Thanks for your replies so far. I think I know well enough what the Bible says about such matters, but I am referring more to reality here than anything else. Not saying that what the Bible says isn't reality as such, but you get my drift, hopefully. They (my siblings) say that human beings simply aren't made for monogamy and "faithfulness" to one spouse for life (as, of course, Christ teaches), but rather that in nature and in human reality we are not made for monogamy (that is, total loyalty and faithfulness to only one person, for life). They say that only loonies would believe otherwise and that no normal man would be impressed with a woman who feels this way. They say that because all (or most) normal men are deep down in their hearts (if not openly), not capable of being attracted to only one woman, extreme faithfulness in a woman is simply not appealing to the male species. Hope this makes sense. I am hoping some of the older, more experienced men will chip in here-not that I don't value the younger ones, but younger men simply haven't often lived long enough to have acquired huge amounts of experience in this matter.