I don't see how someone can say that earrings now woman are fine and dandy and then say for a man to do the same is unthinkable. Unless living in modern society is a new thing for everyone but me.
I've had everything (almost) pierced and gauged. Why not anymore? Several reasons.
- I took my lip rings out b/c I really love food and they just got in the way. They were really sore when I first got them done and after about two days of being hungry I gave up, took them out, and went to get pizza.
- I took my 7/16th inch plugs (large gauges in my ears) out b/c I just didn't like how they looked on me. they look great on some people, not I.
- My septum was cute as a button, I loved it, but I just got sick of it and people asking about it. One can only hear "does that hurt?" so many times before they want to become a hermit. Same goes with my manymanymanymany tattoos.... just stop asking about them.
Also, before the question is asked...No, I am not, nor was I ever gothic. I'm preppy by most peoples standards. Tattoos and piercings are not exclusive to any sub-culture anymore.
Are they vanity? Most of the time yes. Do they have to be, no.