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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #45 on: February 04, 2010, 10:51:57 PM »
I don't want to make you feel bad but I think I must say this.

I also thought that I should look for an Orthodox spouse, that a girl raised in Orthodoxy would share my values and principles, but it isn't always this way.

I had experiences with girls from an Orthodox country in Eastern Europe. I thought this would work because they were Orthodox. How wrong I was, I have come to regret that I ever met these girls.

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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #46 on: February 04, 2010, 11:38:04 PM »
I know ROCOR has annual youth conferences/syezds where people go to meet one another, but I don't know what other groups do. It's really too bad that there isn't even some sort of short-term "bibleschool/college" like other faiths have, where young people can study and meet one another.

Doesn't Holy Cross | Hellenic College fit the bill?  ???

St Vladimir's fits that bill, too.  Lots of women go there.  (And not to land a husband, although sometimes male and female seminarians get married there.)

Last time I went to HCHC, I was surprised at how much Greek they use.  St Vladimir's uses English, and costs half as much.  There's no competition in my mind.  

Plus, St Vlad's keeps everyone on campus as much as possible, so it's probably easier to make friends.

St. Vlad's doesn't offer undergrad degrees; Hellenic College does. That is why I listed HC | HC, because of their undergrad programs.

I have other reasons I prefer HC | HC, but I'll keep them to myself.
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #47 on: February 05, 2010, 12:43:51 AM »
I know ROCOR has annual youth conferences/syezds where people go to meet one another, but I don't know what other groups do. It's really too bad that there isn't even some sort of short-term "bibleschool/college" like other faiths have, where young people can study and meet one another.

Doesn't Holy Cross | Hellenic College fit the bill?  ???

St Vladimir's fits that bill, too.  Lots of women go there.  (And not to land a husband, although sometimes male and female seminarians get married there.)

Last time I went to HCHC, I was surprised at how much Greek they use.  St Vladimir's uses English, and costs half as much.  There's no competition in my mind.  

Plus, St Vlad's keeps everyone on campus as much as possible, so it's probably easier to make friends.

St. Vlad's doesn't offer undergrad degrees; Hellenic College does. That is why I listed HC | HC, because of their undergrad programs.

I have other reasons I prefer HC | HC, but I'll keep them to myself.

What's wrong with St Vlad's?  It's master's level, but you'd just need a bachelor's in anything to get in.  They wouldn't bite you.
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #48 on: February 05, 2010, 12:47:12 AM »
I know ROCOR has annual youth conferences/syezds where people go to meet one another, but I don't know what other groups do. It's really too bad that there isn't even some sort of short-term "bibleschool/college" like other faiths have, where young people can study and meet one another.

Doesn't Holy Cross | Hellenic College fit the bill?  ???

St Vladimir's fits that bill, too.  Lots of women go there.  (And not to land a husband, although sometimes male and female seminarians get married there.)

Last time I went to HCHC, I was surprised at how much Greek they use.  St Vladimir's uses English, and costs half as much.  There's no competition in my mind.  

Plus, St Vlad's keeps everyone on campus as much as possible, so it's probably easier to make friends.

St. Vlad's doesn't offer undergrad degrees; Hellenic College does. That is why I listed HC | HC, because of their undergrad programs.

I have other reasons I prefer HC | HC, but I'll keep them to myself.

What's wrong with St Vlad's?  It's master's level, but you'd just need a bachelor's in anything to get in.  They wouldn't bite you.

As I said, I have other reasons I prefer HC | HC, but I'll keep them to myself.
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #49 on: February 05, 2010, 01:03:55 AM »
I know ROCOR has annual youth conferences/syezds where people go to meet one another, but I don't know what other groups do. It's really too bad that there isn't even some sort of short-term "bibleschool/college" like other faiths have, where young people can study and meet one another.

Doesn't Holy Cross | Hellenic College fit the bill?  ???

St Vladimir's fits that bill, too.  Lots of women go there.  (And not to land a husband, although sometimes male and female seminarians get married there.)

