If we truly ever accepted Jesus and were His own we would always try to always do what pleases Him because when we accepted Him we acknowledged that we accept His way or atleast we would come back to Him.
I always thought we do what pleases him (follow his commandments) because we (are supposed to) love him and "the fear of the Lord". NOT a fear of punishment or retribution or hell or anything like that! But the fear we have of grieving someone who loves us dearly, and damaging of the relationship (separation from God). This is the relationship God wants from us, that we are his children. And children who LOVE their parents, and have parents who LOVE them, fear doing things that will hurt their parents. From here we can see how genuine heart-felt repentance is a big deal. ( For my part, I never did have a good relationship with my parents, so the idea of LOVE like this, and that God loved us first, and not wanting to grieve the Lord, really penetrates my heart.)
That is a perfect explanation. However not everyone has that relation that he feels such relation gives divine power to not sin and seperate oneself from God.
I hope I find out how or please tell me how.
If one is going to be separated from God and you do not mean that relation gives power but you mean you should not fear God will punish you if you sin I don't understand why one should not fear as he will be seperated from God. Jesus said if your members causes you to sin take drastic measures not to sin
You are asking how to not sin?
I don't expect you've read the book Scent of Holiness about life in a women's monastery. One of the lessons is a story about the different characters that exist in people. Whats right for me might not be right for you, so forgive me for sounding like a know it all.
The background of the story begins with depression, but I think it could be applicable in this conversation too as it deals with sorrow over our sins. (I say a healthy sorrow because that's when we realize we don't want to make a particular sin anymore, and are more likely to change.) It's not necessary to always think of yourself as a sinner, and that sometimes it is better to be grateful to God, and if you make mistakes to accept your fall, rise again, and ask God for forgiveness. I will excerpt this from page 82-83:
"I don't have a blessing to think too much about hell or the Judgement." she told me, smiling in a way that revealed a low opinion of herself.
Hearing this, I realized that the "hard path" (Elder Porphyrios) really is not for everyone --- especially those prone to despondency or despair. And it is not necessarily better; it's just a different path to reliance on God and not on self. The words of Elder Joseph the Hesychast came to mind then. In speaking about the different characters of people, he said, "First of all, my child, know that there are great differences from man to man, and monk to monk. There are souls with a soft character that are very easily persuaded. There are also souls with a tough character that are not subordinated so easily. They are as different as cotton is from iron. Cotton needs only to be rubbed with words, but iron requires fire and a furnace of temptation to be worked."
Those that need to "do violence" (matt 11:12) to themselves should condemn themselves in their thoughts and struggle to overcome their sins with tears, pleading for God to forgive them. For those who are naturally more sensitive, and especially those that struggle with certain forms of depression, they should try to mold their thoughts into a constant flowing stream of gratitude toward Christ and His mercy, His love, and His forbearance.
This second person should avoid focusing on his or her sins too much, so that he or she does not despair. We all need to see our sins, mistakes, and passions and confess them, feel sorry for them, but ultimately struggle with more resolve not to continue in them.