Before I attempt to reply, Ioannes, could you tell us the make up of your church? I know it won't be exact but could you estimate how many are converts, first generation-born, immigrants, bi-lingual (Arabic + English), or only speak Arabic?
If I could use my church for an example:
I'm a first generation American born of immigrant Copts here in South Jersey. My Arabic isn't the best, but I can hold some conversations and understand large portions of the liturgy. Our liturgies utilize all three languages (4 if you count the Greek hymns). For the doxologies, depending on who's present during that service, we'll do half in Coptic, and half in the majority language typically (usually English on Sundays, Arabic during Wed/Fri when it's usually the elderly who go to those). The liturgical prayers are mostly said in either English or Arabic, however, a large portion of hymns are said in Coptic as it has never been sung in Arabic, not even in Egypt. These hymns are primarily the ones which precede, are in-between, and which follow after the Daily Readings. We always say the Creed in English on Sundays, say Our Father in English, and sing half the Communion hymns in English (exception wed/fri for all this), though depending on if there is a special occasion, we may add in special Arabic/Coptic hymns that the congregation knows well. Sometimes our priests will start praying in Coptic, but it becomes very easy to follow along overtime, and the melodies are just beautiful, nothing one could hear in Arabic or English.
Our congregation is only around 15 years old, and our actual church was built just 3 years ago, with a large portion of our families coming after this, so it's fair to say we are a young church. The majority of the elders in our church are from Egypt, the first generation American being between the ages of 1-30 typically. No real second generations yet. Thus we cannot be an English only church as would alienate half the church, essentially the founders of it. We do however hold all English liturgies one Saturday per month, which is primarily for the youth.
Language does not seem to be a large issue here as we utilize a PowerPoint system which has all three languages next to each other, so one may follow the service in their own language. Sometimes people will complain when the chanters (of which I'm a part of) start singing a hymn in a different language than we're accustomed (starting to put more Coptic in the liturgy) but after a few weeks they pick it up and all is fine for the most part. While I can't talk for everyone else, I'm comfortable with following the liturgy in all three languages. While I may not understand everything the priest may say, so long as I know the part he's in, I can either follow along in the liturgy book, recall from my mind, or look at the PPT screen.
I can understand your issue with this though Ioannes. It must be hard to be a convert when the liturgy switches to a different language. It's can be somewhat difficult for me and I can understand all three languages, but it does get better overtime, that I can promise, but it does take a long time. I cannot judge your situation though as I do not know the makeup of your church. If it's largely immigrant, then I can understand why it's done primarily in Arabic and Coptic, as this is what is comfortable for all of them. If it's otherwise, then I'd need more facts to say anything.
The one thing we have to consider about the Coptic church here and throughout the entire diaspora is that the majority of the people have come fleeing the persecution in Egypt. I do not have to go into detail about the persecution as I'm sure most people know about that, but that's a thing to consider, as the people have left their homes there to make new lives here for themselves and their children. The most important aspect of a Coptic family is the church, followed by their relatives, and these go hand in hand. You will find generations of families and extended families attending the same church, living in the same state, same city, even the same land really. The Copts came to America bringing their church and families with them as these were the only thing they had to rely on. They have slowly opened up, introduced English into the liturgies, and have begun active ministries in their areas. Slowly.
The church here is young and is still learning, is still gathering resources, is still preparing on how to do these things. It cannot be rushed. The East Coast has seen a ton of these ministries begin here, primarily by college and high school aged youth, as these are the only ones that speak the language, understand the culture, and can comfortably serve the diverse community around them. The churches in North Jersey have programs such as FTFT (First Timothy Four Twelve), JC4JC (Jesus Christ 4 Jersey City), etc. The Washington DC church has the Mission Life Center (http://www.missionlifecenter.org/
) which carries out missions in Africa, New Orleans, Rochester NY, and numerous other places, as well as operating a medical clinic and a private elementary school to name a few at the least. My church's and the surrounding churches' youth in the Greater Philadelphia region began a JC4Philly program last Saturday which aims to serve the homeless in Center City Philadelphia at least every other weekend to start with food, clothes, bibles, and other essentials. It's a small start, but it's a start which I'm stressing. Most churches do not have programs like this yet, but it's getting there. The Southern Diocese is creating diocesan programs, as is the LA diocese.
Patience is really needed as really, this is completely different than Egypt. In Egypt, we could not actively preach as it is illegal under Sharia Law and those proselytizing are arrested or killed there. Overtime you could say preaching in the Coptic Church there came to an unofficial halt as it just wasn't possible publicly. Did the church provide services to the people? Of course it did, but it did so quietly and under the watchful eye of the government. Here there are so many opportunities, yet the church does not know how to properly use them yet. It's getting there though with all the aforementioned programs, but again I have to stress, it's new and different and it's really uncommon and uncomfortable to many. In Egypt, you dealt with primarily Egyptian Copts and Egyptian Muslims, with some Egyptian Catholics, Egyptian Greek-Orthodox, and Egyptian Protestants. Here, we have to deal with over 35,000 Christian denominations (as the Census recently estimated it), as well as nearly every religion known in the world including atheists. It's a culture shock. A huge one. What the church did there does not work necessarily here, and thus it's experimenting with new things. It's an experiment. It cannot rush into this. It cannot force all churches to use more English as families are still fleeing Egypt to here in large numbers, and they need the support. If the world has given up on them, the church will not. It has to attend to its Egyptian sons and daughters in distress. That does not mean it will ignore the English speaking sons and daughters. It will do its best to serve both, but it's not perfect. All we can do is pray for the church, pray for our clergy, and pray for our servants, so that the church can grow, prosper in all it does, and serve both the Egyptian and English-speaking sons and daughters.
I apologize for the excessively long post. Guess I just had a lot to say haha considering everything I've read about this on here and on tasbeha. I hope to hear a response from you Ioannes.