Last time I went to HCHC, I was surprised at how much Greek they use.  St Vladimir's uses English, and costs half as much.  There's no competition in my mind.  

Plus, St Vlad's keeps everyone on campus as much as possible, so it's probably easier to make friends.

St. Vlad's doesn't offer undergrad degrees; Hellenic College does. That is why I listed HC | HC, because of their undergrad programs.

I have other reasons I prefer HC | HC, but I'll keep them to myself.

What's wrong with St Vlad's?  It's master's level, but you'd just need a bachelor's in anything to get in.  They wouldn't bite you.

As I said, I have other reasons I prefer HC | HC, but I'll keep them to myself.

Well, that's lamentable.  St Vlad's is a good school, and worthy of serious consideration.  

Your reasoning would be more obvious if you came from more of a Greek/Byzantine background, but instead it almost sounds like you're suggesting something is wrong with St Vlad's.
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #50 on: February 05, 2010, 05:05:13 AM »
Your reasoning would be more obvious if you came from more of a Greek/Byzantine background, but instead it almost sounds like you're suggesting something is wrong with St Vlad's.

You are assuming that I am suggesting something is wrong with St. Vlad's. You are making an arguement out of silence. I never said there was anything wrong with St. Vlad's. I told you that I have my own personal reasons why I prefer HC | HC, and I prefer to keep those reasons to myself. Rather than push the issue, I would appreciate it if you would drop it already. I have never and would never discourage anyone from going to St. Vlad's. As I stated earlier, I posted info on HC | HC because they have an undergraduate program, which Rosehip was originally looking for.

Now if you please, let us return to the original topic at hand.
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #51 on: February 05, 2010, 05:24:16 AM »
Enlist the aid of Saint Xenia of Saint Petersburg.  She is known for helping people find a good spouse.  Ask your priest to serve a Moleben to her, and don't worry, he won't think you are weird.  He'll know that people go to Saint Xenia for help in this matter.

Tomorrow (with the Old Calendar) we commemorate St Xenia of Petersburg - I put together a little tribute to her a while ago, here.

The other Saint that we can turn to is St. Phanourios, he is the Greek equivalent of St Xenia and should not be forgotten when seeking a spouse as he is a great match-maker.

There is also this beautiful prayer that a Russian lady gave me from our Russian book shop:


O Good Lord, I know that any lasting happiness in my life depends upon loving thee with all my soul and all my heart and upon acting according to Thy Holy Will in all things.
Direct my soul O my God and fill my heart.
I want to please thee alone for though art my creator and God.
Preserve me from pride and self-love. May reason, modesty and chastity adorn me.
Idleness is hatefull to thee and breeds vice.
Give me the inclination to perform fruitful labour and bless my work.
Since they law commands people to live in chaste matrimonial union lead me Holy Father to this blessed calling.
Not for the satisfcation of my passions but for the fulfilment of thy commandment.
For thou has said it is not good that man should be alone and having created a woman as a helper bless hem to be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth.
Hear my humble prayer, which I send up to thee from the depths of my heart.
Give me a spouse who is honest and pious so that we through our love and harmony can praise thee The Compassionate God, the Father, The Son and The Holy Spirit now and ever and unto the ages of ages. Amen.
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #52 on: February 05, 2010, 11:01:53 AM »
Enlist the aid of Saint Xenia of Saint Petersburg.  She is known for helping people find a good spouse.  Ask your priest to serve a Moleben to her, and don't worry, he won't think you are weird.  He'll know that people go to Saint Xenia for help in this matter.


Tomorrow (with the Old Calendar) we commemorate St Xenia of Petersburg - I put together a little tribute to her a while ago, here.

The other Saint that we can turn to is St. Phanourios, he is the Greek equivalent of St Xenia and should not be forgotten when seeking a spouse as he is a great match-maker.

