singles?

[winterpascha]

Hi all,
I'm 26. I was just curious if there are any other Orthodox singles, in their 20s, on here? I thought I would open the floor for anyone who wants to air their thoughts and/or woes on this "blessed time of singleness." 

~Seraphim

[rakovsky]

Me single & soon 28

[Theophilos78]

Single at the age of 32.

[ialmisry]

Divorced.  Being single isn't necessarily the worst fate.

[vamrat]

Hi all,
I'm 26. I was just curious if there are any other Orthodox singles, in their 20s, on here? I thought I would open the floor for anyone who wants to air their thoughts and/or woes on this "blessed time of singleness." 

~Seraphim

How does it feel to have free time and a decent bank account?   

[Heorhij]

My niece, Marijka, is single, and Orthodox. She lives in Ukraine, in the city of Luts'k, the capital of the Volyn region in northwestern Ukraine. She is a very, very beautiful girl, a student of the Regional Academy of Management, working for her bachelor's degree, 21 years old, tall, perfect fashion model figure, long blond hair, lapis lazuli eyes. If you are willing to settle in Ukraine, I will be happy to "hook" her with you. I am going to Ukraine tomorrow, will be back to the US on Aug. 1.

[Melodist]

Single at 28.

I thought I would open the floor for anyone who wants to air their thoughts and/or woes on this "blessed time of singleness."  

~Seraphim

Could care less about sharing my thoughts and woes on being single, but then again there is Genesis 2:18.

[jnorm888]

Been single for 2 years. I'm 33

[Shlomlokh]

21 and single. Don't really mind it at all, although one of my room mates from college is getting married on Saturday.

[scamandrius]

Single at 33.  Never married.  May possibly marry the girl I'm with now.  If not, then I think I will head to the monastery for an extended period of discernment.

[Asteriktos]

I missed the cut off ... I'm 31. Thanks for giving me another reason to feel old!  I'm single, sort of a widower, somewhat lonely, but not in any rush to jump back into a relationship at this point.

[jnorm888]

I missed the cut off ... I'm 31. Thanks for giving me another reason to feel old!  I'm single, sort of a widower, somewhat lonely, but not in any rush to jump back into a relationship at this point.

I thought you were married with children?

[Asteriktos]

I missed the cut off ... I'm 31. Thanks for giving me another reason to feel old!  I'm single, sort of a widower, somewhat lonely, but not in any rush to jump back into a relationship at this point.

I thought you were married with children?

My wife and I seperated last July, then she died unexpectedly this past January.

[scamandrius]

^My condolences, Asteriktos.  May your wife's memory be eternal!

[jnorm888]

I missed the cut off ... I'm 31. Thanks for giving me another reason to feel old!   I'm single, sort of a widower, somewhat lonely, but not in any rush to jump back into a relationship at this point.

I thought you were married with children?

My wife and I seperated last July, then she died unexpectedly this past January.

I am sorry to hear that. Please forgive me for asking about it. May her Memory be Eternal!









ICXC NIKA

[Fabio Leite]

May her memory be eternal!

[thetraditionalfrog]

I'm 35 and single... always have been. There have been periods of time in the past it has bothered me. I'd long for a loving wife to talk to and confide in, and children running up to me and yelling "Daddy, Daddy, look what I did in school today!" That's in the past though, I don't think so much about it now. I figure if I'm meant to be married, God will direct. I did the looking thing before, and let's just say I don't have the greatest of luck when it comes to women. Being Orthodox of course makes the possibilities a bit more limited, but I'm not willing to sacrifice my faith for love.

[Benjamin the Red]

22 and single for just over a year now. Dated a girl on-and-off for seven years. I'm glad to say I have friends to spend time with, and work/hobbies to busy myself, but...still lonely sometimes. I've always wanted to be a good husband/father. I'd say it's in the top three, easy, of life goals to accomplish. Long-distance relationship is how my last relationship went, but, the post about the Ukrainian niece, you know the year-old post up there, did catch my eye for a second, lol.

[John of the North]

23 and single.

[Gisasargavak]

23 and single...it's not always that easy, especially when everyone else your age is going out to "clubs" and having different partners every week and then criticise you for not doing the same. Not an easy road at all, and it can be lonesome not only in the area of romance, but as far as friends go as well because many just simply do not understand why I am the way I am, or it is possible that because I take no interest in the mainstream western "culture" and those self-exile myself from my peers...

I'm sure many here have gone or are going through similar situations.

[Kasatkin fan]

27 and single.

[LBK]

Twenty-somethings concerned about their singlehood? Better to remain so than marry the wrong person because of some sort of cultural imperative. I've had to deal with a lad who was in his thirties who was so desperate to marry, that he tied the knot with a "Russian bride". I'm still getting over the damage it did to me. And, for the record, I'm happily married - we were in our mid-to-late thirties at the time, first marriage for both of us.

[orthonorm]

I don't have a girlfriend, but there are a few women who would be upset, if they heard me say that. //;=|

[thetraditionalfrog]

Gisasargavak, I feel much the same way you do. Although I don't envy others my age that go out clubbing or bar hopping... never had any desire for that. Certainly never had any desire for "a new girl" every week either.  I too am very different, or rather unique as I harken back to an older order so to say. I have little interest in most of modern mainstream western culture. This makes it difficult to have friends (no real common ground or interests to put it simply) let alone a relationship. I relate better to people of my grandparents era (WWII generation) than my own. I don't care for pop music, most modern styles of dress, and very little television programming. In fact, I'm tossing my TV out very soon as I rarely use it except for a bit of CNN now and then. Just not worth it. I have tried to do the pop culture thing several times in the past and it was always short lived. I can't fool myself for very long, it's just not me. Yes, it is a hard and lonely way to go at times, but I always have to company of Our Lord and the Saints!  I'm not giving up on finding a wife, but I'm not looking in particular either. I'll leave it up to God.

[LBK]

I'm not giving up on finding a wife, but I'm not looking in particular either. I'll leave it up to God.

Yup. If it's gonna happen, it'll happen.

[augustin717]

I don't have a girlfriend, but there are a few women who would be upset, if they heard me say that. //;=|

Man we are too much alike

[Wyatt]

So...asl everyone?

I'm 23 and single.

[vamrat]

So...asl everyone?

I'm 23 and single.

ASL?  Advanced Squad Leader?  Could be why you're single!   

[thetraditionalfrog]

Advanced Squad Leader... LoL

I'm 35, male, Indianapolis, Indiana

[biro]

Single, female. 38. 

[John Ward]

28 and recently divorced. The whole marriage was pretty messed up... especially since she refused to get married in the Church.

[Kasatkin fan]

So...asl everyone?

I'm 23 and single.

This thread the latest dating service. 

I've stated my age... I'm a male in Alberta.

[CBGardner]

23, single, and happy with it. Knowing the standard I've set I've basically resigned myself to single-hood. I'm not sure where or how I'll ever find a girl who sees the world as I do. Is there even a 23 year old girl who dresses modestly, doesn't fret about her appearance, and likes to banter about bad Netflix movies and then go to bed without any funny business? Plus I feel like I always loose myself in relationships. Hobbies and God keep me as busy as I need to be. And I have one really good friend whom I trust. I've never thought I'd be the dude who eats out by himself and goes to a ball game alone but its not so bad. God fills holes you'd never expect He could.

[Achronos]

God fills holes you'd never expect He could.

That's how I felt when I was single for a time being. It's funny now since I've come to Christ because if my relationship now was to end I wouldn't be so heartbroken because I have Christ who dwells in me.

[biro]

This thread the latest dating service. 

That made me smile. 

[celticfan1888]

Just for you single people.   

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fy8shDCn__8

[CBGardner]

Just for you single people.   

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fy8shDCn__8

Consider my hands up.

 

[IsmiLiora]

23, single, and happy with it. Knowing the standard I've set I've basically resigned myself to single-hood. I'm not sure where or how I'll ever find a girl who sees the world as I do. Is there even a 23 year old girl who dresses modestly, doesn't fret about her appearance, and likes to banter about bad Netflix movies and then go to bed without any funny business? Plus I feel like I always loose myself in relationships. Hobbies and God keep me as busy as I need to be. And I have one really good friend whom I trust. I've never thought I'd be the dude who eats out by himself and goes to a ball game alone but its not so bad. God fills holes you'd never expect He could.

I am glad that you are happy, but those gals do exist (sounds a bit like me, honestly and I have met girls in college that are similar). We asked the same about guys and hey, guess what? You are out there. Now, to have both people hanging out in the same place at the same time...

May God's will be done for you all. 

(An OC.net marriage would be really cool! I'd attend.)

