Where is this from? It sounds like Kalomiros.
Those who believe God does not punish sinners in a retributive fashion should maybe read something from the other side:
"The fire prepared in punishment for
the devil and his angels is divided by the voice of the Lord. Thus, since there
are two capacities in fire, one of burning and the other of illuminating, the
fierce and punitive property of the fire may await those who deserve to burn,
while its illuminating and radiant part may be reserved for the enjoyment of
those who are rejoicing."
This is from St Basil (commentary on Psalm 28:6). Although the holy Father allows that the illuminating and burning fire are from the same source, he nevertheless makes it clear that the fire is punitive for the unrepentant (note also the word 'deserve'). Those who say that God does not intend any punishment, and that the torment is of a purely subjective nature, are reading that into the Fathers.
Archbishop Theophan of Poltava put it best:
the wrath of God is one of the manifestations of the love of God, but of the
love of God in its relation to the moral evil in the heart of rational creatures in
general, and in the heart of man in particular."
Both wrath and love are true with respect to God. It is merely rationalization to try to reduce it all to 'love', so that we don't feel so scared of the Dread Judgment. Rather, we should feel very afraid, since only when we understand that God is willing to send us into everlasting torment for our sins will we be motivated to repent from the heart.
As for Hell not being a distinct place, remember that we will be judged in our souls AND bodies, and that our souls and bodies together will be sent to the everlasting reward, or to everlasting punishment.