There is also this beautiful prayer that a Russian lady gave me from our Russian book shop:


O Good Lord, I know that any lasting happiness in my life depends upon loving thee with all my soul and all my heart and upon acting according to Thy Holy Will in all things.
Direct my soul O my God and fill my heart.
I want to please thee alone for though art my creator and God.
Preserve me from pride and self-love. May reason, modesty and chastity adorn me.
Idleness is hatefull to thee and breeds vice.
Give me the inclination to perform fruitful labour and bless my work.
Since they law commands people to live in chaste matrimonial union lead me Holy Father to this blessed calling.
Not for the satisfcation of my passions but for the fulfilment of thy commandment.
For thou has said it is not good that man should be alone and having created a woman as a helper bless hem to be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth.
Hear my humble prayer, which I send up to thee from the depths of my heart.
Give me a spouse who is honest and pious so that we through our love and harmony can praise thee The Compassionate God, the Father, The Son and The Holy Spirit now and ever and unto the ages of ages. Amen.



A magnificent prayer.
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #53 on: February 05, 2010, 04:39:46 PM »
This has been something on my mind even while I was Catholic.

It's quite difficult to find a woman (or man for the opposite sex) who is a practicing Christian, and is even more difficult to find a practicing Orthodox!  My question, is there any place where Orthodox Christians can meet up with others of the opposite sex?  I have been told before that the Antiochian village is such a place.  Your thoughts?

I have thought about this aswell.  (I guess I'm better off.  I'm 15 and have no intention of marriage)

you could alwayse look around your parish or go to another Orthodox church in your area and find a nice girl.  or, you could type "Meet Orthodox Christians" into google.com and see what you get.  there is alwayse online dating.  my mother (since divorcing my father  :'( ) is doing this and meeting interesting people. 


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« Reply #54 on: February 05, 2010, 06:41:15 PM »
Provided you want an Orthodox relationship then this thread, should be giving you advise on how to rely on God. Here is what the Church fathers have to say:

"Dont go running to people, but to God. Tell God, 'Grant me the one Whom You have prepared for me in Your providence.' Entrust this matter to God, and He will reward you for granting such a great honour to Him." -- St Gregory the Theologian.

"Turn to God for help. He is not ashamed to become your matchmaker. He Himself promised this when he said: 'But seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.' (Matt 6:33) -- St John Chrysostom.

"Since you know,, therefore, how great a mystery marriage is, and how great a matter it represents, do not consider marriage lightly or casually." -- St John Chrysostom.
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #55 on: February 05, 2010, 11:38:12 PM »
All of you have been incredibly helpful in guiding me where to go (and who to go to), and in giving some wise advice.  It's the Lord's will, not mine..I simply am seeking to find out what that exactly is in this department.  I really would like to thank you all for your help!

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« Reply #56 on: February 06, 2010, 12:09:29 AM »
Provided you want an Orthodox relationship then this thread, should be giving you advise on how to rely on God. Here is what the Church fathers have to say:

"Dont go running to people, but to God. Tell God, 'Grant me the one Whom You have prepared for me in Your providence.' Entrust this matter to God, and He will reward you for granting such a great honour to Him." -- St Gregory the Theologian.

"Turn to God for help. He is not ashamed to become your matchmaker. He Himself promised this when he said: 'But seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.' (Matt 6:33) -- St John Chrysostom.

"Since you know,, therefore, how great a mystery marriage is, and how great a matter it represents, do not consider marriage lightly or casually." -- St John Chrysostom.


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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #57 on: February 06, 2010, 01:59:44 AM »
Some forums have a place for single people to chat/meet.  Have the singles on OCnet considered setting up a specific time to "chat"?

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« Reply #58 on: February 10, 2010, 12:08:24 AM »
This has been something on my mind even while I was Catholic.

It's quite difficult to find a woman (or man for the opposite sex) who is a practicing Christian, and is even more difficult to find a practicing Orthodox!  My question, is there any place where Orthodox Christians can meet up with others of the opposite sex?  I have been told before that the Antiochian village is such a place.  Your thoughts?