[Poppy]

Blimey can't some of you ppl hook up?? I mean, your all about the same age and your obviously all the same religion sort of. Some of you MUST live near enough to each other or could move if you got on well enough.

If your on your own and you want to be with someone then why not??

[Asteriktos]

I'm still single, so if any of you ladies are looking for an aging, balding, spiritually-confused, extremely poor student, I'm available! 

[thefizzle656]

22 and single for just over a year now. Dated a girl on-and-off for seven years. I'm glad to say I have friends to spend time with, and work/hobbies to busy myself, but...still lonely sometimes. I've always wanted to be a good husband/father. I'd say it's in the top three, easy, of life goals to accomplish. Long-distance relationship is how my last relationship went, but, the post about the Ukrainian niece, you know the year-old post up there, did catch my eye for a second, lol.

Haha, same.  I'm 23 and single and have never had a girlfriend, not even before I became Orthodox.

[Fabio Leite]

Just for you single people.   

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fy8shDCn__8

Consider my hands up.

 

Everytime I hear that song, I remember this now:

[Andrew Crook]

22 and single for just over a year now. Dated a girl on-and-off for seven years. I'm glad to say I have friends to spend time with, and work/hobbies to busy myself, but...still lonely sometimes. I've always wanted to be a good husband/father. I'd say it's in the top three, easy, of life goals to accomplish. Long-distance relationship is how my last relationship went, but, the post about the Ukrainian niece, you know the year-old post up there, did catch my eye for a second, lol.

Haha, same.  I'm 23 and single and have never had a girlfriend, not even before I became Orthodox.

Wow and I thought I was the only one!  I'm 25, and never really did the whole "dating" scene.. -- struggled with self esteem issues a lot, but even now that I'm over that, I'm still just not interested.  I sort of feel like because everybody else around me is dating, getting married, or having kids -- I must be the oddball for not doing the same.  I don't really care to get to know most women beyond anything other than just being a friend.. -- it would be nice to have a female companion of sorts, but at the same time.. I wonder if something like that is really for me.  Or, maybe I should just become a priest.. and then maybe a monk..

[John Ward]

I will say I've learned my lesson. If I ever date/marry in the future, it'll be only an Orthodox girl. I won't even consider anything else. I was talking with my mom and apparently my dad is hoping I'll meet someone at the Church in Korea. My dad is Lebanese and he's not to keen of what he's seen in America or Lebanon. Me? I'm still trying to figure out what God wants for my life, but if it's to be married, I want someone who loves being in Church and wants to raise a family centered around God and the Church. I really don't want anything less than finding someone who is trying to get close to God.

[John of the North]

Everytime I hear that song, I remember this now:

LOL!

[orthonorm]

Sorry ladies, I am too charming and good-looking to go through the effort of some online courtship.

However, if you:

Are Attractive (not "internet attractive").
Are Independently Wealthy.
Have a sense of humor so blue it is black.
And enjoy being around a curmudgeon in public who everyone thinks is an  . . ., but at home you know I cater to those greatest in need (you might a have the occasional schizophrenic, or prostitute, or drug addict  as a house guest) and have the affection and innocence of a child.

I don't like walks on the beach. I don't get amped about the meeting of water and sand.

I'll weep during chick flick in public.
I can cripple pretty much anyone who could cause you harm.

And I probably have more jackets and shoes than you do.

If this is the love connection you have been looking for:

Shoot me an email with a head shot and summary of your financials.

I hope my inbox will able to handle all the traffic.
 

[celticfan1888]

Everytime I hear that song, I remember this now:

LOL FOREVER and Ever

[akimori makoto]

The only romantic action I have had recently was when the fifteen year old work experience girl developed a crush on me and posted about it on facebook.

Kill me now.

[Poppy]

Ok so the women can see what your about..... a random Q for you

Blokes...
Imagine you have a gf and your out on a date with her, some other girl walks by with some 'obvios attractive features' (haha... i don't want to get in trouble) and your gf catches you looking. What do you say to your gf because she is well vexed at you and running her mouth.

Pick the one closest to what youd say

(a) "sorry"

(b) "sorry, but...." 

(c) "I was looking just to make sure i got the best deal and i did"

(d) "Look gf, we live in a world full of "attractive features" and i am a hetro male and unless i am mistaken i am not dead, so as much as i try not to look, there will be times when i might.... so get over yourself and let me deal with it my way and just trust me and stop judging me and get on with dealing with your own self....ie: insecurity!!!"

(e) Lie - "I wasn't looking, you just looked up at the moment my eyes was looking in that general direction."

[Asteriktos]

Ok so the women can see what your about..... a random Q for you

Blokes...
Imagine you have a gf and your out on a date with her, some other girl walks by with some 'obvios attractive features' (haha... i don't want to get in trouble) and your gf catches you looking. What do you say to your gf because she is well vexed at you and running her mouth.

What if my girlfriend was not only not mad at me, but actually was looking at the girl before I was, enjoyed looking at her more, and then was looking long after I had looked away? Should I be mad?

[IsmiLiora]

And I probably have more jackets and shoes than you do.

I think you need to reconsider this line because most women do NOT want to share their closets. 

[IsmiLiora]

The only romantic action I have had recently was when the fifteen year old work experience girl developed a crush on me and posted about it on facebook.

Kill me now.

At one point, a kindergartner (I used to volunteer at an after-school program), told me that he was madly in love with me, brought flowers, and proposed to me. I was single, very single at the time. I was like, "Can you please go out there and tell men about how awesome I am? Thanks."

[thefizzle656]

22 and single for just over a year now. Dated a girl on-and-off for seven years. I'm glad to say I have friends to spend time with, and work/hobbies to busy myself, but...still lonely sometimes. I've always wanted to be a good husband/father. I'd say it's in the top three, easy, of life goals to accomplish. Long-distance relationship is how my last relationship went, but, the post about the Ukrainian niece, you know the year-old post up there, did catch my eye for a second, lol.

Haha, same.  I'm 23 and single and have never had a girlfriend, not even before I became Orthodox.

Wow and I thought I was the only one!  I'm 25, and never really did the whole "dating" scene.. -- struggled with self esteem issues a lot, but even now that I'm over that, I'm still just not interested.  I sort of feel like because everybody else around me is dating, getting married, or having kids -- I must be the oddball for not doing the same.  I don't really care to get to know most women beyond anything other than just being a friend.. -- it would be nice to have a female companion of sorts, but at the same time.. I wonder if something like that is really for me.  Or, maybe I should just become a priest.. and then maybe a monk..

I myself don't want to remain single.  I would really like to meet a girl and get married and the whole thing but a) I'm not and have never been good with girls and b) would only be interested in somebody who is Orthodox, which seems to pretty tough to find these days.  But, I figure that if God intends for me to get married then the girl is out there, I just have to pray and wait for Him to get us together.

[orthonorm]

OK, it sounds like there are a lot of slouches around here.

No fear. After I return from carousing with about 20 women I have never met (watching the Women's World Cup Final with a University Women's soccer team), it looks like I am going to have to help my fellow man with a tips and advice thread about meeting women and more importantly not walking around in a constant state of frustration and lack of confidence.

EDIT: If you are chronically alone, please don't use the God's plan card.

[orthonorm]

And I probably have more jackets and shoes than you do.

I think you need to reconsider this line because most women do NOT want to share their closets. 

I put out so much ammo to be insulted with . . .  You could have gone with the obvious "closet" double entendre to suggest a slight confusion about my sexuality.

[Asteriktos]

OK, it sounds like there are a lot of slouches around here.

No fear. After I return from carousing with about 20 women I have never met (watching the Women's World Cup Final with a University Women's soccer team), it looks like I am going to have to help my fellow man with a tips and advice thread about meeting women and more importantly not walking around in a constant state of frustration and lack of confidence.

What do you mean? I have profiles on several online dating sites! What more can be done? 

[IsmiLiora]

And I probably have more jackets and shoes than you do.

I think you need to reconsider this line because most women do NOT want to share their closets. 

I put out so much ammo to be insulted with . . .  You could have gone with the obvious "closet" double entendre to suggest a slight confusion about my sexuality.

But that would have been sooooo expected.

[Tikhon29605]

Some of us like being single.  I like it a lot.  I used to think about becoming a monk, but the monasteries I have contacted have told me that really aren't eager to accept candidates over 40. I seem to baffle some people at work, who think everyone must be married to be normal and happy. I'd rather be single and be content with it than be stuck in a bad marriage or relationship.

[Wyatt]

22 and single for just over a year now. Dated a girl on-and-off for seven years. I'm glad to say I have friends to spend time with, and work/hobbies to busy myself, but...still lonely sometimes. I've always wanted to be a good husband/father. I'd say it's in the top three, easy, of life goals to accomplish. Long-distance relationship is how my last relationship went, but, the post about the Ukrainian niece, you know the year-old post up there, did catch my eye for a second, lol.

