It can be frustrating when one disagrees with an archbishop or another member of the clergy. However, we must remember that God is their judge, not us. It would be better to pray for them. When you show disrespect, you are showing disrespect not only to the man, but also to his office.
I used to adhere to that, however over the years I've come to disagree with that position in some cases. I think that the man and the office have to be separated somewhat more than the Church has been doing for a number of centuries. Uniting them into one thing has only created problems in the Church. Now, perhaps "disrespecting" the man by getting up and walking out is not always the most Christian thing to do, however for laymen it might be the only thing we can do if indeed our Bishop says something totally absurd or grievously un-Christian. (like make racist comments) and yes, I know of Bishops who have done that sadly, and had I been there I WOULD have walked out) I mean Christ did say to those who do not receive him to shake the dust off your feet and walk out of the town. (I paraphrase...lol!)
If I walk out on my Bishop because he says or does something absurd, I don't think I'm automatically disrespecting the office of Bishopric.
Perhaps, during the Liturgy I would for the most part agree with you. During the Liturgy he holds the office of celebrant and if he tells me (as a tonsured Reader and Altar Server) to read the Psalms so fast that no one can understand them, or if he tells me to do something weird during the Great Entrance (like spin around 3 times) because of his office I should do it, and be obedient even if I disagree. But IMO once the Liturgical prayers are over he's just "another person" and deserves no extra respect than any other person on planet earth does. If a Bishop makes some horrible comment about Jews, or African Americans, or says Christ was a space alien, (and is actually meaning it in a theological sense) in my mind it would be my responsibility as a Christian to stand up and walk out on such nonsense. That's not to say if I see a Bishop, Priest, Nun, Monk, or whatever on the street I don't at some level give them more respect because of the office they hold, because I personally DO do that. However the office is not an excuse for bad bahavior, because in the end the man is the man, if the man says something terrible I personally don't want to listen to it.
The Antiochian Bishop who sexually harassed a woman in a Casino made some comment along the lines, "I'm a Bishop you can do this (arrest) to me." (again I paraphrase) I don't dredge that up to pronounce guilt or judgment on him, but just to show that we Orthodox have in a sense become enablers of bad behavior with our heirarchy. The very fact that any bishop would invoke his office to imply he deserves "special treatment" because he's a Bishop is a sign that we've merged the man and the office into something it was never intended. Again, that's just my opinion.
With all that said, I DO most definitely agree we SHOULD pray for them. And this has been something that has been hard for me to do, but I've forced myself to do it. And in the end, it does make a difference in my outlook on the individual. It's hard to continue to dislike or even hate those whom you pray for. But I still think if a Bishop said something really nuts, it's our responsibility to do something....and in many cases, simply getting up and walking away would be the MOST Christian thing to do. (as opposed to speaking which might lead to an angry outburst)
Now if he just says something we disagree with personally, then yeah...I agree with you. Again, I'm thinking of extreme cases and not just "I disagree with Met. Kallistos Ware about such and such an issue, and so I won't respect him"...and perhaps that's what the OP originally meant. I don't know. In that case I totally agree with you. But in some serious cases (like what I mentioned) I think it would be our duty to walk away. But maybe I'm wrong.
edited for clarification...i hope...lol!
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