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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #90 on: February 19, 2015, 02:03:55 PM »
I guess not. Well i tried, i cant say on my Judgment Day i didn't try.
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #91 on: February 19, 2015, 05:31:59 PM »
I guess not. Well i tried, i cant say on my Judgment Day i didn't try.

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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #92 on: February 19, 2015, 06:11:30 PM »
I guess not. Well i tried, i cant say on my Judgment Day i didn't try.

Yeah, that's what you're going to get quizzed on.
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #93 on: February 19, 2015, 08:38:09 PM »
I hope Alxandra has a God-bearing geronda to read exorcism prayers for her.

Why?  :)
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #94 on: February 19, 2015, 10:45:36 PM »
Mystical fantasy wife? ...

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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #95 on: February 20, 2015, 01:21:19 AM »
I personally have come to the conclusion that my life would be better off being single. As nice as the whole Love thing of having someone to grow old with and wrap my arms around in bed at night when I cry sounds nice during bouts of depression, I know in my heart of hearts that it's not worth it for me, that deep down I would be happier staying alone. Because with that Love also comes the total monogamy, the children with the dirty diapers, crying, and sleepless nights.

So you are choosing celibacy because you oppose monogamy?

Sometimes you two are pure magic.

I would like to develop a sitcom around you both.

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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #96 on: February 20, 2015, 02:44:34 AM »
I hope Alxandra has a God-bearing geronda to read exorcism prayers for her.

Why?  :)

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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #97 on: February 20, 2015, 06:07:30 AM »
"No one pays attention to the gardener, until something goes missing.  Even Mary Magdalene thought Christ was Jesús, the thieving Mexican gardener. John 20:15."

Made coffee come out of my nose when I first read it, and again today when I re-read.

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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #98 on: February 20, 2015, 06:08:38 AM »
I personally have come to the conclusion that my life would be better off being single. As nice as the whole Love thing of having someone to grow old with and wrap my arms around in bed at night when I cry sounds nice during bouts of depression, I know in my heart of hearts that it's not worth it for me, that deep down I would be happier staying alone. Because with that Love also comes the total monogamy, the children with the dirty diapers, crying, and sleepless nights.

So you are choosing celibacy because you oppose monogamy?

Sometimes you two are pure magic.

I would like to develop a sitcom around you both.

*why was autocorrect insisting that magic be capitalized?

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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #99 on: February 20, 2015, 06:18:48 AM »
I tried internets dating for a few months. Nothing came of it, but then again I'm probably too hard on myself to compose an attractive profile.

I doubt girls will give me the time of day anyhow until I finish losing this weight.
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #100 on: February 20, 2015, 11:35:46 AM »
I tried internets dating for a few months. Nothing came of it, but then again I'm probably too hard on myself to compose an attractive profile.

I doubt girls will give me the time of day anyhow until I finish losing this weight.

It is a numbers game.  Send ten messages, get one response.  Get ten responses, get one date.  Get ten dates, you should be set.

Also, never lower your standards, just inflate the hell out of your ratings.

My ratings are straight up Enron.
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #101 on: February 20, 2015, 11:58:35 AM »
I tried internets dating for a few months. Nothing came of it, but then again I'm probably too hard on myself to compose an attractive profile.

I doubt girls will give me the time of day anyhow until I finish losing this weight.

It is a numbers game.  Send ten messages, get one response.  Get ten responses, get one date.  Get ten dates, you should be set.

Also, never lower your standards, just inflate the hell out of your ratings.

My ratings are straight up Enron.

No, I think your ratings are EC for Early Childhood
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #102 on: February 20, 2015, 12:01:55 PM »
I tried internets dating for a few months. Nothing came of it, but then again I'm probably too hard on myself to compose an attractive profile.

I doubt girls will give me the time of day anyhow until I finish losing this weight.

It is a numbers game.  Send ten messages, get one response.  Get ten responses, get one date.  Get ten dates, you should be set.

Also, never lower your standards, just inflate the hell out of your ratings.

My ratings are straight up Enron.

No, I think your ratings are EC for Early Childhood

That is illegal in most countries.
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #103 on: February 20, 2015, 12:17:22 PM »
...and like the common turd, this thread has gone down the toilet.   ;)
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #104 on: February 20, 2015, 12:25:51 PM »
I value my autonomy and freedom. I like knowing I can wake up at 6:00AM one day and at 4PM on another day with no commitments apart from work and/or college. I like that I don't always have to be looking out for someone such as a wife or children. I like that I can read the Bible at my own time, attend Church whenever I want, and eat lobster for breakfast and waffles for dinner if I wish. I like that I'm not tied down to the misery and stress that married people are cursed with.

Quite so. There's nothing romantic about marriage. Tedious business, all of it. If ever I do get married I'll be sure to forget the fact.

Oh, and of course:


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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #105 on: February 21, 2015, 11:15:46 AM »
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Many couples dream of having a "Christian marriage", or even already have it, and they make the moral of the Church the basis of the conjungal life, but all too often they forget the most basic of the commandments: to forgive.

