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If you could spare a moment, please pray for my wife Mary Cecilia, who has been admitted to the hospital. She has had artificial heart valves all her life, and recently had to have one of them replaced. It has been a few months since the operation, but her wound still has not healed properly, and she recently began having breathing issues. So, they admitted her and she is now in the Cardiothoracic ICU (which I guess is kind of a specialized ICU for people who have gone through heart/chest operations).
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« Reply #1 on: January 02, 2010, 08:53:13 AM » |
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Prayers ,Molitve.....For You and Mary Cecilia
Lord Have Mercy ! Lord Hear Our Prayers....Amen Amen..
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« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2010, 09:03:06 AM » |
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Lord, have mercy!
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« Reply #3 on: January 02, 2010, 09:07:22 AM » |
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I just got a call... they don't think she is going to survive...  If you see this, please pray... |
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« Reply #4 on: January 02, 2010, 09:16:34 AM » |
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« Reply #5 on: January 02, 2010, 09:28:39 AM » |
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She's dead. I don't know why I'm sitting here typing. I guess I want something to focus on. I have nothing else to do but cry. We seperated in July. She chose a different path. I think she was happy these last few months though. She was 27. 27 year olds aren't supposed to die. I called the hospital to talk to the nurse, and she said that Mary died at 8:03 this morning. Why?
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« Reply #6 on: January 02, 2010, 09:44:19 AM » |
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I am so very sorry. |
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« Reply #7 on: January 02, 2010, 10:51:32 AM » |
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My sincere condolences, Asteriktos. Memory eternal!
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« Reply #8 on: January 02, 2010, 12:13:40 PM » |
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Lord have mercy! I am so sad to hear this. Asteriktos, Do you have family who can help you out and be with you at this moment? Do you have someone who can help you with the girls right now? I remember when Mary Cecilia used to post here. I believe she is with God now and is praying for you and the girls. Memory eternal! |
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+Eternal Memory. This is devestating. I'm so sorry. |
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« Reply #10 on: January 02, 2010, 12:34:16 PM » |
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Lord, have mercy!
I am so sorry and sad for this, Asteriktos. You and your family are in my prayers! If there's anything I can do, please PM me, brother.
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« Reply #11 on: January 02, 2010, 12:38:53 PM » |
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Memory eternal.
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« Reply #12 on: January 02, 2010, 01:41:06 PM » |
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I just don't have the words. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
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« Reply #13 on: January 02, 2010, 02:12:21 PM » |
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Memory Eternal.
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Lord have Mercy.
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« Reply #15 on: January 02, 2010, 03:32:39 PM » |
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« Reply #16 on: January 02, 2010, 03:36:40 PM » |
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Memory eternal. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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« Reply #17 on: January 02, 2010, 03:54:09 PM » |
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I am so sorry for your loss.. vichnaya pamyat. prayers
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« Reply #18 on: January 02, 2010, 04:51:39 PM » |
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Memory Eternal!
It is so hard to lose someone you love, you will be in my prayers Asteriktos.
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« Reply #19 on: January 02, 2010, 05:21:39 PM » |
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Oh my. I am so sorry, Asteriktos. So very sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts. May Mary Cecila's memory be eternal!
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« Reply #20 on: January 02, 2010, 05:32:51 PM » |
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Memory eternal! Our prayers are with you & your daughters, Justin.
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« Reply #21 on: January 02, 2010, 05:38:22 PM » |
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I am very sorry to hear this, Justin. You and your daughters and Mary will certainly be in my prayers.
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« Reply #22 on: January 02, 2010, 05:46:05 PM » |
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Memory eternal! Christ is risen!
Take care of yourself.
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« Reply #23 on: January 02, 2010, 05:52:14 PM » |
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+ Молитве +......Бог Да Mary Cecila's
Душу Опрости ,Лакајој Земља Била,
Царство Насељивање Дај Господе Слуги Твојој....Амин Амин....