Haha, same.  I'm 23 and single and have never had a girlfriend, not even before I became Orthodox.

Wow and I thought I was the only one!  I'm 25, and never really did the whole "dating" scene.. -- struggled with self esteem issues a lot, but even now that I'm over that, I'm still just not interested.  I sort of feel like because everybody else around me is dating, getting married, or having kids -- I must be the oddball for not doing the same.  I don't really care to get to know most women beyond anything other than just being a friend.. -- it would be nice to have a female companion of sorts, but at the same time.. I wonder if something like that is really for me.  Or, maybe I should just become a priest.. and then maybe a monk..

I'm 23 and have never dated either. In high school I had several friends who were female, but I never had a girlfriend. Since graduating high school, I have sort of become more introverted. I notice that I am not really meeting new people that much, but mostly just hanging around with the same old friends that I made in high school (which is fine, but it doesn't help the girlfriend situation). I'm somewhat torn on how I feel about being single. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have a girlfriend and eventually a wife, but other times I observe people who are married (such as some friends of mine who are a married couple) and see the way they gripe and bicker at each other constantly and it makes me feel like maybe I'm not missing much.

Plus I have a disability and that complicates things because I realize that, if I did date, I would be bringing a lot of baggage to a relationship as a result of that. Obviously, having me as a boyfriend or husband would be significantly different than having an able-bodied guy. I think that is a huge reason why it is hard for me to try. That and the fact that it would be hard for me to gauge whether a girl is dating me because she really likes me or if it's just because she pities me and feels stuck and unable to say no.

[vamrat]

Ok so the women can see what your about..... a random Q for you

Blokes...
Imagine you have a gf and your out on a date with her, some other girl walks by with some 'obvios attractive features' (haha... i don't want to get in trouble) and your gf catches you looking. What do you say to your gf because she is well vexed at you and running her mouth.

Pick the one closest to what youd say

(a) "sorry"

(b) "sorry, but...." 

(c) "I was looking just to make sure i got the best deal and i did"

(d) "Look gf, we live in a world full of "attractive features" and i am a hetro male and unless i am mistaken i am not dead, so as much as i try not to look, there will be times when i might.... so get over yourself and let me deal with it my way and just trust me and stop judging me and get on with dealing with your own self....ie: insecurity!!!"

(e) Lie - "I wasn't looking, you just looked up at the moment my eyes was looking in that general direction."

D then E followed by an immediate subject change.  

[IsmiLiora]

My husband says, "Your hair's pretty." 

I always find myself now scoping out the women and trying to guess which one was going to catch his eye (hello, Insecurity 101). He now thinks that I'm looking at them for different reasons.

[CRCulver]

When I moved to an Orthodox country, I thought all my dating problems would be solved. Unfortunately, though there is an abundance of young single female devout Orthodox, in my experience they go rather too far to the opposite extreme. You meet a girl and then are aghast to find that she believes the bureaucrat hassle du jour is the Mark of the Beast, that our bishop can't be trusted and some rebellious priest from an obscure parish overrules him, and that by having friends from non-Orthodox ethnicities (the Hungarian and German minorities here are typically Catholic or Protestant) I am betraying Orthodoxy.

[CBGardner]

Ok so the women can see what your about..... a random Q for you

Blokes...
Imagine you have a gf and your out on a date with her, some other girl walks by with some 'obvios attractive features' (haha... i don't want to get in trouble) and your gf catches you looking. What do you say to your gf because she is well vexed at you and running her mouth.

Pick the one closest to what youd say

(a) "sorry"

(b) "sorry, but...." 

(c) "I was looking just to make sure i got the best deal and i did"

(d) "Look gf, we live in a world full of "attractive features" and i am a hetro male and unless i am mistaken i am not dead, so as much as i try not to look, there will be times when i might.... so get over yourself and let me deal with it my way and just trust me and stop judging me and get on with dealing with your own self....ie: insecurity!!!"

(e) Lie - "I wasn't looking, you just looked up at the moment my eyes was looking in that general direction."

Ok when are the ladies going to understand that E is a real occurrence!? We're not lying. When something in your field of vision moves you focus on it. Sometimes that's another lady, sometimes it isn't anything. Same situation when you're texting/get a text. We don't care who it is or what you're saying, it just catches the eye. Whew, glad I got that off my chest; its only been 2 years in the making.

I'd be confident too if I had the wit and verbosity of Mr.orthonorm. I have no trouble believing he's a social butterfly outside of this site. Somethings just can't be learned 

[Poppy]

Ok so the women can see what your about..... a random Q for you

Blokes...
Imagine you have a gf and your out on a date with her, some other girl walks by with some 'obvios attractive features' (haha... i don't want to get in trouble) and your gf catches you looking. What do you say to your gf because she is well vexed at you and running her mouth.

What if my girlfriend was not only not mad at me, but actually was looking at the girl before I was, enjoyed looking at her more, and then was looking long after I had looked away? Should I be mad?

haha.... alot of blokes would be thinking wa hay!! But you have to stay inside of your religion 

[Poppy]

My husband says, "Your hair's pretty." 

I always find myself now scoping out the women and trying to guess which one was going to catch his eye (hello, Insecurity 101). He now thinks that I'm looking at them for different reasons.

That don't seem like insecurity to me, it seems like realistic and openess. Making something less of a thing by being open about it or having a laugh about it takes the pressure off don't you think it does??

[John Ward]

I used to think about becoming a monk, but the monasteries I have contacted have told me that really aren't eager to accept candidates over 40.

That's something that worries me. Right now, I'm praying that God will help me discern His will. Going into a monastery is a real possibility but I'll be in my mid-30s before that's a real option. I'm worried about how well that'll go. Not to mention unlearning the whole "I can do whatever I want because I'm a single guy out in the world" mentality. But, I guess if it's God's will, a door will be open and I'll just have to be smart enough to take it.

[IsmiLiora]

My husband says, "Your hair's pretty." 

I always find myself now scoping out the women and trying to guess which one was going to catch his eye (hello, Insecurity 101). He now thinks that I'm looking at them for different reasons.

That don't seem like insecurity to me, it seems like realistic and openess. Making something less of a thing by being open about it or having a laugh about it takes the pressure off don't you think it does??

Yeah, we actually do joke about it now. (We've had some issues on the past in both sides, but have dealt with them accordingly...not easy, BTW, not easy at all.) I am a pretty insecure person, though, especially when it comes to my looks. As a former anorexic who was diagnosed with a chronic illness and gained weight after...not secure at all.

[Poppy]

My husband says, "Your hair's pretty." 

I always find myself now scoping out the women and trying to guess which one was going to catch his eye (hello, Insecurity 101). He now thinks that I'm looking at them for different reasons.

That don't seem like insecurity to me, it seems like realistic and openess. Making something less of a thing by being open about it or having a laugh about it takes the pressure off don't you think it does??

Yeah, we actually do joke about it now. (We've had some issues on the past in both sides, but have dealt with them accordingly...not easy, BTW, not easy at all.) I am a pretty insecure person, though, especially when it comes to my looks. As a former anorexic who was diagnosed with a chronic illness and gained weight after...not secure at all.

blimey thats rough. you have obviously worked thru a tonne of stuff then and have got strength and determination as a person which isn't easy, i know because i had to do similer graft as well. But i hope you are proud (in a good way) of who you are because i am of me and i think people should be when they have been through bumps and there spirit inside them isn't broken. I always tell myself that noone is going to tell me how i feel about myself...except ME haha....and so nothing can ever be taken from me then.
You sound like a amazing woman IsmiLiora

[primuspilus]

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[Tikhon.of.Colorado]

The only romantic action I have had recently was when the fifteen year old work experience girl developed a crush on me and posted about it on facebook.

Kill me now.

At one point, a kindergartner (I used to volunteer at an after-school program), told me that he was madly in love with me, brought flowers, and proposed to me. I was single, very single at the time. I was like, "Can you please go out there and tell men about how awesome I am? Thanks."

lol!

Once, after mission vespers, my priest's family kindly took me out to dinner.  His 4 year old daughter asked me to be her boyfriend, and I didn't have the heart to say no 

[gonefishing]

You have to be in your 20s?  Ums-kay.  Where's the old people singles thread then?

[casisthename]

single , soon to be 21. Yes, I had the infamous conversion break up about a year and a half ago. Yes, young single Orthodox women exist. I find it funny how many Orthodox guys seem to think we're an endangered species...I sure haven't had any make any attempts though that could be because most of the guys at my church are already out of college.

