SilentShadow, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through.
My wife is also deeply anti-Orthodox. I have had objects (shoes mostly) thrown at me several times over it. At least for me, being the man, I've never felt as if I have been in physical harm. I've been kicked out of the bedroom, but never the house. Fortunately, things have slowly quieted down for me. She still hates it, but at least we have kind of established a truce where we just don't talk about it. If you are in harm's way, please make sure that you and your children are safe. I don't know where you live, but I know our parish has provided assistance to those who have been victims of abuse. I'm sure there are others. Sometimes, it takes some time apart before someone realizes how destructive their behavior is and has time to reflect and make changes in their life.
May God bless you and your family. Lord, have mercy!