@Ordinary, I believe they are common, much to the consternation of some who reacted negatively to my reasons. It feels like for some here, your word isn't good enough, you have to provide a 50 page dissertation with proof texts and foot notes before they'll even consider if you have anything worthwhile to say.
This is just a discussion forum.
I'm sorry to hear you left, its tempting to leave, I totally get that. I guess what keeps me in is that Orthodoxy is something bigger than the sum of us all. I don't know if that's helpful to you.
I'd like to hear more about your experiences if you don't mind.
@DCBmoreOCF, sorry I didn't see your reply until today. I'll use your original bullets as guidelines.-Lack of accountability, especially amongst the clergy (especially in incidences of abuse and heresy)
Apparently my priest routinely "borrowed" money from parishioners (hundreds of dollars at a time). He always gave bogus reasons for borrowing and never repaid these "loans". I foolishly gave him money several times. I felt that if the priest needed money then he should have gone to the church instead of individual parishioners who had no way of holding him accountable. I suspect that this priest was abusing the faith of his parishioners. Everybody in that parish knows about the problem. It is possible that the church doesn't pay him enough money and he is forced to go to parishioners. I don't know.
In addition my priest seemed to be a compulsive liar. The priest would routinely promise to visit people (without anybody requesting his visit), but then he would never show up. In one case my father was sick with cancer and received an unexpected call from the priest that he would be right over. My father made the effort to dress even though he was sick but the priest never showed. This behavior was so common that experienced parishioners were not particularly surprised by it.
The church's website listed extra services during Lent, but they only happened the first two weeks. I suspect listing the services on the website without actually having these services allowed the priest to satisfy some expectations of his superiors.
I suspected the priest was an atheist based on the advice he gave me. His beliefs seemed much closer to Episcopalian than Orthodox. I'm not sure though.
I could go on and on. Actually I like the priest as a person, but he was very confusing.-Myopic focus on one's ethnicity to the exclusion of everything and everyone else
This was not such a big problem. Our liturgy was mostly in English. The big services were more ethnic and not in English, so I skipped them.-If you are not a member of the clergy, or if you are a single male, you are not taken seriously
Our church had meetings and leaders, but all the real decisions and knowledge was hidden. One parishioner told my mother that he had been a member of the leadership for a year and didn't even realize it, because nobody told him or had any meetings.
This didn't bother me, because I had no desire to be in any of those meetings. -complete unwillingness to expand ministry to lay people and to provide the appropriate structure and training for such endeavours (being told we don't do this because it is not the "Orthodox Way")
I didn't notice this problem, but our parish was very small. Usually we had about 100 people attending.-lack of instruction in orthodoxy before baptism (this wasn't on your list, but somebody mentioned it)
I had ZERO instruction before baptism. I attended church for a couple of months and then called the priest to see if I could join. Our church was too small to have any instruction. Also, I was having hallucinations and delusions, and maybe the priest thought baptism would help. I don't know.-why am I an atheist now?
Maybe the problems listed above were a factor, but mostly I wasn't meant to be a Christian. I have been an atheist to varying degrees most of my adult life. I had a mental breakdown, and that confused me. I became very religious and joined that Orthodox church. As my mental health recovered, I felt very uncomfortable and eventually quit. I am so happy to be an atheist after all that.
(Also, I don't want what I wrote to sound overly critical of my Orthodox parish or priest. I just wanted to give my experiences. The people were all very nice to me - even the priest.)