[vamrat]

single , soon to be 21. Yes, I had the infamous conversion break up about a year and a half ago. Yes, young single Orthodox women exist. I find it funny how many Orthodox guys seem to think we're an endangered species...I sure haven't had any make any attempts though that could be because most of the guys at my church are already out of college.

That's why they seem like they are an endangered species.  At my church one hasn't graduated high school and the other graduated college about when I graduated high school...not that I let that stop me from making the attempt on the older of the two!     The rest are married. 

Oh well, there are plenty of heretics out there, and if you want to meet someone who actually has a personality there are plenty of agnostics!

[JamesR]

Single hyperdox male, 16, from California. Extremely bigoted in his views that Protestantism is the source of all evil in the world. Currently unemployed living with parents in apartment, struggles with violent outbursts of Donald Duck-like rage from time to time. I'd say I'm a catch.

...that by having friends from non-Orthodox ethnicities...Protestant...I am betraying Orthodoxy.

They sound perfect for me! Finally someone who will appreciate my hyperdoxy!

[KBN1]

32 and single.  Entirely my doing.  I've made peace with it mostly.  My brother-in-law's grandmother finds me to be "very handsome" so I have that going for me.

[bytania]

Wow...I am actually surprised by the number of 23 year olders hehehe! I too am single, 28 year old female, and I TOO have learnt my lesson to never ever date a non-orthodox . This year is the first time I've been single in the past 8 years, but I must say, as much as I HATE it, I definitely am learning a lot about myself and what I want.

Bytania

[Achronos]

Single hyperdox male, 16, from California. Extremely bigoted in his views that Protestantism is the source of all evil in the world. Currently unemployed living with parents in apartment, struggles with violent outbursts of Donald Duck-like rage from time to time. I'd say I'm a catch.

Serious or not but I seriously LOL'd

[Anastasia1]

Single. Late 20s. Getting to a point where I really want a serious relationship that can result in marriage in the next few years.

[Asteriktos]

Come back poppy! Please!

[Melodist]

Single. Late 20s. Getting to a point where I really want a serious relationship that can result in marriage in the next few years.

You close to Cininnati?

[Golgotha]

American male order bridegroom here! I'm willing to learn Russian.

[KBN1]

Single. Late 20s. Getting to a point where I really want a serious relationship that can result in marriage in the next few years.

You close to Cininnati?

I think she is closer to Ceaveland.

[Anastasia1]

Single. Late 20s. Getting to a point where I really want a serious relationship that can result in marriage in the next few years.

You close to Cininnati?

I think she is closer to Ceaveland.

I'm a west coast girl.

[Achronos]

Single. Late 20s. Getting to a point where I really want a serious relationship that can result in marriage in the next few years.

You close to Cininnati?

I think she is closer to Ceaveland.

I'm a worst coast girl.

Oh

[Anastasia1]

Single. Late 20s. Getting to a point where I really want a serious relationship that can result in marriage in the next few years.

You close to Cininnati?

I think she is closer to Ceaveland.

I'm a best coast girl.

Ooh!

Yep.

[dzheremi]

Haha. Nice edit, Anastasia.

I suppose I should post in this thread while I still can, since I'll be 30 in about a month.

Me: 29, very new to Orthodoxy (baptized in May), living in the desert paradise of Albuquerque NM for the next year or so while I write up a dissertation on Coptic language reform and related issues. Already learned and mostly forgot Russian. Willing to remember it again, though chances are it's less popular with Armenian women than it used to be, and I won't go EO for love. Also speak Spanish, and can probably manage enough Arabic on a good day to get into a hilarious misunderstanding-based fight with the wait staff at the local Middle Eastern restaurant. I like to cook and enjoy books on Church history and hagiographies, documentaries and pretentious foreign films.

You: Must love God and pugs. Everything else is negotiable.

This thread is a glorified singles classified section, isn't it?

[Asteriktos]

I'm still single, so if any of you ladies are looking for an aging, balding, spiritually-confused, extremely poor student, I'm available! 

I'm no longer available, sorry to break it to you girls!

[Achronos]

Single. Late 20s. Getting to a point where I really want a serious relationship that can result in marriage in the next few years.

You close to Cininnati?

I think she is closer to Ceaveland.

I'm a best coast girl.

Ooh!

Yep.

We have one thing in common already, our liking of Mou.

[Anastasia1]

Haha. Nice edit, Anastasia.

Thanks.

I suppose I should post in this thread while I still can, since I'll be 30 in about a month.

Me: 29, very new to Orthodoxy (baptized in May), living in the desert paradise of Albuquerque NM for the next year or so while I write up a dissertation on Coptic language reform and related issues. Already learned and mostly forgot Russian. Willing to remember it again, though chances are it's less popular with Armenian women* than it used to be, and I won't go EO for love. Also speak Spanish, and can probably manage enough Arabic on a good day to get into a hilarious misunderstanding-based fight with the wait staff at the local Middle Eastern restaurant. I like to cook and enjoy books on Church history and hagiographies, documentaries and pretentious foreign films.

You: Must love God and pugs. Everything else is negotiable.

I had to laugh when I read pretentious foreign films.

This thread is a glorified singles classified section, isn't it?

Oh please, honey, I would have sold myself a lot more if I was answering for a classified section here.

[Anastasia1]

Single. Late 20s. Getting to a point where I really want a serious relationship that can result in marriage in the next few years.

You close to Cininnati?

I think she is closer to Ceaveland.

I'm a best coast girl.

Ooh!

Yep.

We have one thing in common already, our liking of Mou.

Yeah, but that alone does not make one a special one.

[NicholasMyra]

I'm no longer available, sorry to break it to you girls!

"Giving yourself to the Gospel" doesn't count, Asteriktos.

[Asteriktos]

I'm no longer available, sorry to break it to you girls!

"Giving yourself to the Gospel" doesn't count, Asteriktos.

Hey! I like that... nice phrase... I'm totally gonna use that 

[Melodist]

I'm a west coast girl.

 

[kevlev]

I'm a west coast girl.

 

DHL ships coast to coast and around the world...

[Hiwot]

I'm a west coast girl.

 

DHL ships coast to coast and around the world...

[orthonorm]

I'm a west coast girl.

 

DHL ships coast to coast and around the world...

And the Germans have the most experience of the handling of human cargo.

The Eastern Europeans have never been so efficient.

[orthonorm]

I'm no longer available, sorry to break it to you girls!

"Giving yourself to the Gospel" doesn't count, Asteriktos.

Hey! I like that... nice phrase... I'm totally gonna use that 

No dude.

To the Christian woman . . .

And I thought Jesus preached the Good News till I met you.

It's the Colt 45 of the evo circuit.

[Melodist]

I'm a west coast girl.

DHL ships coast to coast and around the world...

I've had enough experience with organizations who are more than happy to ship to the west coast and possibly around the world.

[Asteriktos]

I'm still single, so if any of you ladies are looking for an aging, balding, spiritually-confused, extremely poor student, I'm available! 

I'm no longer available, sorry to break it to you girls!

This is no longer true, but you girls should be forewarned: I am saving myself for the right person! If you think you are that person please PM me with a proposal as to how we should proceed. Thank you for your time!

[Theophilos78]

Turning 35 in a couple of months, but still single and proud! 

[NicholasMyra]

This is no longer true, but you girls should be forewarned: I am saving myself for the right person! If you think you are that person please PM me with a proposal as to how we should proceed. Thank you for your time!

Pour vous:

[JamesR]

I've said it before, and I'll say it again; the Evangelical purity-ring wearing woman is perhaps the most insane, frightening woman you could end up with (next to Rosie O'Donnell). They are the kind who will ask about marriage on the first date, expect to be treated like royalty by you, and want to introduce you to their equally insane family and talk about having six kids someday.

[augustin717]

I've said it before, and I'll say it again; the Evangelical purity-ring wearing woman is perhaps the most insane, frightening woman you could end up with (next to Rosie O'Donnell). They are the kind who will ask about marriage on the first date, expect to be treated like royalty by you, and want to introduce you to their equally insane family and talk about having six kids someday.

3 girls of that sort -Korean I think- are sitting and giggling  at this moment behind me in the coffee-shop;  they just got out of church apparently. they aren't frightening, although, not that far from insane probably; and as I pass by the Moody church every day on my way to work, yesterday I noticed a sign there that read "the high price of sexual purity". some talk series .

[Romaios]

Pour vous:

The Orthodox version (I've seen a guy wear it):

[Asteriktos]

This is no longer true, but you girls should be forewarned: I am saving myself for the right person! If you think you are that person please PM me with a proposal as to how we should proceed. Thank you for your time!

Pour vous:

I'm glad to see that my post is evoking the right images in yuns guys minds!

