allergy which prohibited him from maintaining a strict vegetarian/vegan diet.   I don't know the particulars.  He was granted leave and I don't think there were any spiritual penalties, e.g. excommunication.  I'm sure that there is some application of oikonomia, but if you just want to "up and leave", there is some consequence to that.
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Re: Leaving Monasticism Question
« Reply #10 on: October 30, 2010, 07:24:08 PM »
A rassaphore has made no vows or anything and only needs the blessing of the bishop. As for those who have the Lesser or Greater Schema...well, the only thing I can think of is that they have made their vows to God. I haven't personally heard of a monk leaving after that point, thought, doubtless they have. I would have to imagine that each one is handled differently by the bishop, depending on all the circumstances.