Господе Помилуј....Амин
+ Вечнаја Памјат +
+ Prayers +....May God Forgive Mary Cecila's
all her sins and the earth be light for her,
May Thy Servant inherit the Eternal Kingdom Grant it O Lord..Amen Amen
Lord Have Mercy...Amen
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« Reply #24 on: January 02, 2010, 07:22:22 PM » |
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The worst day of my life. Thank you all for your prayers. My mother and her husband came down to be with me today, so I was not alone for most of the day, and they also went with me to the funeral home. I have lost the person I cared about most on this earth. It happened so suddenly. Just yesterday she was talking to people, myself included, and she was fine. She wished me a happy new year, and hoped that I was "healthy and happy". Less than one day later, she's dead. I don't hate God. I don't blame God. I just don't understand.
EDIT--PS, for anyone praying for my daughters, if you'd like to pray for them by name, they are Athanasia and Sahara.
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« Reply #25 on: January 02, 2010, 07:59:32 PM » |
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Asteriktos, there are no words to express the shock and sadness I feel for you and your little girls, Athanasia and Sahara.
Lord have mercy on you all and may He comfort you during this awful time. May Mary Cecilia's memory be eternal.
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« Reply #26 on: January 02, 2010, 08:04:03 PM » |
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May her memory be eternal!
May you and your daughters Athanasia and Sahara, be comforted at this time.
Like so many others here, I am shocked at this news. But, you are among friends here, Asteriktos, and we only want the best for you and your family. Please let us know what we can do to help you and yours.
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« Reply #27 on: January 02, 2010, 08:18:24 PM » |
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I am so terribly sorry. Praying for you and your daughters.
God be with you.
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« Reply #28 on: January 02, 2010, 08:34:28 PM » |
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Con- Prayers.....
May the Blessed Lord Comfort You and your Daughters, Athanasia and Sahara,
And All your Familiy and Friends n this time of sorrow ....Amen Amen...
Blessed Are They That Mourn, For They Shall Be Comforted....
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« Reply #29 on: January 02, 2010, 09:35:45 PM » |
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Deeply sorry to hear this news. I wish you and your family much comfort, strength, and peace at this time. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
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« Reply #30 on: January 02, 2010, 09:59:58 PM » |
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for anyone praying for my daughters, if you'd like to pray for them by name, they are Athanasia and Sahara.
May God hold Athanasia and Sahara and you in gently in His Hands and carry you through this worst day of your life. |
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« Reply #31 on: January 02, 2010, 10:15:26 PM » |
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« Reply #32 on: January 02, 2010, 10:31:21 PM » |
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What a beautiful picture! Mary and you and Athanasia and Sahara are in my constant thoughts and prayers!
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« Reply #33 on: January 03, 2010, 12:12:23 AM » |
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Lord, have mercy upon little Athanasia, Sahara and their father during this most difficult time.
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« Reply #34 on: January 03, 2010, 12:16:12 AM » |
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My deepest condolences on the passing of your wife.  May the Lord grant comfort and strength to you, Athanasia, Sahara and Mary Cecilia's family and friends during this period of sudden loss. Amen! |
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« Reply #35 on: January 03, 2010, 12:21:00 AM » |
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This is so terrible to hear. Here I was pestering you with my own little problems in PM without a clue about this day you are going through. I cannot find the words to express my deep sadness about this tragedy.
The only thing I can think of to comfort you is to try and remember that death is a lie of the devil and that the grave has been conquered by our Lord. I know such things often seem trite in our greatest hour of pain, but know that my thoughts and prayers will be with you and your daughters tonight.
May Mary's memory be eternal!
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« Reply #37 on: January 03, 2010, 01:12:32 AM » |
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Eternal memory. I am so sorry. I will remember all of you at Liturgy tomorrow.
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« Reply #38 on: January 03, 2010, 05:15:17 PM » |
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Lord have mercy. May Mary Cecilia's memory be eternal. Asteriktos, I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you, Athansia and Sahara.
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« Reply #39 on: January 03, 2010, 11:02:14 PM » |
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Dear Asteriktos, I am so incredibly sorry for your loss, brother. Extremely shocking. My most sincere sympathies. Eternal be Mary Cecilia's memory! Dear Lord, please grant the eternal comfort to the newly reposed handmaiden Mary Cecilia. May God bless and protect you, Athanasia and Sahara. You all are in my unworthy prayers. What a beautiful picture!
Exactly! Thank you for posting this, Asteriktos. Please let us know what we can do to help you and yours.
