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Offline wlee4048

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Re: Conversion and waiting on spouses
« Reply #90 on: April 07, 2015, 02:06:27 PM »
I spent 23 years in the military and am familiar with PTSD.  Has he sought out counseling through the VA?  They provide a great support network and can help. You're right, if it is PTSD it can be frightening.  Or it could be used as an excuse to control.  Either way I will pray for you.

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Re: Conversion and waiting on spouses
« Reply #91 on: April 07, 2015, 02:07:26 PM »
he went to counseling...for two months, decided he was 85% better, quit, and wont' go back. he keeps saying he will but i haven't seen it happen yet.

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Re: Conversion and waiting on spouses
« Reply #92 on: April 07, 2015, 02:15:52 PM »
The unfortunate thing is you can't force him back into counseling.  He has to first admit there is a problem and go from there.  Many of our military members have suffered and are suffering from PTSD, but there is help.  The memories may never go away, but they can heal.  God is our great physician.

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Re: Conversion and waiting on spouses
« Reply #93 on: April 07, 2015, 02:17:41 PM »
Amen. Oh...and thank you for your service...welcome home.

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Re: Conversion and waiting on spouses
« Reply #94 on: April 07, 2015, 07:33:28 PM »
SilentShadow, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through.  :'(

My wife is also deeply anti-Orthodox. I have had objects (shoes mostly) thrown at me several times over it. At least for me, being the man, I've never felt as if I have been in physical harm. I've been kicked out of the bedroom, but never the house. Fortunately, things have slowly quieted down for me. She still hates it, but at least we have kind of established a truce where we just don't talk about it.  If you are in harm's way, please make sure that you and your children are safe. I don't know where you live, but I know our parish has provided assistance to those who have been victims of abuse. I'm sure there are others. Sometimes, it takes some time apart before someone realizes how destructive their behavior is and has time to reflect and make changes in their life.

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Re: Conversion and waiting on spouses
« Reply #95 on: April 07, 2015, 07:34:09 PM »
Lord have mercy.
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Re: Conversion and waiting on spouses
« Reply #96 on: April 07, 2015, 08:29:12 PM »
I was just told again, for the billionth time, to leave his house and never come back, kids and all.  :-[

Lord, have mercy!