The local OCA Church here in Bethesda MD runs a regular Orthodox Singles night. They get litterally hundreds of people to show up. They also go on sky trips and such the like. About a dozen marriages have resulted... Send me a private message and I will send you an email address.

I did not realize hundreds of people show up.  My present priest shows me their fliers, but unfortunately almost all their events are on Saturdays, and I have to work on Saturdays for the time being.

By sky trips, do you mean sky diving?  ;)
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« Reply #59 on: February 10, 2010, 12:16:14 AM »
Provided you want an Orthodox relationship then this thread, should be giving you advise on how to rely on God. Here is what the Church fathers have to say:

"Dont go running to people, but to God. Tell God, 'Grant me the one Whom You have prepared for me in Your providence.' Entrust this matter to God, and He will reward you for granting such a great honour to Him." -- St Gregory the Theologian.

"Turn to God for help. He is not ashamed to become your matchmaker. He Himself promised this when he said: 'But seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.' (Matt 6:33) -- St John Chrysostom.

"Since you know,, therefore, how great a mystery marriage is, and how great a matter it represents, do not consider marriage lightly or casually." -- St John Chrysostom.


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« Reply #60 on: February 10, 2010, 12:23:16 AM »
Some forums have a place for single people to chat/meet.  Have the singles on OCnet considered setting up a specific time to "chat"?

That would come with all the awkwardness of a Junior High Dance!  :laugh:  :laugh:
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« Reply #61 on: February 10, 2010, 12:47:32 AM »
Some forums have a place for single people to chat/meet.  Have the singles on OCnet considered setting up a specific time to "chat"?

That would come with all the awkwardness of a Junior High Dance!  :laugh:  :laugh:

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« Reply #62 on: February 12, 2010, 01:22:09 AM »
I am single, 34 and female living in Australia - what the heck drop me an email!

Edit: I am still looking for a comical icon to represent this situation.
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« Reply #63 on: February 12, 2010, 01:30:43 AM »
I am single, 34 and female living in Australia - what the heck drop me an email!


If only you weren't Orthodox...  ;) :angel:

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« Reply #64 on: February 12, 2010, 01:32:22 AM »
I am single, 34 and female living in Australia - what the heck drop me an email!

If only you weren't Orthodox...  ;) :angel:

haha, and what are you?
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« Reply #65 on: February 12, 2010, 01:37:27 AM »
I am single, 34 and female living in Australia - what the heck drop me an email!

If only you weren't Orthodox...  ;) :angel:

haha, and what are you?

My response to that would depend on what day you ask me, or at times even what hour. If you drew a line, and put agnostic on one end and Orthodox on the other, I'd usually land somewhere in the middle. :)

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« Reply #66 on: February 12, 2010, 01:39:43 AM »
My response to that would depend on what day you ask me, or at times even what hour. If you drew a line, and put agnostic on one end and Orthodox on the other, I'd usually land somewhere in the middle. :)

Amusing ... sad too but honest. Ok, if you like, we tip you towards Orthodoxy and bingo, we have an OCNet date in the making (I am joking for those who may take that comment seriously, what kinda gal do you think I am?)

Mind you, I am praying very hard to meet someone Orthodox and get married but so many divorces around me its frightening.
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« Reply #67 on: February 12, 2010, 01:41:51 AM »
Please remember that OC.net is not set up to be an online dating service. ;)
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« Reply #68 on: February 12, 2010, 01:44:05 AM »
Please remember that OC.net is not set up to be an online dating service. ;)

Haha, derrrrrr .... are we allowed to display some humour?
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« Reply #69 on: February 12, 2010, 01:47:11 AM »
Peter,

Please stop spoiling my fun. How am I going to corrupt another meet a secretly perverse nice Orthodox girl with you around?

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« Reply #70 on: February 12, 2010, 01:50:47 AM »
Please stop spoiling my fun. How am I going to corrupt another meet a secretly perverse nice Orthodox girl with you around?