[Karaleighmum]

20, almost 21, single mama. Tell you what, I now understand why it is a sin to do that sorta thing out of wedlock. It's hard raising a baby without a husband! But God is really guiding us, Glory Be.

[NicholasMyra]

The Orthodox version (I've seen a guy wear it):

NO! It even has a heart!

[That person]

I've said it before, and I'll say it again; the Evangelical purity-ring wearing woman is perhaps the most insane, frightening woman you could end up with (next to Rosie O'Donnell). They are the kind who will ask about marriage on the first date, expect to be treated like royalty by you, and want to introduce you to their equally insane family and talk about having six kids someday.

A girl I know used to wear one, but she was allergic to the nickel. That's pretty much the opposite of an STD. She turned out not to be like that though. Wind up wasting the better part of high school after her. And I for one am cool with having lots of kids. Maybe that's the sort of girl I ought to look into. Still single at 18 currently.

[William]

Romaios, what is that?

[Achronos]

I've said it before, and I'll say it again; the Evangelical purity-ring wearing woman is perhaps the most insane, frightening woman you could end up with (next to Rosie O'Donnell). They are the kind who will ask about marriage on the first date, expect to be treated like royalty by you, and want to introduce you to their equally insane family and talk about having six kids someday.

Well if they are honest, that's a good thing.

Well I mean being honest with what they want.

[JamesR]

I just want a woman that's decently attractive, doesn't carry too much emotional baggage, can cook and won't interfere too much in my religious life.

[Achronos]

I just want a woman that's decently attractive, doesn't carry too much emotional baggage, can cook and won't interfere too much in my religious life.

You should look at online dating.

[That person]

I just want a woman that's decently attractive, doesn't carry too much emotional baggage, can cook and won't interfere too much in my religious life.

Does a man work? Because I could be your roommate, and you could keep the blowup doll, and we'd be all covered really.

[Achronos]

I just want a woman that's decently attractive, doesn't carry too much emotional baggage, can cook and won't interfere too much in my religious life.

Does a man work? Because I could be your roommate, and you could keep the blowup doll, and we'd be all covered really.

This might be the best suggestion yet James.

[Romaios]

Romaios, what is that?

It's a St. Catherine's ring people get after visiting her monastery at Sinai and worshiping her relics.

[Dominika]

I'm a single, if somebody cares

But, seriously, I know that most of you OC.net's guys are from USA, so it doesn't make any sense

[vamrat]

Dominika, you're pretty enough to move to Poland for.  A guy might even get a double offer and could be friends with Pan Michal as well.

But alas.  Vamrat is no longer single.

Please ladies, no one kill yourself.  There are other, though obviously less perfect, men out there.  You'll find some cheap knockoff of me someday.  Whilst enjoying what should be marital bliss you'll while away your hours pining over what could have been between y'all and I.  At least you'll have the phantasies of me to keep you warm at night while the unfashionable oafs you've found yourselves shackled to snore away the best years of your life.

I love you all.

Goodbye and adieu.

[NicholasMyra]

Romaios, what is that?

It's a St. Catherine's ring people get after visiting her monastery at Sinai and worshiping her relics.

So it's not really intended for "purity-keeping" in the evangelical sense then.

It still made my day.

[Romaios]

Romaios, what is that?

It's a St. Catherine's ring people get after visiting her monastery at Sinai and worshiping her relics.

So it's not really intended for "purity-keeping" in the evangelical sense then.

It still made my day.

The one St. Catherine received as a token of her mystical engagement to Christ was, sort of. She refused all her suitors, saving herself for her Bridegroom. 

The person I've seen wearing one was named Cătălin, so St. Catherine was his patron (matron?) Saint. He must have visited her monastery and got it there.

[William]

A guy whose name is more or less Katelyn.

[NicholasMyra]

The one St. Catherine received as a token of her mystical engagement to Christ was, sort of. She refused all her suitors, saving herself for her Bridegroom.  

Then there was Catherine of Sienna, who received a... "ring" as a token of her mystical engagement...

[Romaios]

A guy whose name is more or less Katelyn.

It's quite common in Romania. The female version of Cătălin is Cătălina.

There's also Ecaterina, Caterina, Catrina, with all sorts of short forms: Cati, Catița, Catrinel.

[Romaios]

The one St. Catherine received as a token of her mystical engagement to Christ was, sort of. She refused all her suitors, saving herself for her Bridegroom.  

Then there was Catherine of Sienna, who received a... "ring" as a token of her mystical engagement...

Once St. Catherine of Alexandria got hers, all consecrated Virgins in the West wanted one. I think Catholic nuns get a ring along with the veil and habit. Bishops wear them, too. 

[Asteriktos]

Romaios, what is that?

It's a St. Catherine's ring people get after visiting her monastery at Sinai and worshiping her relics.

So it's not really intended for "purity-keeping" in the evangelical sense then.

Nonsense! We shall take the ring and "baptize it" for use as a purity ring. So let it be written, so let it be done!

[JamesR]

So are there any females on here who would be willing to marry a somewhat younger man in a couple years? Attractive females only.

[SolEX01]

So are there any females on here who would be willing to marry a somewhat younger man in a couple years? Attractive females only.

There's always GOYA and you would have to worship at your nearest Greek Orthodox church.  Other Orthodox Churches have similar youth programs.

The mission and goal of GOYA ministry is to lead our young people into experiencing the Holy Orthodox Faith. By developing a personal relationship with our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ and becoming active sacramental members of the living Church, our young people will be equipped with tools necessary to assist them in their journey toward salvation. GOYA is an opportunity for Orthodox kids ages 13-18 to get together and do things from helping the community to taking trips just for the fun of it. Goyans can learn leadership skills, how to work as a team, and that our church is always there for us.

http://www.holytrinitygoc.org/ministries/goya/

I just think back to the GOYA Presidents of the last 15 years at my church who married interfaith (no evidence that the grooms were chrismated or converted to Orthodoxy).  Since you're a diehard Orthodox Christian, you can help reverse the trend.  I wish you good luck.

[Alpo]

I'm a single, if somebody cares

But, seriously, I know that most of you OC.net's guys are from USA, so it doesn't make any sense

For the sake of all good, don't give them ideas! Poland will be overrun by desperate Hyperdox singles.

[Asteriktos]

^ Post + that picture equals pure win

Not that I don't want to move to Poland now... 

[Dominika]

^ Post + that picture equals pure win

Yeah, I burst out laughing seeing this

For the sake of all good, don't give them ideas! Poland will be overrun by desperate Hyperdox singles.

But all Orthodox men would be warmly welcomed here. I think there is a lack of believer and practicing Ortodox men  I would calm down them  (or maybe:  )

Not that I don't want to move to Poland now... 

I think there a lot of single, nice and atrractive Orthodox women in Poland (of course including me kidding a bit), so, why not?

[JamesR]

Dominika, could you find me an Orthodox wife from Poland? I'm not too picky; as long as she's at least decently attractive, not too materialistic and is a practicing Orthodox Christian (not a Cradle Christopher), I'd be happy.

[Achronos]

Dominika, could you find me an Orthodox wife from Poland? I'm not too picky; as long as she's at least decently attractive, not too materialistic and is a practicing Orthodox Christian (not a Cradle Christopher), I'd be happy.

Michal Kalina has a sister...

[JamesR]

Dominika, could you find me an Orthodox wife from Poland? I'm not too picky; as long as she's at least decently attractive, not too materialistic and is a practicing Orthodox Christian (not a Cradle Christopher), I'd be happy.

Michal Kalina has a sister...

Yeah I saw in the pictures thread....she isn't half bad. Not bad at all.

[Achronos]

Dominika, could you find me an Orthodox wife from Poland? I'm not too picky; as long as she's at least decently attractive, not too materialistic and is a practicing Orthodox Christian (not a Cradle Christopher), I'd be happy.

Michal Kalina has a sister...

Yeah I saw in the pictures thread....she isn't half bad. Not bad at all.

Well as long as its a step up from the blow-up doll.

[JamesR]

Dominika, could you find me an Orthodox wife from Poland? I'm not too picky; as long as she's at least decently attractive, not too materialistic and is a practicing Orthodox Christian (not a Cradle Christopher), I'd be happy.

Michal Kalina has a sister...

Yeah I saw in the pictures thread....she isn't half bad. Not bad at all.

Well as long as its a step up from the blow-up doll.

Hey, you talk nicer about Michael Kalina's sister! That's my future wife 

[Achronos]

Dominika, could you find me an Orthodox wife from Poland? I'm not too picky; as long as she's at least decently attractive, not too materialistic and is a practicing Orthodox Christian (not a Cradle Christopher), I'd be happy.

Michal Kalina has a sister...

Yeah I saw in the pictures thread....she isn't half bad. Not bad at all.