Ditto. Again, my most sincere condolences. Dear Redeemer, please grant the eternal rest to Mary Cecilia and help her loves ones. |
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The worst day of my life. Thank you all for your prayers. My mother and her husband came down to be with me today, so I was not alone for most of the day, and they also went with me to the funeral home. I have lost the person I cared about most on this earth. It happened so suddenly. Just yesterday she was talking to people, myself included, and she was fine. She wished me a happy new year, and hoped that I was "healthy and happy". Less than one day later, she's dead. I don't hate God. I don't blame God. I just don't understand.
EDIT--PS, for anyone praying for my daughters, if you'd like to pray for them by name, they are Athanasia and Sahara.
So much that happens has to be taken by Faith as there is no answer that satisfies our ability to understand. I was told once that God takes us at the time that is best for our Salvation. I feel sadness for you and your children, but I know that I cannot feel what you feel now. However, I do believe that Mary was taken at the time that was best for her Salvation, and she and you are in my unworthy prayers. |
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« Reply #42 on: January 05, 2010, 01:05:28 AM » |
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I am so, so sorry to hear about this. May her memory be eternal, and may God grant comfort to his servant Justin and his handmaidens Athanasia and Sahara.
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Veechnaya Pamyat … May her Memory be Eternal.
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My dear friend, my prayers are with you and your family during this incredibly difficult time in your life. May Mary Cecilia's memory be eternal! I will light a candle in her memory tonight at Divine Liturgy. |
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Memory Eternal to Mary Cecilia, and Lord, have mercy on Justin, Athanasia, and Sahara.
Justin, dear brother, I am so sorry. If you need anything, really anything, just holler, I'm here.
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« Reply #46 on: January 05, 2010, 05:07:24 PM » |
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Thank you all for your concern and prayers. We did the viewing today. The viewing was supposed to be private and we were originally expecting (or trying to limit it to) 20 people, but we got more like 40 when all was said and done. The extra people weren't an issue like I thought it might be, though, and everyone fit in the room ok. Many of Mary's family (Father's side) and many of my family (Father's side) are Roman Catholic, so they said the rosary. After a short interlude, we then had an Orthodox priest, Fr. John, say a prayer service for her, and he gave a short talk afterwards. I guess because we had not embalmed her, they didn't want the viewing to go on too long, so after that we just said our final goodbyes. We then had a little get together in the hall of the Methodist Church that Mary's grandmother attends, and the Church ladies cooked the food for us.
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Thank you all for your concern and prayers. We did the viewing today. The viewing was supposed to be private and we were originally expecting (or trying to limit it to) 20 people, but we got more like 40 when all was said and done. The extra people weren't an issue like I thought it might be, though, and everyone fit in the room ok. Many of Mary's family (Father's side) and many of my family (Father's side) are Roman Catholic, so they said the rosary. After a short interlude, we then had an Orthodox priest, Fr. John, say a prayer service for her, and he gave a short talk afterwards. I guess because we had not embalmed her, they didn't want the viewing to go on too long, so after that we just said our final goodbyes. We then had a little get together in the hall of the Methodist Church that Mary's grandmother attends, and the Church ladies cooked the food for us.
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« Reply #48 on: January 05, 2010, 05:49:12 PM » |
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Yes, they did attend. We had a few conversations among various of the family about the pros and cons of children so young (3 and 4 1/2) attending their mother's funeral. In the end we felt that it would be best for them to at least have the chance of seeing their mother one last time. They were a bit confused/clingy, but that might have been because they were around so many people, and that there was crying and whatnot. When we held them close to Mary's body, they didn't seem to have any understanding of what was happening, and obviously we didn't try to be explicit about the situation. My older daughter, Athanasia, perhaps understood that something wasn't quite right, but she wasn't crying or fussing. My younger daughter, Sahara, was actually somewhat playful, talking about the flowers and pictures and whatnot close to the body.
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Very brave of you to give them that chance. They will remember when they are older and it will matter - very important to give them the chance to participate.
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« Reply #51 on: January 05, 2010, 06:27:12 PM » |
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Yes, they did attend. We had a few conversations among various of the family about the pros and cons of children so young (3 and 4 1/2) attending their mother's funeral. In the end we felt that it would be best for them to at least have the chance of seeing their mother one last time. They were a bit confused/clingy, but that might have been because they were around so many people, and that there was crying and whatnot. When we held them close to Mary's body, they didn't seem to have any understanding of what was happening, and obviously we didn't try to be explicit about the situation. My older daughter, Athanasia, perhaps understood that something wasn't quite right, but she wasn't crying or fussing. My younger daughter, Sahara, was actually somewhat playful, talking about the flowers and pictures and whatnot close to the body.