No, I am not secretely perverse ... woops, sorry ... no profiling permitted at OCNet.
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« Reply #71 on: February 12, 2010, 01:52:45 AM »
Please stop spoiling my fun. How am I going to corrupt another meet a secretly perverse nice Orthodox girl with you around?

No, I am not secretely perverse ... woops, sorry ... no profiling permitted at OCNet.

Oh  8) Ok, nevermind Peter, this wouldn't have worked out anyway.  :P

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« Reply #72 on: February 12, 2010, 01:57:40 AM »
Please stop spoiling my fun. How am I going to corrupt another meet a secretly perverse nice Orthodox girl with you around?

No, I am not secretely perverse ... woops, sorry ... no profiling permitted at OCNet.

Oh  8) Ok, nevermind Peter, this wouldn't have worked out anyway.  :P

... and now you have clearly tipped the scale way way away from the Orthodox end :P
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« Reply #73 on: February 12, 2010, 02:03:49 AM »
Please stop spoiling my fun. How am I going to corrupt another meet a secretly perverse nice Orthodox girl with you around?

No, I am not secretely perverse ... woops, sorry ... no profiling permitted at OCNet.

Oh  8) Ok, nevermind Peter, this wouldn't have worked out anyway.  :P

... and now you have clearly tipped the scale way way away from the Orthodox end :P

Hey, when I married my wife, we were both pious, traditional Orthodox Christians, but people do sometimes change over time... :angel:

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« Reply #74 on: February 12, 2010, 02:37:17 AM »
Hey, when I married my wife, we were both pious, traditional Orthodox Christians, but people do sometimes change over time... :angel:

Oh no, woooops :)

Thankfully we cleared that one up before things got out of hand - which does bring up certain faith issues should it have continued ... Oh dear, now I must be serious with you ... no more jokes out of respect for the Mrs!

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« Reply #75 on: August 24, 2010, 07:42:17 PM »
Sorry, but I simply fail to understand these people who want to look only in their neighborhood, or maybe 50 miles around them. Why dont you guys get a wife from an Orthodox country?

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« Reply #76 on: August 24, 2010, 09:30:48 PM »
Sorry, but I simply fail to understand these people who want to look only in their neighborhood, or maybe 50 miles around them. Why dont you guys get a wife from an Orthodox country?

Because of scammers and opportunists who would marry you for a green card and dump you after becoming a citizen?

I think a guy would have to go to another Orthodox country and be careful in his search.   
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« Reply #77 on: August 25, 2010, 01:30:10 AM »
Exactly.

I would actually prefer to marry someone from an Orthodox country.  I've known a few foreign girls and they have the attitude and values a practicing Orthodox Christian would look for.  Although I'm sure it's not always the case, it's more likely to find an upstanding woman outside the U.S.  It at least seems this way most of the time.


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« Reply #78 on: August 25, 2010, 02:57:42 AM »
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« Reply #79 on: August 25, 2010, 05:50:13 AM »
I don't want to make you feel bad but I think I must say this.

I also thought that I should look for an Orthodox spouse, that a girl raised in Orthodoxy would share my values and principles, but it isn't always this way.

I had experiences with girls from an Orthodox country in Eastern Europe. I thought this would work because they were Orthodox. How wrong I was, I have come to regret that I ever met these girls.
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #80 on: August 25, 2010, 05:56:56 AM »
Russian mailorder brides.

That's an awesome idea! She could bring 18th century Russian peasant clothes proper Orthodox clothes with her and furthermore you could also learn Russian Orthodox accent.
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The user should probably be sleeping by now.

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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #81 on: August 25, 2010, 06:38:23 AM »
Russian mailorder brides.

Very funny. But seriously, for those who cannot find a wife in the US, making a pilgrimage to an Orthodox country, not necessarily Russia (go Ukraine!), and establishing contact with local Orthodox parishes would definitely help to find an Orthodox spouse.

