Christ is Risen !
NHMS, I was reading your post and although its been a while, I want to tell you I admire you. You do know pretty well that the first church is our home and you are just doing it excellent, taking in consideration your wife, because she met you as a catholic, also for her is a bit difficult to accept, specially if she is catholic as well.
God is love and He shall always be in your home. You take care of your wife and your family, that makes you a good man and you are probably more orthodox in practice than many baptized or chrismated people who call themselves orthodox. The step you are about to take is not about "changing your religion" but about deepening your christian knowledge and practice.
I come from an orthodox background and my wife is orthodox as well. We live in a place where the nearest orthodox church is 7 hours (McAllen Texas) but its difficult to get there because its in another country (USA, we live in Mexico); and the nearest church within Mexico is 11 hours away. We've been making so many efforts to bring a priest to live within us, but so lately it seems its not the way. We focus in our daily lives and how to live it out as orthodox, even though we have no orthodox temple, but our house it is a church and it is how we should consider it.
I also think that many of your answers you are looking for, you will find them in prayer. May God illumine your way and your family's.