Good. Everyone I've know who were prevented in a similar situation grew up resentful about itl and never quite got resolution. I don't know anyone who went who was traumatized beyond the actual trauma of the facts: they seem to have used the viewing/funeral as a way to focus their disperate thoughts. For what it's worth, I think you made the right choice. |
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« Reply #52 on: January 05, 2010, 11:48:24 PM » |
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Yes, they did attend. We had a few conversations among various of the family about the pros and cons of children so young (3 and 4 1/2) attending their mother's funeral. In the end we felt that it would be best for them to at least have the chance of seeing their mother one last time. They were a bit confused/clingy, but that might have been because they were around so many people, and that there was crying and whatnot. When we held them close to Mary's body, they didn't seem to have any understanding of what was happening, and obviously we didn't try to be explicit about the situation. My older daughter, Athanasia, perhaps understood that something wasn't quite right, but she wasn't crying or fussing. My younger daughter, Sahara, was actually somewhat playful, talking about the flowers and pictures and whatnot close to the body.
Good. Everyone I've know who were prevented in a similar situation grew up resentful about itl and never quite got resolution. I don't know anyone who went who was traumatized beyond the actual trauma of the facts: they seem to have used the viewing/funeral as a way to focus their disperate thoughts. For what it's worth, I think you made the right choice. Agreed! |
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« Reply #53 on: January 06, 2010, 12:27:09 AM » |
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I also agree. Thank you for sharing something so deep and personal with us. I only hope that our support is some consolation in this great time of loss. Even though or relationships online are somewhat abstract, I know now that they are real, because when I read about your daughters seeing her body, I began to well up with tears. In our own small way, we are hurting with you.
Lord, have mercy!
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« Reply #54 on: January 06, 2010, 03:33:46 AM » |
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May Mary Cecilia's memory be eternal and may Justin, Athanasia, and Sahara be comforted in the thought that the Lord's handmaiden is in a place of light and love, where there is neither suffering nor sighing, but only life everlasting.
Justin, my condolences and prayers for you and the girls.
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« Reply #55 on: January 02, 2011, 06:08:44 AM » |
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One year ago today. Not exactly a happy new year for me. They say holidays are the hardest, but it hasn't been overwhelmingly emotional. Dec. 8 was my daughter's 4th birthday, Dec. 22nd the anniversary of my chrismation in 2001 (yes, it matters enough to me to remember, strange as that may sound), Dec. 25th Christmas, Dec. 28th would have been our 8th wedding anniversary (had we made it that far), Jan. 1 new years... ahh well. I know it sounds corny and cliche, but take a moment to tell someone what you think of them, you never know when they'll be gone.
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« Reply #56 on: January 02, 2011, 08:25:20 AM » |
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take a moment to tell someone what you think of them, you never know when they'll be gone. On this, her first annversary of repose, may Mary Cecilia's memory be eternal and may the Mother of Our Savior, the Holy Theotokos, continue to hold Athanasia, and Sahara close. Lord, give comfort to Justin in his memories of times past and in his expectation of times to come. |
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« Reply #57 on: January 02, 2011, 09:56:58 AM » |
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« Reply #58 on: January 02, 2011, 11:07:30 AM » |
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« Reply #59 on: January 02, 2011, 11:24:14 AM » |
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+Memory Eternal!
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« Reply #60 on: January 02, 2011, 12:14:06 PM » |
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« Reply #61 on: January 02, 2011, 01:25:29 PM » |
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« Reply #62 on: January 02, 2011, 02:55:48 PM » |
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« Reply #64 on: January 02, 2011, 06:28:17 PM » |
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Memory eternal.
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« Reply #65 on: January 02, 2011, 08:41:30 PM » |
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+Memory Eternal upon the soul of Mary Cecelia.
Lord, have mercy upon Asteriktos, his little girls, and his extended family.
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Memory Eternal.....Amen Amen
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« Reply #67 on: January 02, 2011, 09:47:09 PM » |
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Lord have mercy on you and your girls and Memory Eternal for Mary Cecelia.
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Memory Eternal!
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