This born from above process begins when one believes, which for many is that point in time when they confess Jesus is the Christ, the Son of the living God, publicly before the eyes of angels and men:
he said to them, "Did you receive the Holy Spirit when you believed?" (Act 19:2 NKJ)
As usual, you wretch that out of context:
1 And it happened, while Apollos was at Corinth, that Paul, having passed through the upper regions, came to Ephesus. And finding some disciples 2 he said to them, “Did you receive the Holy Spirit when you believed?”
So they said to him, “We have not so much as heard whether there is a Holy Spirit.”
3 And he said to them, “Into what then were you baptized?”
So they said, “Into John’s baptism.”
4 Then Paul said, “John indeed baptized with a baptism of repentance, saying to the people that they should believe on Him who would come after him, that is, on Christ Jesus.”
5 When they heard this, they were baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus. 6 And when Paul had laid hands on them, the Holy Spirit came upon them, and they spoke with tongues and prophesied. 7 Now the men were about twelve in all.
8 And he went into the synagogue and spoke boldly for three months, reasoning and persuading concerning the things of the kingdom of God. 9 But when some were hardened and did not believe, but spoke evil of the Way before the multitude, he departed from them and withdrew the disciples, reasoning daily in the school of Tyrannus. 10 And this continued for two years, so that all who dwelt in Asia heard the word of the Lord Jesus, both Jews and Greeks.
11 Now God worked unusual miracles by the hands of Paul, 12 so that even handkerchiefs or aprons were brought from his body to the sick, and the diseases left them and the evil spirits went out of them. 13 Then some of the itinerant Jewish exorcists took it upon themselves to call the name of the Lord Jesus over those who had evil spirits, saying, “We exorcise you by the Jesus whom Paul preaches.” 14 Also there were seven sons of Sceva, a Jewish chief priest, who did so.
15 And the evil spirit answered and said, “Jesus I know, and Paul I know; but who are you?”
16 Then the man in whom the evil spirit was leaped on them, overpowered them, and prevailed against them, so that they fled out of that house naked and wounded. 17 This became known both to all Jews and Greeks dwelling in Ephesus; and fear fell on them all, and the name of the Lord Jesus was magnified.
I have been born again and can testify these scripture texts are describing the experience quite literally.
So you claim. But who are you?
Have you been baptized in the name of Jesus by someone He sent?
Has the hand of an Apostle anointed your head?
You deny God's workings in His saints, yet you claim Christ whom they preach.
Religionists have boxes they put God in, but He is infinite, much greater than your box. Your ideas about laying on of hands, baptisms ect are contradicted here:
44 While Peter was still speaking these words, the Holy Spirit fell upon all those who heard the word.
45 And those of the circumcision who believed were astonished, as many as came with Peter, because the gift of the Holy Spirit had been poured out on the Gentiles also.
46 For they heard them speak with tongues and magnify God. Then Peter answered,
47 "Can anyone forbid water, that these should not be baptized who have received the Holy Spirit just as we have?"
(Act 10:44-47 NKJ)
This proves your rules are incorrect, God cannot be bound by your tiny ideas and limiting dogma.
All who confess Jesus is LORD publicly are apostolic believers, they are born by the word God put in their mouth and in their heart, and by God's Spirit:
8 But what does it say? "The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart " (that is, the word of faith which we preach):
9 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.
10 For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.
(Rom 10:8-10 NKJ)
When God the Holy Spirit fell upon me, upon my head like warm oil, my inner man was born by His Spirit, my soul became a "new creature", I was translated into His Kingdom and now sit in heavenly places in Christ Jesus:
4 But God, who is rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us,
5 even when we were dead in trespasses, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved),
6 and raised us up together, and made us sit together in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus,
(Eph 2:4-6 NKJ)
The Greek verbs are in the indicative, time is meant, I already am with Christ in heavenly places, the actualization of that in our finite sphere of time and space is, from our limited perspective, yet future:
7 that in the ages to come He might show the exceeding riches of His grace in His kindness toward us in Christ Jesus.
8 For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God,
9 not of works, lest anyone should boast.
10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.
(Eph 2:7-10 NKJ)
My new birth was an act of God's creation, not human works, not of myself, it was a gift from God, by grace I am saved, not human works, lest anyone boast:
By His Word and by His Spirit are the heavens made.
6 By the word of the LORD the heavens were made, And all the host of them by the breath of His mouth. (Psa 33:6 NKJ)
You want in to His Kingdom?
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"Do not marvel that I said to you,`You must be born again.' (Joh 3:7 NKJ)