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   I seriously don't understand why it's such a challenge for me to just call or send an email. I keep thinking it's going to be weird.

   Should I ask to visit with the priest at Starbucks or something ?


      I have visited the Church once but I didn't take communion or meet with the priest because he seemed very busy during and after the service. Everyone was very nice though.

    I don't even know what to ask.  :o     

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Why not try to catch him before or after Evening service on Saturday?

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Why not try to catch him before or after Evening service on Saturday?


  Good idea.

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I can just tell you what I did - I emailed the priest a week before I planned on attending Liturgy (priests are notorious for not checking their emails so I wanted to make sure he had enough time to receive it). I explained my background and that I was RC and interested in exploring Orthodoxy. He wrote back, I went to Liturgy that Sunday, then we talked afterwards about catechumen classes. Just email him, you'll be fine. You certainly won't have been the first person to contact him about this.
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I can just tell you what I did - I emailed the priest a week before I planned on attending Liturgy (priests are notorious for not checking their emails so I wanted to make sure he had enough time to receive it). I explained my background and that I was RC and interested in exploring Orthodoxy. He wrote back, I went to Liturgy that Sunday, then we talked afterwards about catechumen classes. Just email him, you'll be fine. You certainly won't have been the first person to contact him about this.


   Thank you very much for the reply.

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I know my priest likes to 'get out' and away, so Starbucks is a great place to meet.
Consider email and see how long it takes for a response; can't hurt.
Sundays are a tough time as it is a very busy day for them.....while your are juggling cats, do you want an interruption?
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I've been to the Sacrament of Confession 4 times and St. Peter's Western Rite Orthodox to the Sunday Service.

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I've also called and phoned in but not sure what this monkey business is about.

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I was considering emailing my confession in............
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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #10 on: February 02, 2016, 01:39:21 PM »
   I seriously don't understand why it's such a challenge for me to just call or send an email. I keep thinking it's going to be weird.

   Should I ask to visit with the priest at Starbucks or something ?


      I have visited the Church once but I didn't take communion or meet with the priest because he seemed very busy during and after the service. Everyone was very nice though.

    I don't even know what to ask.  :o     

Sounds like you and I have similar issues with anxiety and shyness. Welcome to the club.
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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #11 on: February 04, 2016, 07:27:18 PM »
The first time I met with a Priest I emailed him first and set up a time.  Of course, I had pre-planned everything in my head that I wanted to say but  that didn't happen. It ended up being an extremely awkward experience.  Maybe just don't think too far ahead and keep the discussion simple.  :( Just wait to speak with him after the liturgy I think would be best.
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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #12 on: February 05, 2016, 12:30:27 AM »
   I seriously don't understand why it's such a challenge for me to just call or send an email. I keep thinking it's going to be weird.

   Should I ask to visit with the priest at Starbucks or something ?


      I have visited the Church once but I didn't take communion or meet with the priest because he seemed very busy during and after the service. Everyone was very nice though.

    I don't even know what to ask.  :o     

Most if not all priests would be only too happy to have a sit-down and discuss your questions regarding the faith.  Dont be shy, they have heard it all, I think... 8)
Just be natural and let it happen,  Believe me, it is a lot easier than you think.
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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #13 on: February 05, 2016, 01:49:54 AM »
If you could tell us the area of the country you live in someone here may know a local priest and can put you in touch with them.

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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #14 on: February 07, 2016, 07:44:19 AM »
If you could tell us the area of the country you live in someone here may know a local priest and can put you in touch with them.




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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #16 on: February 09, 2016, 11:25:28 AM »
If you could tell us the area of the country you live in someone here may know a local priest and can put you in touch with them.




Nashville TN.


I might recommend St Ignatius.


http://www.saint-ignatius.org/


I'm not speaking from any direct knowledge of the parishes there but St Ignatius is an Antiochian parish and often times Antiochian parishes are used to dealing with inquirers and converts. I'm looking at their bullentin and their website and there are some clues that they may be a convert heavy parish. That might be a good option for you. I'm sure the Greek parishes will be friendly but the priests may not be used to dealing with inquirers.

I can definitely understand your nervousness. If it helps I'll be happy to contact one of the parishes for you and find out how they handle inquirers. When I first started my inquiry I was guided by parishioners at a local Antiochian parish to one of the local OCA parishes as it was very convert heavy. At the very least any of the priests in the area should be able to offer you some guidance of that kind. I know it sounds silly but once you get used to speaking with priests you won't feel weird contacting any of them.

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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #17 on: February 09, 2016, 09:41:17 PM »
Couple hours away In Oak Ridge, St. Anne, is Fr. Stephen Freeman, a good ol' boy from the Carolinas.
He also has podcasts on Ancient Faith Radio. He's made a life study on shame and how it effects us.
I urge you to check him out in any way you can. Listen well and you will change your life.
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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #18 on: February 10, 2016, 03:25:27 AM »
I'm sure the Greek parishes will be friendly but the priests may not be used to dealing with inquirers.