Well as long as its a step up from the blow-up doll.

Hey, you talk nicer about Michael Kalina's sister! That's my future wife 

If Michal approves to do a little Photoshoppin'...

[JamesR]

I have to get a picture of myself in order for Michael to give to her, anyone here good at photoshop? Maybe take my face and put it on the body of the guy on the cover of those muscle/fitness magazines?

[Achronos]

Yeah I could do it, I just need a good headshot of you though. Maybe have the lighting facing directly on your face.

Although yours is gonna have to wait. I have something much more important to work on at the moment that came up a few weeks ago.

[Karaleighmum]

this is definitely one of the funnier threads i've seen thus far

[Trebor135]

I'm twenty-two, a guy, and living in Ontario, Canada.

It's going to be hard finding potential candidates for marriage, since I'm converting to Eastern Orthodoxy in a pretty secular country where the Christians in large numbers are Catholic and Protestant and I'd like the household not to be divided at all in matters of faith. Plus, I'm still in university and not entirely sure what I want to do with my life. Under the right circumstances, a girlfriend might be nice to have, but I'm not staying awake thinking about how lonely I am or anything. Not having access to the sacraments yet is far more important to me.

[Alpo]

I have to get a picture of myself in order for Michael to give to her, anyone here good at photoshop? Maybe take my face and put it on the body of the guy on the cover of those muscle/fitness magazines?

Glad to help an Orthodox brother in need. Here you are:

[Dominika]

this is definitely one of the funnier threads i've seen thus far

Actually, it's very serious thread. Everybody here try to not be alone The thing is that the posts are quite funny, but the topic itself not really

I have to get a picture of myself in order for Michael to give to her, anyone here good at photoshop? Maybe take my face and put it on the body of the guy on the cover of those muscle/fitness magazines?

Glad to help an Orthodox brother in need. Here you are:

Women don't like men like this 

[Alpo]

Women don't like men like this 

I completely understand that. The smile is really over the top.

James, you might want to work on that before you move to Poland. Remember Orthodox hesychia.

[Anastasia1]

Turning 35 in a couple of months, but still single and proud! 

Yes, but are you a tall, handsome US citizen?

[Anastasia1]

this is definitely one of the funnier threads i've seen thus far

Actually, it's very serious thread. Everybody here try to not be alone The thing is that the posts are quite funny, but the topic itself not really

Sincerity and humanity makes for the best of comedy.

And you are right. Giant muscles that big are gross. That guy probably has no life outside of the gym-no time for his woman either.

[Asteriktos]

And you are right. Giant muscles that big are gross. That guy probably has no life outside of the gym-no time for his woman either.

I bet he's also gay, vain, is on steroids, is dumb, has small-man complex, and also has a small male sexual organ.

[JamesR]

One look at my "male sexual organs" is probably enough to hook any woman....or send her running for the hills.

[Cyrillic]

One look at my "male sexual organs" is probably enough to hook any woman....or send her running for the hills.

Plural?

[sheenj]

One look at my "male sexual organs" is probably enough to hook any woman....or send her running for the hills.

Plural?

Do I need to bust out the anatomy charts?

[Schultz]

At a recent gig I was playing, a man came up to the door and asked my friend's band War On Women were playing (FYI, they're a pretty aggressive feminist punk rock band).  When informed that they were, he replied, "Hm, I can't get behind that.  They're too hermaphroditic for my tastes," and then left.

JamesR may have just become too hermaphroditic for this board's tastes.

[Cyrillic]

Oh wait, you silly Americans count those as being two sexual organs.

[sheenj]

Oh wait, you silly Americans count those as being two sexual organs.

You're still forgetting the biggest (hehehe) member of the group...

[Cyrillic]

THREE?! 

[Hiwot]

Women don't like men like this 

Thank you!

[sheenj]

THREE?! 

Wait that's not normal?

[Cyrillic]

I...uhm...uhhh

[Hiwot]

At a recent gig I was playing, a man came up to the door and asked my friend's band War On Women were playing (FYI, they're a pretty aggressive feminist punk rock band).  When informed that they were, he replied, "Hm, I can't get behind that.  They're too hermaphroditic for my tastes," and then left.

JamesR may have just become too hermaphroditic for this board's tastes.

LOL

[Hiwot]

I...uhm...uhhh

[JamesR]

Oh wait, you silly Americans count those as being two sexual organs.

Pretty much, yeah--sometimes even THREE!

[Anastasia1]

Do I quote Master of Disguise on party hors d'oeuvres now or not...

[KBN1]

Do I quote Master of Disguise on party hors d'oeuvres now or not...

Wait, you can quote Master of Disguise?

[Anastasia1]

Do I quote Master of Disguise on party hors d'oeuvres now or not...

Wait, you can quote Master of Disguise?

Well, this is what came to mind when I last read this thread. "Do you have a little wiener and some tiny nuts?"
http://youtu.be/RRa2B4-NLbI

[That person]

One look at my "male sexual organs" is probably enough to hook any woman....or send her running for the hills.

Is anyone else puzzled by the quotation marks here?

[Aindriú]

One look at my "male sexual organs" is probably enough to hook any woman....or send her running for the hills.

Is anyone else puzzled by the quotation marks here?

JamesR is actually an octopus, and that's not even his final form.

[William]

One look at my "male sexual organs" is probably enough to hook any woman....or send her running for the hills.

Is anyone else puzzled by the quotation marks here?

I gotta admit I laughed at this one.

[biro]

One look at my "male sexual organs" is probably enough to hook any woman....or send her running for the hills.

Is anyone else puzzled by the quotation marks here?

JamesR is actually an octopus, and that's not even his final form.

Oh dear 

Makes me think of the Gamera movies for some reason.

[Nadege]

I've said it before, and I'll say it again; the Evangelical purity-ring wearing woman is perhaps the most insane, frightening woman you could end up with (next to Rosie O'Donnell). They are the kind who will ask about marriage on the first date, expect to be treated like royalty by you, and want to introduce you to their equally insane family and talk about having six kids someday.

I am 34 and divorced and love my purity ring.  Not only I'm actually not practicing extramarital sex, but it also looks just like a standard silver wedding band and keeps (most) men from bothering me.

[NicholasMyra]

For JamesR:

http://forgivenjewelry.com/chastity-and-abstinence-rings/true-love-waits-spanish-gold-finish-sizes-6-9

[NicholasMyra]

[Nadege]

Wow, beautiful!

[Tikhon.of.Colorado]

I just want a woman that's decently attractive, doesn't carry too much emotional baggage, can cook and won't interfere too much in my religious life.

James, you remind me of a funny event.  At Orthodox summer camp, the priests were talking to us about our future spouses.  We were to say things we would want in a spouse, and one of the boys said they wanted a girl that was "submissive."  The tension after that comment could be cut with a knife.  Let me tell you, the girls didn't talk to him for the rest of camp!

In other news, this thread gives me so many giggles.  I miss ismi, though.  I wonder if she's still active here.

[vamrat]

I just want a woman that's decently attractive, doesn't carry too much emotional baggage, can cook and won't interfere too much in my religious life.

James, you remind me of a funny event.  At Orthodox summer camp, the priests were talking to us about our future spouses.  We were to say things we would want in a spouse, and one of the boys said they wanted a girl that was "submissive."  The tension after that comment could be cut with a knife.  Let me tell you, the girls didn't talk to him for the rest of camp!

In other news, this thread gives me so many giggles.  I miss ismi, though.  I wonder if she's still active here.

The word submissive has taken on different connotations.  It's generally thought of as a bad thing.  Perhaps the poor bloke just thought he was using it the biblical way where the man is in charge in the relationship.  I highly doubt he was looking for a BDSM partner at an Orthodox summer camp.

And I share in the Ismi missing.

[Asteriktos]

I highly doubt he was looking for a BDSM partner at an Orthodox summer camp.

Really. There are already perfectly good websites for that!

[Alpo]

I highly doubt he was looking for a BDSM partner at an Orthodox summer camp.

Really. There are already perfectly good websites for that!

For finding Orthodox BDSM partners?

[Asteriktos]

I highly doubt he was looking for a BDSM partner at an Orthodox summer camp.

Really. There are already perfectly good websites for that!

For finding Orthodox BDSM partners?

Sure, I know a fetish/bdsm site that has an Orthodox discussion group on it. Though the numbers are currently rather low.

[Cyrillic]

I highly doubt he was looking for a BDSM partner at an Orthodox summer camp.

Really. There are already perfectly good websites for that!

For finding Orthodox BDSM partners?

Sure, I know a fetish/bdsm site that has an Orthodox discussion group on it. Though the numbers are currently rather low.

 

[Alpo]

Eww! Too much information!

