I'm a young woman in my early 20's. I am a recent convert to Orthodoxy, and I know this is how I must follow God.
I've been with my boyfriend who is also an Orthodox Christian now for about 4/5 months.
Recently I lied to him (Please PM me for more details) and it REALLY caused a massive change. However, I confessed to him, and he has forgiven me. However, he wants to "cool down" I think now with all our plans to get married etc This is really upsetting for me.
However, I understand his reasons. We need to know each other, and TRUST each other 100% before we can even think about getting married.
Right now I'm really praying and reading the word so that I can mature, and restore what we had.
In a way I'm glad this happened now, where I can address any deep-seated issues I have, and we can both concentrate on knowing each other BETTER.
It just hurts so much to know this had to happen though.
What advise would you ladies and gentlemen give a young woman in my position? How can we move on and get that "connection" back that feeling of total unity mentally and spiritually?
Though I certainly don't know you or your boyfriend or the details (nor do I want to), there's a good chance that you and he may never be able to move on or get back. The relationship, for better or worse, has been changed, by your decision and choice. It remains to be seen whether he is willing to accept the changed relationship or not. It depends on what his "non-negotiables" are.
And, btw, it didn't "have to happen." What happened was due to a decision or a choice that you made. You may not (probably were not) thinking about potential consequences when you lied, but it was certainly your choice.
One thing that did strike me about your post, and if I am being unfair, I apologize in advance and ask you to forgive me, was that it seemed to be mostly about you.
, your issues, your problems, your wishes. As long as it's all about you, progress is unlikely.