I know Douglas doesn't like generalizations, but then he wasn't single for 40 years of his life and hasn't had the same experiences I've had. I'm not good at lying, so my experiences with men are unfortunately all true. The closest I came to finding a man whom I thought shared many of my interests turned out to be a pathological liar, drunkard, and despite all these terrible qualities, already is with yet another woman. Yet an honest, sincere, caring woman is never good enough for any man.
In my dating life, I found myself attracted to women who needed various degrees of help, some more than others. I was not directly able to help them all; however, indirectly, I feel I've had some impact on their lives.
I'm sure you are truly honest, sincere and caring, which is perfectly fine. A woman from my past was also very honest, sincere and caring except that her immaturity negated all these positive qualities.
In the 1980's, a niece of my father's wanted to marry an American man, to the chagrin of her traditional family. When the niece came to my father for advice about marriage, he told her a very simple and powerful reply which is roughly translated from the Greek as "do what the majority does." As an example, if you wear headdresses and very few people do, perhaps the time has come to take off the headdress.
Just as I was finding myself attracted to women who needed help, the pathological liars, drunkards and adulterers are attracted to you because these men see that you are someone that can be walked over without impunity. Using the same analogy, women who lie, drink, flirt with other men and own pets are not attracted to me because I will not tolerate these behaviors from the start.
To complete this post, I was scared to death of having any roommate when I was entering college. I prayed under my breath asking the Lord to find me a suitable roommate that I could get along and not have problems. From that point, I've had my best friend for 18 years, stood in his wedding and seen his children even as he's tremendously busy in academia. The Lord delivers; however, one has to work and not expect things to be handed to them on a silver platter.
I hope the vignette helped. I apologize if I offended. The thread said, "Question for Men" and as a man, I've given the best answer I could.
May the Lord Bless you.