I'm not sure I would make the statement that Christ's first miracle took place in order to prolong a "party". As I understand it, it took place because His mother asked Him to help...and being the good Son, he could not deny His mother. He even said it was not yet, His time.
When I go over this in class with the kids, I always make an emphasis of this being an excellent example of "respect your mother and father".
As for the partying...I am not much of a party animal, myself. I've just never been into being "cool"....and I find pleasure and satisfaction in other activities.
However, on the odd occasion that I find myself at a party I often leave feeling deflated. I constantly find myself trying to bite my tongue not to say something. I do not drink. I have seen what too much drink can do to a person, and those around them. Besides, I have never understood the need to get a "buzz on" in order to enjoy yourself. If in the morning you can't remember the fun you had last night...then what was the point? I would rather have fun, and remember it for the rest of my days.
Plus, when you are around folks who have drunk too much...you get to see the not so pleasant side of them. I would rather not see that side, and leave those folks in my mind the way I imagine them to be. I have often been surprised by how people act when they are a bit less inhibited...and it hurts me to see that side of them.
Plus...the dancing....I love to dance...but, I like the "old fashioned" dancing...not this modern exercise session. The last "dance" I was at, I was floored to see how some of our adult women behaved and gyrated. Scandalous!
Of course when the arkan (line type of dance, with everyone holding hands and running around...) began....to Ukrainian music.....I couldn't stop my feet from running fast enough and joining in. We ended up going around the entire hall, then doubled in on ourselves...ended up with three separate circles going - middle one going opposite direction from outside ones...with a girl spinning like a top in the middle. That was grand fun! Everyone was laughing and simply enjoying themselves!
Plus, I would rather not be there when invariably the conversation turns to off color jokes, etc. If you don't join in on the ribbing, then you seem to be the odd man out and to spoil the fun for everyone. I don't want to participate....and yet, at times you can't help but find some of them funny...and take part. Then of course, I go home feeling bad that I laughed at these "bad" jokes. Make sense?
On the other hand, if "party" means a bunch of good friends who gather in someone's living room, have a glass of wine, some snacks, excellent conversation, etc....it's a great way to spend a couple of hours!
I don't think a "party" is un-Christian...however, choose your party carefully. Remember to always have "Christ before you". If you would be embarrassed to do it with Him standing next to you...then don't do it (because, in fact, He IS standing next to you.)
There are many ways to enjoy one's self without doing wrong, tempting others to do wrong, opening oneself to being judged, or to judge others. When you are around sin...you are tempted to sin...therefore, it's best to keep away from such situations when at all possible.
Now, go out and enjoy your life!