When you find your fantasy world, where a female Patriarch of Constantinople rules your Church with a Synod of female Bishops; where an EO emperor of Constantinople has eradicated all traces of Islam through propaganda and violent force; where the official language of the world is koine Greek; where people walk around in togas philosophising in the streets, discussing Plato and Plotinus and the like; where childless 45+ year old married couples represent half of the population (the other half being less-than-45 year old persons awaiting to be part of a 45+ year old childless marital relationship); where alcohol flows readily from the taps of oneÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s household sinks; where the outcasts of society are those who did not succeed in maths at school; please notify me so I can wake you up!
However, for most of life's more casual situations (and perhaps not so casual), I really would prefer it if we went back to the toga. A much simpler, more natural garment. The hooch taps sound pretty good too.
I think the marriage issue is larger than most people are willing to admit. It is not simply a private contract between the "spouses-to-be." This is why rulers (whether they were simply desert sheiks or shamanic chieftans, or seated upon the Imperial Throne) have always taken an interest in them. It's only because of the contranatural madness
of this present era, a madness only possible for apostates.
We have made it such a personal, even sentimental
affair, that we even ignore nature and think sodomites should be wedded (when will the pedophiles, zoophiles, and necrophiles get their turns?!) Well, that'd makes sense, were it simply "society's rubber stamp on our luv
". However, that is not the case.
The other virtues can help make up for an immediate lack of wisdom
- and if yearned for sincerely, can definately make up for a want of "mere" experience...or better put, allow one the opportunity to grow themselves in a healthy way, as a well tended plant. Humility and good will can act as the supports unto good personal growth, which can be less necessary with time, as the tree will support itself like a strong trunk on a mature tree. It will be what it ought to be, and as such, God-pleasing.
The problem nowdays is simply that people (even those who call themselves "Christians") are not serious about very much, even really crucial things. Saying simply "well, it takes longer for people now to grow up." That's not the whole truth - what is closer to the bone is that all of us are kept quite infantile for far too long, even those of us who are allowed to vote, drive cars, drink alcohol and go fight wars (indeed, even some of us far more advanced in years than this.) That's not just a crime of the youth - they're simply this age's first obvious victims. It would seem that being 25 or 30 doesn't help people's marriages a lot...not according to the divorce stats at least; and when they're not getting formally divorced, how many of those not counted as divorced may as well be with their sham marriages - for those same staticians tell us that of both men and women, an even higher percentage than the number whose relationships end in divorce admit to adultery. The women are not wives to their husbands, and the men are scarcely husbands at all (or even "males" for that matter) to their wives. Being middle aged doesn't seem to help that very much.
So besides being obviously weird (esp. if the recommendation is for the espoused woman to ideally be near menopausal!), the recommendation that people wait to be over the hill before getting married is just unneccesarry, solving none of the really important problems. And guess what's not included in that list of "problems" that I refer to? Money. Two cars (or even one car) , a house, degrees, etc. Should we be prudent about practical things? Of course, especially on the male end of the equation - he has the primary moral obligation before God to provide for his family (if your wife helps you, you're deeply in her debt
.) But those matters are more fluid than people imagine. Playing things too safe
isn't the same as being God-fearing.