Each child is different, unique and therefore requiring their own style of being parented. Anyone with more than one child can attest to this. Some children need regular spankings, some rarely, other never. It isn't all in who the parent is as much as who the child is. I have one child which if I need to spank, I feel odd because its so rare an event. I have another child which spanking was once a regular occurance. As they grow, they learn and adapt, which hopefully lessens the requirement of spanking. From personal experience, at a certain age, spanking is useless and a punch in the mouth is required. In other words, when I was 17, I learned I wasn't big enough to curse at my father. It only took one lesson. I still don't curse at my father.
Each child is unique and to disregard spanking at a potential discipline severely limits your parenting options. Be prepared if you need to, hope you never do.
Kerdy, how many children do you have?
As I've stated, my wife and I have 5 children.
I was raised with 4 siblings.
All of my children, myself, and my siblings were spanked.
We all have a tight family still, I respect my parents, all the siblings talk with one another. Spanking did not harm us. I am not bitter over any of the numerous spankings I received (with and without a belt, paddle, spoon).
Proverbs, 13:24. "He that spareth his rod hateth his son:
Let's go literal - If you hate your son, you spare the rod.
So what do you do if you do not
hate your son? You do not spare the rod.
"but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes."
The definition of Chastise by merriam webster dictionary is:
1: to inflict punishment on (as by whipping)
There you have it.
If you believe in the books of the bible, if you believe in this wisdom, there is no more argument.
Without any means of boast, we are constantly given compliments on our children's behavior. They do not fear me. They do not fear my wife either. They do not directly defy us either or they know they'll get a spanking. Yes, they make mistakes, and for that we correct them vocally. But in defiance, or directly not following what they are told to do, yes they get a spanking.
The oddest thing about the entire situation is 15 minutes after they get it, they are very well behaved and already having fun with their siblings & animals. Me.... Trust me, it hurts me a lot worse than them. No parent enjoys this chastisement. But it is necessary. We see the evidence of spoiled embittered youth all around us, mainly from parents who do not SPANK their child. (I put SPANK in caps because some parents just pat on the hind end and say "no".... That's not spanking.)
I once heard a mentor of mine say:
"A spanking is a little pain now to save a lot of pain later".