Welcome to the forum vintageCelt.
I agree with searn, it really depends where you're located.
In Orthodoxy there simply aren't the same traditions as in the Mennonite community, and vice versa. It may very well be unfortunate that we don't have pious communities living in close proximity, that's my personal opinion, but that shouldn't keep us from cultivating a microcosm of that idea in our own families. I do hope that you find a parish that encourages your family in the ways that you need encouragement.