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Offline StGeorge

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Advice?
« on: November 27, 2009, 07:55:02 PM »
Please read through to the end.  I work at a bank as a teller.  Today, a somewhat frequent customer (I'll call him G) came into the lobby to make a deposit.  First thing I noticed about him was that the skin on his face and neck was all flush red.  He brought with him a distinct odor of aftershave/cologne or maybe alcohol.  I asked him how his thanksgiving was, and he said it was "eventful" in the sense that it did not go well.  After I made the deposit for him, he asked me a question: If I were to die, could I just write a check out to someone to give them my money?  I was a bit addled by this question and responded that most people put people in their wills for this purpose.  He said he didn't want to go through that.  A little later he said he doesn't know how things are going with him and his girlfriend and that things are messed up in his life.  I said I was sorry to hear that, and asked if there might be anything (I had to be careful here, since I'm a teller!) I could do to help him.  He said thanks but he would be all right. 

If you could first of all pray for this man, whom I call G.  Also, is there anything more I could have done to help him?  He did not mention intentions of suicide or harming himself, but the way he talked about giving money away to people if he died was a little strange to hear.  I wondered if he was all lit up too and not thinking straight. 


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Re: Advice?
« Reply #1 on: November 27, 2009, 07:56:43 PM »
Lord have Mercy.

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Re: Advice?
« Reply #2 on: November 27, 2009, 08:23:39 PM »

You were at work.  Our hands are tied to a certain degree by corporate policy.

You did as much as you could.  At least you reached out to him. 
When someone is in need that little personal attention means a lot.

How often have I gone to the banks, the checkout counter, the gas station...and the attendent didn't even look me in the eye.

So, the fact that you spoke to him was good.

Best thing we can do is pray for each other.

Lord, have mercy on G.  Help him through his difficulties.

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Re: Advice?
« Reply #3 on: November 27, 2009, 10:35:36 PM »
If you were in Australia, you would refer this to the Mental Health Crisis team. I don't know if there is an equivalent thing in the US. Some people here have made referrals to the police who have then called the Crisis Team- perhaps your local police may know of a referral pathway you can use. You could always ask them without mentioning names at first to check.
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Re: Advice?
« Reply #4 on: November 28, 2009, 01:14:56 AM »
Lord, have mercy on the sick and the suffering. 
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Re: Advice?
« Reply #5 on: November 28, 2009, 03:00:50 AM »
Lord, have mercy.

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Re: Advice?
« Reply #6 on: November 28, 2009, 03:04:59 AM »
Lord have mercy!
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Re: Advice?
« Reply #7 on: November 28, 2009, 11:25:24 AM »
Agreed with the rest; Lord, have mercy.
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Re: Advice?
« Reply #8 on: November 28, 2009, 04:20:19 PM »
Lord, have mercy!
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