[augustin717]

I highly doubt he was looking for a BDSM partner at an Orthodox summer camp.

Really. There are already perfectly good websites for that!

For finding Orthodox BDSM partners?

Sure, I know a fetish/bdsm site that has an Orthodox discussion group on it. Though the numbers are currently rather low.

Is it about wearing tortuously long headscarves?

[Alpo]

I don't recognize augustin717's posts anymore due to such a light-colored avatar. I want vintage photographs back!

[Romaios]

Is it about wearing tortuously long headscarves?

More likely:

[JamesR]

I'm not too picky; I just want an Orthodox woman who sees me as God in her eyes and will submit to me and obey everything I say.

/misogynist redneck

[NicholasMyra]

I'm not too picky; I just want an Orthodox woman who sees me as God in her eyes and will submit to me and obey everything I say.

/misogynist redneck

James, you're a swell human, I am sure you will find a nice, submissive helpmeet quasi-human to lead someday.

[JamesR]

I wouldn't mind marrying a Vietnamese woman; judging from my experience with them, they're some of the most submissive, kind and reliable women I have ever met.

[sheenj]

I wouldn't mind marrying a Vietnamese woman; judging from my experience with them, they're some of the most submissive, kind and reliable women I have ever met.

Plus, she'll love you long time!
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I'll see myself out now.

[orthonorm]

I'm not too picky; I just want an Orthodox woman who sees me as God in her eyes and will submit to me and obey everything I say.

/misogynist redneck

James, you're a swell human, I am sure you will find a nice, submissive helpmeet quasi-human to lead someday.

I wouldn't mind marrying a Vietnamese woman; judging from my experience with them, they're some of the most submissive, kind and reliable women I have ever met.

James, you are one of a kind! Don't eva change!

Enjoy being single singular for forever.

<3

othornorm 2013!!!!!!

[Cyrillic]

JamesR, I think I can speak from experience if I say women don't appreciate remarks like that.

[That person]

I feel like ethnicity probably isn't something that should be among your first considerations.

[JamesR]

I feel like ethnicity probably isn't something that should be among your first considerations.

Why not? Second to religion, I don't see why it shouldn't. You could infer a lot about what a person's personality and behavior will probably be like due to their ethnicity. This is one of the reasons why I would always take an Asian or Hispanic woman over a White or Black woman (no offense to them, they're just not my type).

[orthonorm]

I feel like ethnicity probably isn't something that should be among your first considerations.

Why not? Second to religion, I don't see why it shouldn't. You could infer a lot about what a person's personality and behavior will probably be like due to their ethnicity. This is one of the reasons why I would always take an Asian or Hispanic woman over a White or Black woman (no offense to them, they're just not my type).

Enjoy!*














*Sorry Isa, I know this is your territory, so to speak, and I don't pretend to begin to even rise to the lowest contour line of your greatness.

[dzheremi]

I didn't know you had so many choices, James. Of course there's nothing wrong with having preferences, but I hope they're not based on stereotypes of how someone will or should act because of their race or background. (Which, frankly, I don't know how they couldn't be, because "Asian", "Black", "White", "Hispanic", etc. aren't personality or behavioral types.)

[vamrat]

I wouldn't mind marrying a Vietnamese woman; judging from my experience with them, they're some of the most submissive, kind and reliable women I have ever met.

They're cute alright, but don't ever tick them off!

[JamesR]

...because "Asian", "Black", "White", "Hispanic", etc. aren't personality or behavioral types.)

I highly disagree with you, but out of respect, I'll take what you've said into consideration.

[dzheremi]

Well, maybe I could explain myself a little better, too. My point isn't that you can't say that such-and-such a people are a certain way based on your experience with members of that cultural/ethnic/whatever group, but that being able to do that doesn't mean that subsequent people you meet from the group should conform to that way of acting. I've known Asians who were submissive, but many others who weren't. It's really only an issue anyway if people start thinking "I want a wife/husband of X background because people of X background are _____ (some stereotype)". which unfortunately seems pretty common, and not limited to dating, either (e.g., my grandmother, Hispanic, complained that African American nurses at the recovery center she stayed at after shoulder surgery were not good people, and she would rather have a Hispanic nurse because "we know how to treat our old people"...and then she'd wink at me like we had some sort of special racist decoder ring bond or something...ugh. This is not a good way to relate to people, is all I mean.)

[Cyrillic]

What's wrong with white women?

[JamesR]

What's wrong with white women?

In America? Spoiled, materialistic, oftentimes b-wordy, not too smart, carry the most emotional baggage...

[JamesR]

Well, maybe I could explain myself a little better, too. My point isn't that you can't say that such-and-such a people are a certain way based on your experience with members of that cultural/ethnic/whatever group, but that being able to do that doesn't mean that subsequent people you meet from the group should conform to that way of acting. I've known Asians who were submissive, but many others who weren't. It's really only an issue anyway if people start thinking "I want a wife/husband of X background because people of X background are _____ (some stereotype)". which unfortunately seems pretty common, and not limited to dating, either (e.g., my grandmother, Hispanic, complained that African American nurses at the recovery center she stayed at after shoulder surgery were not good people, and she would rather have a Hispanic nurse because "we know how to treat our old people"...and then she'd wink at me like we had some sort of special racist decoder ring bond or something...ugh. This is not a good way to relate to people, is all I mean.)

You make a good point. Okay let me rephrase my statement; I observe more desirable traits for a partner among my own Hispanic kind and among Asians, and observe more less desirable traits among Black and White women. While these traits may not be related to their race and/or ethnic background, I do observe them more among certain groups.

[orthonorm]

What's wrong with white women?

carry the most emotional baggage...

Something that might come in handy for you to place your own carry-on emotions in.

[Asteriktos]

This thread: the gift that keeps on giving! 

[JamesR]

What's wrong with white women?

carry the most emotional baggage...

Something that might come in handy for you to place your own carry-on emotions in.

In retrospect, maybe I need a hardcore, abusive Black woman to smack the emotions out of me.

[That person]

Violent, abusive people come in all colors.

[Schultz]

Well, maybe I could explain myself a little better, too. My point isn't that you can't say that such-and-such a people are a certain way based on your experience with members of that cultural/ethnic/whatever group, but that being able to do that doesn't mean that subsequent people you meet from the group should conform to that way of acting. I've known Asians who were submissive, but many others who weren't. It's really only an issue anyway if people start thinking "I want a wife/husband of X background because people of X background are _____ (some stereotype)". which unfortunately seems pretty common, and not limited to dating, either (e.g., my grandmother, Hispanic, complained that African American nurses at the recovery center she stayed at after shoulder surgery were not good people, and she would rather have a Hispanic nurse because "we know how to treat our old people"...and then she'd wink at me like we had some sort of special racist decoder ring bond or something...ugh. This is not a good way to relate to people, is all I mean.)

You make a good point. Okay let me rephrase my statement; I observe more desirable traits for a partner among my own Hispanic kind and among Asians, and observe more less desirable traits among Black and White women. While these traits may not be related to their race and/or ethnic background, I do observe them more among certain groups.

So, in other words, you're prejudicial and have selective senses.

Fair enough, at least you're admitting it.

[dzheremi]

What's wrong with white women?

In America? Spoiled, materialistic, oftentimes b-wordy, not too smart, carry the most emotional baggage...

So is it really that they're white, or that they're women, or that they're Americans, or what...? Cos I know an awful lot of white guys and people from other countries of all hues that basically all of this applies to. This seems like you're conflating a lot of variables or characteristics into one package which, as a result, probably is less than realistic. Are you maybe watching too much Jersey Shore or whatever?

[Arachne]

This thread: the gift that keeps on giving! 

Better than Coronation Street and EastEnders put together!

/popcorn

[Romaios]

James, have you read El laberinto de la soledad by Octavio Paz? I don't know if your Hispanic ancestry is Mexican, but you pretty much agree with the Mexican as he describes him:

La dualidad del mexicano está presente en todos los aspectos de su vida. En el lenguaje popular por ejemplo, hombría, dice Octavio Paz, es ser “macho”. Éste “es un ser hermético, encerrado en sí mismo, capaz de guardarse y guardar lo que se le confía”. Es decir, prefiere encerrarse en su propia soledad, en su laberinto. El no abrirse y confiar en los demás, escribe el autor, es el ideal de decoro en la cultura mexicana. En el momento en que este confía y renuncia a su soledad, pasa a ser un “rajado”, en otras palabras, renuncia a su hombría.

Otro aspecto en el que la influencia de esta duplicidad es inevitable es en sus relaciones con el mundo femenino.

