So here's my story. I became engaged to a beautiful German girl who had a 5 year old autistic boy by a previous marriage. We loved each other. We never fornicateed her. I persuaded her to become baptized and she's still a member of the Church, in London. This is while I lived in the UK.
However, her ex husband was a Muslim. And when he found out that she had converted to Chrisrianity (she was raised an atheist by her ex communist mother in former East Germany and he had converted her to Islam before divorcing her so he could move on to another sex partner), he was enraged at her apostasy and resolved to stop our marriage. Which he did by threatening to take full custody of the autistic boy, because a younger brother of my fiancée accidentally burned him while they were on holiday in Germany, and the boy could be induced to repeat whatever you wanted to; his mental state was kind of like a parrot much of the time. And he hit the boy himself, causing bruises, but had the boy saying ambiguous statements that would suggest my fiancée did it. He demanded we break up or he'd get exclusive custody. Meanwhile I had to travel back to the U.S. to take care of my ailing parents. We fought him in court but I ran out of money and my British lawyer screwed me $10,000 later. So maybe we'll get married when the boy is grown up, but for now I'm stuck in the US and she's stuck in Britain, as she's in medical school and medical students in the UK can't transfer to an American university without starting over. But we did have some good times. Dinner at the Savoy Hotel, her eyes sparkling blue, swimming, exploring the Roman Baths in Barh, which was fascinating. Oh how I love her.
But I have three options: wait about ten years by which time she'll be a doctor, and if she hasn't found someone else and I haven't found someone else, we tie the knot. But we have to move on to some extent.
Option two: become a monk. This is appealing to me.
Option three: I am horrified by the crucifixion of Syriac children and other atrocities against Christians in Syria. And I find West Syriac girls extremely attractive. Also Copric and Antiochian girls. If I could marry one in a manner arranged by the church in such a way as to get visas for as many family members as possible, in particular, in such a way as to facilitate the evacuation of young children from Syria or Iraq, I would love to do this. Even if the girl isn't attreactive, I would do it out of love and to prevent harm. And my German fiancée wasn't my "type"; she became beautiful to me after I fell in love with her but initially at first glance I thought she was kind of frumpy looking. So beauty is determined by love. If you truly love someone, they'll look more attractive than any Victoria's Secret model, regardless of their age or weight.
But if I pursue this course, I need to explain my willingness to offer myself as a sacrifice to rescue refugees or people from Syria to the church without sounding like I'm looking for apsome kind of ecclesiastical "Russian Bride" kind of deal. Which I'm not. I rather am willing to use my unmarried status and forego the pleasures of monastic life, which is my preferred option otherwise, to evacuate someone from the danger zone and as much of their family as can be brought along given US immigration rules, which I understand can include several members.
However in an ideal world, my beloved fiancée and I would be married. But I don't want her to suffer loneliness for ten years or so on my account.
I am also open to marrying any good Orthodox girl. I have been too busy with my parents to do the dating scene though, although I think some girls in my parish are open to the idea. But my parents take priority.
But I'd particularly like to use my unmarried virginal state to rescue some people from Syria, Iraq or Egypt, or even the conflict areas in the Eastern Ukraine and Russia, if that situation deteriorates (I am passionately neutral on that war; I wish it would just go away), or any other Christians in danger of persecution, if the Church could arrange it.
So that's the sad state of my love life. I was personally a victim of Islamic persecution against Christians, as was my beloved fiancée. But she's still a Christian! Her wicked ex husband may have succeeded in delaying or preventing our marriage to punish her for apostasy, but he can't make her go back to Islam. And that I got her to be baptized makes me happier than if Id married her, for at least we have a shot at seeing each other in Heaven, not in a sexual way of course, but as brothers and sisters United in Christ Jesus.