This is not a "song" that you are all referring to. It is a prayer.
As this is the Ukrainian
Orthodox Church in the USA, what is wrong with saying a prayer for Ukraine? Do we not pray for the American president, government and armed forces? Why so "anti" Ukraine?
This is not a "nationalistic, political" song. This is not the national anthem. It is a prayer, begging God to preserve Ukraine.
Honestly, I don't see the issue. So what if it's sung in Ukrainian? If the Liturgy was in English and the folks understood it, what's the harm of the closing prayer being in Ukrainian? They should realize they are in a Ukrainian church, after all.
As for the mentality of the choir director...I can't vouch for him. I don't know him and don't know what drives his attitude. I suppose if most of the parish isn't happy with him, appoint a new director. It's been done before.
My parish always sings the prayer for Ukraine. While the service is 50/50 English/Ukrainian, I haven't heard anyone complain.
So, here goes: (this is me singing...
Боже великий, єдиний, God, One Almighty
Нам Україну храни, Protect Ukraine for us
Волі і світу промінням by freedom's and the rays of light
Ти її осіни. May You illuminate her.
Світлом науки і знання By the light of education an knowledge
Нас, дітей, просвіти, Enlighten us, Your children,
В чистій любові до краю, With pure love to the land
Ти нас, Боже, зрости. You, our God, instill us.
Молимось, Боже єдиний, We pray, Lord, the Only
Нам Україну храни, For us, Ukraine please keep
Всі свої ласки й щедроти All of your generosity
Ти на люд наш зверни. Please grant to our people.
Дай йому волю, дай йому долю, Give them freedom, give them a good destiny,
Дай доброго світу, щастя, Give them happiness
Дай, Боже, народу Give this, God, to the people
І многая, многая літа. And many, many years!
Again, let me reiterate. Church is NOT a ethnic club, or anything of that sort.
Orthodoxy should always come first. The liturgy should be served in a way that the people understand it.
However, one should not be afraid of everything that links that church to it's ethnic background. After all, it was the those people (in this case Ukrainian), who preserved the Faith in the old country...in many cases dying for their beliefs; it was the those ethnic people who came to America, and did not pick another faith for convenience, but, persevered and built this church.
We should be proud of our Ukrainian Orthodox heritage.
I wish every Orthodox church the best in keeping the church doors open and attracting new parishioners.
However, keep in mind what Taras Shevchenko once said:
...Учітесь, читайте, і чужому научайтесь, і свого не цуpайтесь...
...Study, read, learn foreign things, but, do not reject your own...