...about people you just plain don't want to be around?
A little background. I had this friend, let's call him "Brian," who was the singer in my present band and with whom I was pretty close. I was even the best man at his wedding this past May. We had a falling out, partly due to differences of opinion regarding band business and partly because, well, I just realized I didn't know the guy and what I did know I didn't really like. He's one of those people who is always "on," playing a role all the time and wearing a different mask for each situation and he has more than once been deceitful about things directly impacting on my life. I find him to be obnoxious and pretentious.
Basically, I find it very difficult to even think of him without getting upset at how he's treated me, my wife, and our mutual friends.
I'm still quite angry about the falling out we had and the circumstances which led to it and am just not ready to forgive and move on. I know this is my problem and also know that I will, someday, hopefully soon, forgive him.
But what about after? What does one do in a situation where you forgive someone who wronged you but know that you just don't want to be around this person afterwards?