La mujer, en México, dice Paz, “siempre está a la espera de lo que el hombre diga”, “es el reflejo de la voluntad y querer masculinos”, “es el producto de la vanidad del hombre heredada de los españoles”. Es, continúa el ensayista, “un ser oscuro, secreto y pasivo, no se le atribuyen malos instintos: se pretende que ni siquiera los tiene”, o sea que el mexicano disimula, aparenta no ver nada, hace de cuenta que no están ahí. Paz dice que en otros países se festeja abiertamente a la mujer en comparación con los mexicanos, que prefieren ocultar las gracias y virtudes de sus mujeres. Pero, ante la vida social, sus mujeres son “señoras”. Nuevamente vemos que la apariencia prima en esta cultura.

Source

[vamrat]

What do James and the Klan have in common?

They both don't think he should be dating white women!

 

[Cyrillic]

What do James and the Klan have in common?

They both don't think he should be dating white women!

 

LOL.

[biro]

What's wrong with white women?

In America? Spoiled, materialistic, oftentimes b-wordy, not too smart, carry the most emotional baggage...

So is it really that they're white, or that they're women, or that they're Americans, or what...? Cos I know an awful lot of white guys and people from other countries of all hues that basically all of this applies to. This seems like you're conflating a lot of variables or characteristics into one package which, as a result, probably is less than realistic. Are you maybe watching too much Jersey Shore or whatever?

No, he really is that way.

[biro]

What's wrong with white women?

carry the most emotional baggage...

Something that might come in handy for you to place your own carry-on emotions in.

In retrospect, maybe I need a hardcore, abusive Black woman to smack the emotions out of me.

I said it before, I'll say it again: we need a vomit smiley.

It's just lovely how people think a Christian board is the place to vent their hate.

[biro]

I feel like ethnicity probably isn't something that should be among your first considerations.

Why not? Second to religion, I don't see why it shouldn't. You could infer a lot about what a person's personality and behavior will probably be like due to their ethnicity. This is one of the reasons why I would always take an Asian or Hispanic woman over a White or Black woman (no offense to them, they're just not my type).

Yay racism! Except when it's about you, right?

[NicholasMyra]

It's just lovely how people think a Christian board is the place to vent their hate.

More tastelessness than hate.

[FormerReformer]

What's wrong with white women?

carry the most emotional baggage...

Something that might come in handy for you to place your own carry-on emotions in.

In retrospect, maybe I need a hardcore, abusive Black woman to smack the emotions out of me.

I said it before, I'll say it again: we need a vomit smiley.

It's just lovely how people think a Christian board is the place to vent their hate.

Have you not BEEN on some of the other Christian boards? This place is tame by comparison to most others. When every other poster on here (not just the returned Alfred Perrson) feels the need to post in alternating CAPS, BOLDS, AND THE COLOR RED, all while saying "MY FRIEND" before spewing the MOST AWFUL VITRIOL one can possibly read- then I'll start worrying about the state of OC.net.

Lord, have mercy.

[Achronos]

Is there a specific site you are referring to?

Unless its Christianforums.com

I'd say all of those Christians need to learn some shame. It's really embarrassing.

JamesR get back to you in a minute.

If I was to rank Asian women, Koreans would be at the top and Filipinos at the bottom.

[Achronos]

So, in other words, you're prejudicial and have selective senses.

Fair enough, at least you're admitting it.

Well atleast he is honest, even if he is wrong.

He sure demonstrates a lot of verve, but he'll cool down after his first relationship/heartbreak.

[JamesR]

Filipinas at the bottom? How come? Personally, I'd probably kick it off a lot easier with a Filipina woman than any other Asian woman, mostly due to the fact that in some cultural aspects, they are very similar to us Mexicans. They aren't called the Mexicans of the Asian world for nothing. One girl I dated's mom was from the Phillippines, she seemed pretty nice.

[Arachne]

They're also more Catholic than the Pope.

[vamrat]

Filipinas at the bottom? How come? Personally, I'd probably kick it off a lot easier with a Filipina woman than any other Asian woman, mostly due to the fact that in some cultural aspects, they are very similar to us Mexicans. They aren't called the Mexicans of the Asian world for nothing. One girl I dated's mom was from the Phillippines, she seemed pretty nice.

I don't think that whoever said that was trying to be gracious.  Just sayin'....

[NightOwl]

What's wrong with white women?

In America? Spoiled, materialistic, oftentimes b-wordy, not too smart, carry the most emotional baggage...

Secular materialism isn't a phenomenon unique to the U.S., it's the prevailing and fastest growing world religion. You can thank 18th century European thought and 19th century economic transformations for that.

[minasoliman]

Christianmingle dot com:

Find God's match in you...

...but if get raped, God's punishment in you!

[Achronos]

Christianmingle dot com:

Find God's match in you...

...but if get raped, God's punishment in you!

Never expected you to say something like this.

Have you evolved into being more comedic?

[vamrat]

Christianmingle dot com:

Find God's match in you...

...but if get raped, God's punishment in you!

Awesome.

[minasoliman]

Christianmingle dot com:

Find God's match in you...

...but if get raped, God's punishment in you!

Never expected you to say something like this.

Have you evolved into being more comedic?

I've always been a comical person

[Velsigne]

What's wrong with white women?

In America? Spoiled, materialistic, oftentimes b-wordy, not too smart, carry the most emotional baggage...

Whatsa matta James, blonde girl at church snub you? 

Maybe she got on this site and started reading some of your abundantly shared great honest thoughts. 

Por El Pobrecito Mexicano que a veces habla como un necio

Con mucho sentimiento para ti:

Tu vives esta rodeada de pobreza,
No tengas pena, no tengas verguenza
que es muy triste y muy dura esta vida
y deja los demas y ponte a luchar

tambien soy pobre, soy pobre como tu
tengo a mi madre, a y mi esposa ya mis hijos
que mi piden algo y no les peudo dar
que mi piden algo y no les peudo dar
Pero, se luchar, se luchar y triunfare
y un destino cruel mi vida detener
 
Se que solo asi, luchando entre un pared,
Se qui solo asi,  luchando entre un pared

Ay, Dios mio

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ntjCIazQmmE

[Pan Michał]

Dominika, you're pretty enough to move to Poland for.  A guy might even get a double offer and could be friends with Pan Michal as well.

With me? I always thought I'm stuck-up, half-witted, scruffy-looking nerf-herder! Love ya <3

[Dominika]

Dominika, you're pretty enough to move to Poland for.  A guy might even get a double offer and could be friends with Pan Michal as well.

With me? I always thought I'm stuck-up, half-witted, scruffy-looking nerf-herder! Love ya <3

Answering (or better: realizing that somebody has mentioned you here) one and half month later... 

[Pan Michał]

Answering (or better: realizing that somebody has mentioned you here) one and half month later...  

The reason why I was single for so long LOL

[Dominika]

Answering (or better: realizing that somebody has mentioned you here) one and half month later...  

The reason why I was single for so long LOL

But you're not anymore, so maybe that's not so bad tactic 

[Pan Michał]

But you're not anymore, so maybe that's not so bad tactic 

Long-term one, that's for sure

[Dominika]

But you're not anymore, so maybe that's not so bad tactic 

Long-term one, that's for sure

But unless you're not so impatient (e.g like me), the effect is most important and it's worth to use this method although it's a long-term one.

[JamesR]

I just want a woman that's decently attractive, can cook (or order take out if she can't  ) and will give me my space. I hate the emotional clingy-ness and always-wanting-to-talk thing that so many women have. I love you, but jeeze, why do I need to talk to you about it every waking moment of the day? Finally, it'd be nice if she could satisfy my ego every once in a while; you know, sit me down on my favorite chair, bring me my coffee and a hot meal, wear something attractive, massage me while I eat and just tell me how wise, knowledgeable and attractive of a man I am 

[Asteriktos]

it'd be nice if she could satisfy my ego every once in a while

You want a woman, or a miracle worker?

[orthonorm]

it'd be nice if she could satisfy my ego every once in a while

You want a woman, or a miracle worker?

You saying JamesR is the Hellen Keller of dating?

[Dionysii]

I just want a woman that's decently attractive, can cook (or order take out if she can't  ) and will give me my space. I hate the emotional clingy-ness and always-wanting-to-talk thing that so many women have. I love you, but jeeze, why do I need to talk to you about it every waking moment of the day? Finally, it'd be nice if she could satisfy my ego every once in a while; you know, sit me down on my favorite chair, bring me my coffee and a hot meal, wear something attractive, massage me while I eat and just tell me how wise, knowledgeable and attractive of a man I am 

For what it's worth, I suggest be very picky and avoid any consideration of all american and most european women as well as recognize that most advice about these kinds of things is poison that will destroy our lives if we let it.  To restate the last bit politely, a good marriage can be preserved by dumping many a worthless "friend."