To forgive everything. To forgive always. To forgive again and again and again. To forgive with all the heart and to redouble the love to the one asking forgiveness, giving consolotion and new hope. To forgive with humility, without putting you above the other, without humilliating someone who's already humilliated. To forgive with joy, knowing that you are not giving anything, but receiving.

If you do not forgive the one you love, how would you forgive anyone else, for goodness sake? And if you do not practice forgiveness, how do you expect to be forgiven some day?

I have been married for 33 years and I can assure you: forgiveness works. There is no "relationship problem", as difficult as it is, that can resist forgiveness. And one day when sexual interest weakens, what comes in its place is of such an immensilly unspeakable sweetness, that it is a foretaste of paradise.
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #106 on: February 21, 2015, 12:07:46 PM »
...and like the common turd, this thread has gone down the toilet.   ;)

Sigh. Remember when people used to like each other? At least a little? That was kinda good.
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #107 on: February 21, 2015, 07:37:28 PM »
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Many couples dream of having a "Christian marriage", or even already have it, and they make the moral of the Church the basis of the conjungal life, but all too often they forget the most basic of the commandments: to forgive.

To forgive everything. To forgive always. To forgive again and again and again. To forgive with all the heart and to redouble the love to the one asking forgiveness, giving consolotion and new hope. To forgive with humility, without putting you above the other, without humilliating someone who's already humilliated. To forgive with joy, knowing that you are not giving anything, but receiving.

If you do not forgive the one you love, how would you forgive anyone else, for goodness sake? And if you do not practice forgiveness, how do you expect to be forgiven some day?

I have been married for 33 years and I can assure you: forgiveness works. There is no "relationship problem", as difficult as it is, that can resist forgiveness. And one day when sexual interest weakens, what comes in its place is of such an immensilly unspeakable sweetness, that it is a foretaste of paradise.
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #108 on: February 21, 2015, 11:35:12 PM »
...and like the common turd, this thread has gone down the toilet.   ;)

Sigh. Remember when people used to like each other? At least a little? That was kinda good.


I had to google a kissing emoticon as I do not feel the new forum one adequately addresses my needs.
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #109 on: February 22, 2015, 01:38:41 AM »
...and like the common turd, this thread has gone down the toilet.   ;)

Sigh. Remember when people used to like each other? At least a little? That was kinda good.


I had to google a kissing emoticon as I do not feel the new forum one adequately addresses my needs.

Too bad you have to look for kisses elsewhere.

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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #110 on: February 22, 2015, 03:43:17 PM »
Things created by desire ... don't exist.

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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #111 on: February 22, 2015, 09:38:03 PM »
...and like the common turd, this thread has gone down the toilet.   ;)

Sigh. Remember when people used to like each other? At least a little? That was kinda good.


I had to google a kissing emoticon as I do not feel the new forum one adequately addresses my needs.

Too bad you have to look for kisses elsewhere.

 :-*
I always accept kisses from you, hecma. Even generic forum emoticon kisses.
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #112 on: February 24, 2015, 10:25:46 AM »
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Many couples dream of having a "Christian marriage", or even already have it, and they make the moral of the Church the basis of the conjungal life, but all too often they forget the most basic of the commandments: to forgive.

To forgive everything. To forgive always. To forgive again and again and again. To forgive with all the heart and to redouble the love to the one asking forgiveness, giving consolotion and new hope. To forgive with humility, without putting you above the other, without humilliating someone who's already humilliated. To forgive with joy, knowing that you are not giving anything, but receiving.

If you do not forgive the one you love, how would you forgive anyone else, for goodness sake? And if you do not practice forgiveness, how do you expect to be forgiven some day?

I have been married for 33 years and I can assure you: forgiveness works. There is no "relationship problem", as difficult as it is, that can resist forgiveness. And one day when sexual interest weakens, what comes in its place is of such an immensilly unspeakable sweetness, that it is a foretaste of paradise.
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #113 on: February 24, 2015, 10:52:01 AM »
Yep. Me too.
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Re: About finding a wife
« Reply #114 on: February 24, 2015, 11:42:22 AM »
I personally have come to the conclusion that my life would be better off being single. As nice as the whole Love thing of having someone to grow old with and wrap my arms around in bed at night when I cry sounds nice during bouts of depression, I know in my heart of hearts that it's not worth it for me, that deep down I would be happier staying alone. Because with that Love also comes the total monogamy, the children with the dirty diapers, crying, and sleepless nights. Basically being an oldest sibling all over again, except this time with my own children. And never having a spare moment of time.

I'm actually the opposite, I think. The more I'm on my own, the more I screw myself up.

I think you're overestimating the necessary hecticness of married life, too. I doubt you'd find a woman who doesn't want some alone time for herself once in a while. And the kids start to grow-up and have more autonomy of their own, as YiM points out.

Either way, I wish you the best.
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