People are people, Rosehip; people will let you down (we all have our weaknesses, we are all in need of a Saviour). God is the only One Who can be fully trusted.
Many women and men, Christians and non-Christians, base their self-worth on their looks, their education, their jobs, their family status, the number of friends they have, or they place too much importance on it all. Material success, looking the right way, wearing the right thing, having a partner, etc, brings a feeling of security: it is human nature.. "I have a good figure, a nice car, a nice home, a very good income, a shining career, a wonderful boyfriend, therefore I have everything"...
On your dictionary.com, self-esteem is defined as:
1. belief in oneself; self-respect
2. undue pride in oneself; conceit
Self-confidence is defined as:
confidence in oneself, one's own abilities, etc.
Our sense of self-worth can be based on:
our physical appearance
our financial status
our talents and strengths
our romantic relationships, etc
This is what I have learned.... As a Christian, I am to have the deepest and most profound sense of confidence, but the foundation for my confidence is not myself, or anything I own or have in this world, it must be God. I should base my self-worth in nothing more and nothing less than Christ, in His love for us and how he demonstrated that love through His death and resurrection. After experiencing God's grace, and seeing the beauty of who I truly am in Christ, I will come to truly love myself. It is not a pride thing or selfish thing but a love that is thankful to God. I can only have good and true self-esteem in Christ when I look at my whole self through the eyes of Grace. The things that we are given, no matter what it is, comes from God anyway. Praying and having a close relationship with God has helped me so much and I now have much more confidence, real confidence; I mean, I do not judge myself like the world judges me. Being close to Christ is true happiness - I am talking about a deep inner happiness. Jobs fall through, things go wrong in my relationships, people stab me in the back, people treat me like something they have just stepped in on in the street. I battled illness for a couple of years. I might put on weight in the future, out of choice, I might lose my job, my house might burn down to the ground, perhaps I'll never meet the man of my dreams - someone who truly loves me - but I will remain glowing with the confidence, happiness and peace that only comes with being close to Christ - God willing. God loves you, Rosehip, He knows what is best for you, it is all in His hands.... As always, you are in my thoughts and prayers...