It is not out of legalism, but out of disobedience.
Do any of us (including Priests and Hierarchs) examine his/her own disobedience?
The Priest will not kick them out of Church for not having a head covering. He will, however, refuse to hear their confession or commune them. So, they obey just long enough to get what they want. I wonder if they think that sacraments taken this way are really of any benefit to them.
The last thing a convert (or most people) needs to hear is akriveia (exactness). The liberal options are so tempting....
Have you confused 'needs' with 'wants'? Or have I misunderstood you? If we are to put off the old man or woman then the easiest or most comfortable route seems an unlikely Path to Salvation.
When is the Sunday of the Publican and the Pharisee?
O Lord, I wore my headcovering and get to partake from your Body and Blood while that other woman didn't wear her headcovering and was turned away by our Priest....
EDIT: made corrections
How often does this happen, if at all?
Frankly, this scenario is all hypothetical. For which truly Orthodox Christian lady would haughtily approach the Chalice with her head uncovered if the church has posted that she should cover herself?
That is legalism. Wasn't that the lesson on the Sunday of the Publican and the Pharisee?
And which catechumen would dare to approach the Chalice before being baptized or chrismated into Holy Orthodoxy? None that I know. So, why was this side topic brought up?
I was responding to how Punch's Priest handles uncovered women. Still pertains to covered vs. uncovered cathecumens (I wear a headcovering; I'm better than that woman who doesn't wear a headcovering).
See, now you are revealing your thoughts ...
(I wear a headcovering; I'm better than that woman who doesn't wear a headcovering).
This was not a kind statement, but a rudely judgmental statement.
I do not consider myself better than those women who do not cover themselves. Only Christ can read our hearts and know our thoughts. I try my best not to judge them, but it is very difficult when they have gossiped loudly about me during the Priest's sermon so that I could hear the gossip rather than Father. They were taunting me. And yes, I do pray that they will be saved. Lord have mercy.
And because of this, I have left the OCA as being in their company was not unto my salvation.
Now hear the following which was told to me by catechumens who wear headcovering. These catechmens are not legalistic by any means:
Many women who wear headcoverings do so much like horses wear blinders. It helps them to focus and to control their eyes. They wear it with humility and obedience, and most importantly, it helps them to pray.
So, now we are back on topic as these simple catechumens and converts do not wear the headcovering because they are legalistic, but because they love Christ God and the Orthodox Church and want to obey what was written in the Epistles and has always been taught in the Orthodox Church from the beginning -- that unchanging Faith that was given to us by Christ through the Apostles for all peoples and all times.
Sometimes, it is hot, and then the headcovering is very uncomfortable. I sweat and my hair gets wrecked, but I reflect on Christ and his sufferings. My sufferings are so little compared with what He went through for all of us. The ridicule I have received is so mild with what Christ had to suffer.
Those who follow Christ accept His Cross, and that includes ridicule from those who do not want to adhere to the teachings and traditions of the Holy Orthodox Church.