I'm pretty sure Fr. Gregory Hohnholt and Fr. Parthenios Turner will be just fine. 

To the OP, email all the closest parish priests and see the response you get.  You can always inquire about office hours and set up a time for a one-on-one discussion with one of them. 
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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #19 on: February 10, 2016, 06:41:10 AM »
I'm sure the Greek parishes will be friendly but the priests may not be used to dealing with inquirers.

I'm pretty sure Fr. Gregory Hohnholt and Fr. Parthenios Turner will be just fine. 

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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #20 on: February 10, 2016, 08:33:37 AM »
   Thanks very much everyone for your responses.  :)

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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #22 on: February 14, 2016, 05:34:58 PM »
If you could tell us the area of the country you live in someone here may know a local priest and can put you in touch with them.




Nashville TN.


I might recommend St Ignatius.


http://www.saint-ignatius.org/


I'm not speaking from any direct knowledge of the parishes there but St Ignatius is an Antiochian parish and often times Antiochian parishes are used to dealing with inquirers and converts. I'm looking at their bullentin and their website and there are some clues that they may be a convert heavy parish. That might be a good option for you. I'm sure the Greek parishes will be friendly but the priests may not be used to dealing with inquirers.

I can definitely understand your nervousness. If it helps I'll be happy to contact one of the parishes for you and find out how they handle inquirers. When I first started my inquiry I was guided by parishioners at a local Antiochian parish to one of the local OCA parishes as it was very convert heavy. At the very least any of the priests in the area should be able to offer you some guidance of that kind. I know it sounds silly but once you get used to speaking with priests you won't feel weird contacting any of them.




    I actually went to this Church today. I liked it very much. I was able to speak with a few of the people and ask questions.

  Surprisingly, the most challenging things I've been grappling with haven't even been theological. I think the hardest things for me to get past are stuff like everyone drinking from the same spoon, kissing relics etc. ( I mean no disrespect by saying this.)

   Maybe it's a cultural thing I'm struggling with.

   I'm convinced Orthodox Christianity is The Fullness of The Church and it is Amazing. Most of the stuff I'm dealing with in my mind is minor in nature.  Thanks again everyone for your input and responses.
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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #23 on: February 14, 2016, 06:55:02 PM »
Just fire off an e-mail too him asking to meet after church or for coffee. Priests, contrary to popular belief, are people too.
And, yes. It will be awkward. You're meeting someone who has dedicated their life to something you are trying to understand. Once you get to know one another you'll feel more comfortable.
Fun fact: it took me four months to first go to and Orthodox Church and talk to the priest after discovering Orthodoxy. So, yeah. Totally normal.
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Re: I want to contact a Priest and just have dialog but It's so awkward for me.
« Reply #24 on: February 16, 2016, 02:34:20 AM »
If you could tell us the area of the country you live in someone here may know a local priest and can put you in touch with them.




Nashville TN.


I might recommend St Ignatius.


http://www.saint-ignatius.org/


I'm not speaking from any direct knowledge of the parishes there but St Ignatius is an Antiochian parish and often times Antiochian parishes are used to dealing with inquirers and converts. I'm looking at their bullentin and their website and there are some clues that they may be a convert heavy parish. That might be a good option for you. I'm sure the Greek parishes will be friendly but the priests may not be used to dealing with inquirers.

I can definitely understand your nervousness. If it helps I'll be happy to contact one of the parishes for you and find out how they handle inquirers. When I first started my inquiry I was guided by parishioners at a local Antiochian parish to one of the local OCA parishes as it was very convert heavy. At the very least any of the priests in the area should be able to offer you some guidance of that kind. I know it sounds silly but once you get used to speaking with priests you won't feel weird contacting any of them.




    I actually went to this Church today. I liked it very much. I was able to speak with a few of the people and ask questions.

  Surprisingly, the most challenging things I've been grappling with haven't even been theological. I think the hardest things for me to get past are stuff like everyone drinking from the same spoon, kissing relics etc. ( I mean no disrespect by saying this.)

   Maybe it's a cultural thing I'm struggling with.

   I'm convinced Orthodox Christianity is The Fullness of The Church and it is Amazing. Most of the stuff I'm dealing with in my mind is minor in nature.  Thanks again everyone for your input and responses.



You are not alone in that concern I promise you. But as you become more and more convinced of the truth then that sort of thing will stop bothering you. On the Eucharist it is literally impossible for any harm to come from the Body and Blood of Christ. I would recommend you try not to worry about those things yet and take it a step at a time. Continue attending services and speaking with people. What you will begin to learn is that Orthodoxy is experienced, not learned from a book. Books are very important but living the faith is much more important.