Better a condom or the pill than an abortion. The pill is a form of abortion, and condemned with the same force, at least according to my priest.
Do you believe everything your priest tells you about science? If he really believes that ALL forms of the pill are a form of a abortion, then he needs to do some serious and extensive reading on the matter BEFORE giving out advice to any more people. "Some" forms of the pill are a form of abortion, but not all. The classical form of the the contraceptive agent commonly known as "the pill" is well, a contraceptive. The "morning after pill" is of course as your priest described and believes, but certainly not all forms of the pill are.
And he tells me the policy he normally employs is of no contraception, but will allow condom use if a couple truly lacks faith that God will give them the number of children they can handle. But this is economy and not the standard practice.
I personally find it disturbing that your priest (or any priest for that matter) "allows" anything, and that a priest in the 21st century would say things like "I do not ALLOW people to use contraception unless their faith is too weak!" This sounds a little too authoritarian to me. And just a tad bit out of date, by a few centuries or so. Of course sometimes, (or often) words don't do justice to emotions behind a statement, but this just reads a bit odd.
This topic should always be overseen by a spiritual father, who is privy to *all* aspects of our lives, including the bedroom. All of life is spiritual, therefore the spiritual father must be free to advise in all areas of life.
Now, imagine if someone other than yourself, and of a different religion than you, say a Hindu, or perhaps a Mormon, or even a New Ager Hiippie of some sort said the following: "The topic of my sexual life should always be overseen by my guru, who is privy to *all* aspects of my life, including the bedroom. All of life is spiritual, therefore the guru must be free to advise in all areas of life!"
Would you not take pause of someone came to you and said that their guru told them what kind of sex to have, how often, and whether or not they should or should not have more children? Would you not think someone who was not an Orthodox Christian saying that was potentially in some sort of cult? Or at least was someone who was part of a system that might be at least looked into?
There is nothing wrong with getting advice from one's priest, but most priests are NOT doctors or psychologists, or therapists. They are not biologists, and they have no special divine insight to our lives. This apparent blind obedience to clergy that so many people even today think is some form of moral ideal to achieve is IMO very scary. That a priest would think he has the authority to "allow" or not not allow and to dictate how many children a couple should have is . . . . it just reeks of medievalism. Your priest might be a good man, maybe a better Christian than I'll ever be, but this type of what seems to be "control" just throws up red flags. It might, and probably is way out of context, and I'm not privy to anything in your or his life, but some what you said really does throw up red flags for some of us. Especially those of us who have seen and experienced spiritual abuse of one form or another within the Church.