Well, I did have animosity towards the Novus Ordo Church when I was still in it. It's just that at the time I had no idea what Novus Ordo was, I assumed that was the way it had always been (I after Vatican II). To make an extremely long story short, I always questioned "Church Teachings" like the hippie music, lay people distributing communion, the priests facing us the whole time etc. Then I learned of things like the Inquisitions, all from liberal ed mind you. Then there was the people at that church: I have nothing good to say about them. My parents are very typical of their generation: iconoclast, modernists, pro-abortion etc. who always dragged us to church every week and paid lip service but their hearts were far from God. They certainly weren't Christians at home. If anything the whole experience made my an atheist because it seemed comparitively honest at the time. I learned more about the Mass and Church history in Music Hist. I at a secular college than in 12 years of NO indoctrination. Then those Chant CDs came out and I asked everyone. "This is Church music? How come I've never heard this?!" Then I heard about "The Spirit of Vatican II". I left the Church of Rome LONG ago.
In my early 30's I met an Orthodox priest who I was told went to Catholic seminary. Curiousity got to me. I had always "known" about the Orthodox Church, but assumed it was just an extention of the one I left. Then he told me about the Great Schism and what caused it, about his own Sanctuary, how they do "the Mass" and a week later I attended my first DL. It looked ancient and spooky but very familiar. I talked with some folks afterwards about what the Church thinks of this and that, and found out that they hadn't changed anything since the 800's, well English and pews nothwithstanding. Then i learned of the Orthodox Western Rite of Antioch and ROCOR. The atheist in me died as all the answers I looked for were answered, and these folks were so nice! Went to catechisms, and I learned everything I should've been taught in the RCC.
Then I had even more animosity to the RCC because of that little scandal (and I have to be "nice" here) and because they didn't teach me this stuff. All I was taught was heresy and "DO AS YOU'RE TOLD!" and they punish tradition. Case in point the SPPX while guys like Roger Mahoney still reigns in LA. I saw my first TLM two years ago, and my foaming-at-the-mouth catholic sister pretty much told me I was going to hell when I decided to cross the Volga. She also doesn't "get it" that I didn't learn of or see the TLM until my 30's. I was told that it was normal for converts to feel that way when they join the Church. A deacon at the time (now a priest) told me "It's better to come into the Church walking forward singing, than walking backwards shouting."
I still hate NO and IMHO any Catholic and Orthodox should too. The result of it is: empty pews, empty seminaries, empty convents, empty faith. The priest who brought me into Orthodoxy still gets riled up when ever NO is brought up, so it may take me a while to get over it too. He also told me to be supportive of like-minded people therefore I, being a latin lover, am supportive of so-called Trad Catholics, even though the SPPX people love to call me a "heretic" and tell me I'm going to Hell.
But I also found out that being Orthodox is hard. I follow a moral code that allows very little, and I can't eat meat on Wednesdays and Fridays. But it's not supposed to be easy, even though since I can't lie and cheat I'm at a great disadvantage in the business world. This multi-jurisdictionalism is impossible for me to swallow as well. The RCC may be battling for it's soul but at least there you knew who was in charge...at the top anyway. I also found out that outside the services, there isn't all that much different. I still see politics, nepotism, biblical ignorance and people living in sin. I also found out that at least person of influence in the Antiochian Archdiocese, is not only suffering from Stockholm Syndrome, but is nothing more than a Dhimmi! The ethnic mentality just drives me nuts. But bottom line, I'm in the Church of the Apostles and doing my best to ignore all that other stuff. Then there's the dealing with my family, who look at me like I'M weird!
As for your last question I don't know what to tell you. You're supposed to belong to ONE parish, but people in my parish belong to two (even though they're not supposed to). You're going to have to go with one, and just visit the other. I think it's Roman canon law that you can't jump jurisdictions without approval of both bishops.