The hand movement is extremely promising!
A couple little pieces of advice from someone that has had a child in the NICU;
you need to make sure that your needs (both as a mom and dad) are attended to. This is still your child and your desires still matter a great deal.
IV's in the head are much easier to deal with then the ones in the feet/hand/belly button. You change diapers so often and move a child so much, the IV placement makes a big difference. Many nurses don't want to put an IV there because it looks scary, and it does look really scary. But it is much easier to have one good IV then to have multiple blown veins all over your poor baby. So if they give you an option of IV placement, go with the head.
She will likely be inoculated for RSV. This is a REALLY good thing to do. I would add additionally that a UVC wand is great for killing a lot of the nastiness that comes home. It is really easy to just go over everything every night this way without causing a build up of chemicals or getting resistant types growing. You can't use it on skin, but it is great for phones, door knobs, changing tables, counters- pretty much all the things that you would have to douse with Lysol every night if you have an immunocompromised baby. It isn't practical to wash a car seat, bouncy seat, chairs, swing etc. daily, this allows you to keep them "clean" inbetween washing them. I had one that I used thru this last year and I can't recommend it highly enough.
I am happy for you that you have a new blessing coming, and especially that you see her as the blessing she is rather then worrying about the troubles she could have. Take good care of yourself as well as your family. Men tend to try to be the hero in a situation sometimes. But that is merely delaying the reaction, making it worse.
I will be praying for your family. Your wife may find some solace in the Akathist to the Mother of God Nurturer of Childrenhttp://www.serfes.org/orthodox/nuturerofchildren.htm
While I was pregnant I found these prayers on here;
First Prayer during Pregnancy
Master, Lord Jesus Christ our God, Source of life and immortality, we thank Thee, that Thou hast enabled us in wedlock to become partakers of Thy blessing and gift, for Thou hast said, O Master, "Grow and multiply and you will fill the earth." We thank Thee and pray: bless this fruit of our body which Thou hast granted us, show Thy mercy upon it and enliven it with Thy Holy Spirit. Make its body to grow in health and without flaw and grant it well-formed members. Sanctify its body, mind, heart and inward parts. Grant this infant wisdom and fear of Thee; appoint a faithful guardian Angel for his soul and body. Cover, protect, strengthen and preserve the child in our womb until the very hour when Thou didst command him to be born. But do not conceal him in his mother's womb, for Thy hands have prepared him. Thou gavest him life and breath. O Lord Jesus Christ, we entrust our child into Thine all-powerful hands. Place the right hand of Thy grace upon him, sanctify him with Thy Holy Spirit and renew him for eternal life, that he may be a partaker of Thy Kingdom. Amen.
Second Prayer during Pregnancy
O all-merciful Christ our God, look upon us and preserve us, Thy servants, from fear and evil spirits, which hope to destroy the work of Thy hands. And when our hour and time will come, grant us deliverance according to Thy grace. Look upon us in Thy mercy and free Thy servants from torment. Alleviate the hardships of our pregnancy and grant us the strength and fortitude to give birth and enable this with Thine all-powerful help. For this is Thy wondrous creation, the power of Thy omnipotence, the work of Thy grace and mercy. Amen.
Third Prayer during Pregnancy
Our most merciful Queen, our hope, O Mother of God, the joy of those who sorrow — help us who are weak, and pray to Thy Son, Christ our God, that He may lighten the time of our pregnancy and successfully resolve this difficult time of His unworthy servants, and that His blessing may be on the infant born of us. For we have no other help, no other hope, but only you, O Mother of God, that you may preserve and cover us and our child. For through your protection and help we are saved, and send up glory and thanksgiving for all to the One God in Trinity and the Creator of all, always, now and ever, and unto the ages of ages. Amen.