As for clothes, in both Ukraine and Russia it seems to be headscarves in church, miniskirts elsewhere.
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #82 on: August 25, 2010, 09:56:48 AM »
Sorry, but I simply fail to understand these people who want to look only in their neighborhood, or maybe 50 miles around them. Why dont you guys get a wife from an Orthodox country?

Because girls in Orthodox countries are no more likely to be a better spouse or a better Orthodox Christian. Statistically, they are actually more likely to have had an abortion. I've seen cases, including ones facilitated by priests, where naive Americans have been shocked by the dress, attitude, and actions of Orthodox women brought over for marriage. There is only a remnant there, just like there is only a remnant here. And while the remnant there is larger in absolute numbers, I don't think a high percentage, especially of that remnant, is likely to want to leave family and homeland for post-protestant America. In fact, that in itself could be a problematic sign.

In the end, it's all about the individual person, not the location, and going oversees could do little more than add complicating factors: cost of travel, differences in language and culture, citizenship, familial separation, etc.
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #83 on: August 25, 2010, 12:05:40 PM »
Because girls in Orthodox countries are no more likely to be a better spouse or a better Orthodox Christian.
That's an insult to the holy country of Ukraine  ;D
Seriously, practising Orthoidox Christians are simply more numerous in these countries than in the US. And there is a surplus of women in the former USSR.

Statistically, they are actually more likely to have had an abortion.
I do not know of any woman in Ukraine who had an aborition while being a church-going Orthodox Christian. Abortions are more likely among non-religious persons though.


I don't think a high percentage, especially of that remnant, is likely to want to leave family and homeland for post-protestant America.
I think many are likely, for three reasons
1) There are simply more women than men.
2) The economical situation there is bad.
3) There is a big admiration for western converts to Orthodoxy.

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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #84 on: August 25, 2010, 12:41:27 PM »
In all seriousness though, how can anyone actually seek out a legitimate Orthodox woman from Eastern Europe? 

Many of the so-called 'mail order brides' are frauds, with pictures of models that apparently suck the money out of victim's wallets. 

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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #85 on: August 25, 2010, 12:46:53 PM »
In all seriousness though, how can anyone actually seek out a legitimate Orthodox woman from Eastern Europe? 

Many of the so-called 'mail order brides' are frauds, with pictures of models that apparently suck the money out of victim's wallets. 

I have never met a mail order bride, but most people in the former USSR are still quite unchurched. So if you want to find a wife who is really orthodox, the best guess is to go there, and find a wife in church.

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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #86 on: August 25, 2010, 01:38:16 PM »
Forgive me brothers,

but I believe that God, just as he arranges everything to our good, still gave us the mind and the will.

While he wants us to enjoy surrendering our lives to Him, he still wants us to take a part in our own lives.
Choosing a spouse is no exception.

I believe one should pray for guidance and for meeting the right person, and taking right decisions...
Yet he\she has a role to fill!

You must make your own decisions. Even God will not choose for you. He will guide you, yes, but he will leave the final choice for you!

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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #87 on: August 25, 2010, 02:50:28 PM »
Admittedly I live in a large metropolitan area with several Orthodox parishes of different jurisdictions, but where are you guys looking?
I know quite a few unmarried Orthodox women. (They all have lovely personalities. ;))
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #88 on: August 25, 2010, 02:53:42 PM »
In all seriousness though, how can anyone actually seek out a legitimate Orthodox woman from Eastern Europe? 

Many of the so-called 'mail order brides' are frauds, with pictures of models that apparently suck the money out of victim's wallets. 

I've known more than a few men who have done this. Typically they have some kinda relationship to someone in the place they are visiting (friend of some sort) or go on an extended pilgrimage.

The process I have witnessed takes some time and more than a few visits spending a lot of time with the family of the potential spouse.

In the end, it requires time and money.

For the record, all three guys have ended up with happy marriages and families.
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Re: Finding an Orthodox spouse
« Reply #89 on: August 25, 2010, 04:00:53 PM »
There is a Yahoo discussion group for Orthodox singles:
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/orthodox_singles/