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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #45 on: November 23, 2008, 04:39:43 AM »
Lord have mercy on you both!  I am still experiencing the pain and difficulties of such a situation.
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #46 on: November 23, 2008, 07:43:28 PM »
^^ And I'm still praying for you too Nebelpfade.

 I would like to say thank you to everyone who has kept (and is still keeping) us in your thoughts and prayers.  We're both doing OK so far, although it seems like I'm on a treadmill- I'm moving but not getting anywhere.  I think I've made the right decision but when my heart gets involved, I tend to second guess myself.  For some reason I don't feel I should be praying to God for something like this (...but I'm sure glad y'all are!) because it's seems like such a selfish request when there are way worse things going on in the world.  I will pray, though, that God will penetrate my thick head so I'll be able to discern His will for me.  Anyway, really, thanks a million for the kind words, thoughts and prayers.  They really mean a lot to me.

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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #47 on: November 24, 2008, 01:08:46 AM »
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #48 on: November 24, 2008, 01:43:21 AM »
^^ And I'm still praying for you too Nebelpfade.

 I would like to say thank you to everyone who has kept (and is still keeping) us in your thoughts and prayers.  We're both doing OK so far, although it seems like I'm on a treadmill- I'm moving but not getting anywhere.  I think I've made the right decision but when my heart gets involved, I tend to second guess myself.  For some reason I don't feel I should be praying to God for something like this (...but I'm sure glad y'all are!) because it's seems like such a selfish request when there are way worse things going on in the world.  I will pray, though, that God will penetrate my thick head so I'll be able to discern His will for me.  Anyway, really, thanks a million for the kind words, thoughts and prayers.  They really mean a lot to me.

In Christ,

Gabriel

Thanks Gabriel!  May the Lord grant you clarity of thought in these murky of times.
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #49 on: November 24, 2008, 07:28:13 AM »
Lord have mercy.
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #50 on: November 24, 2008, 01:23:42 PM »
It's hard at first and probably will be for a while.  But it does get better.  :)  I used to get so broken-hearted at breakups that I thought I'd never be happy again, but I was wrong.
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #51 on: November 24, 2008, 02:36:00 PM »
Lord, have mercy!

I did something very similar about 8 years ago.  The ex and I just were drifting apart more and more and it got to the point where we were practically just roommates.  It was probably the most painful thing I've ever done, but, in hindsight, the best thing.  I still keep in touch with her.  She is married to a wonderful man and they have a son who just celebrated his first birthday not too long ago.  She's very happy and that's all I ever wanted for her. 

I also would never have met my wife if the ex and I hadn't parted ways.  Oddly enough, we were all in the same places at the same times, knew the same people, etc and never met.  Weird.  Anyways, I know I'm far better off with my wife and I wouldn't have it any other way. :)

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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #52 on: November 24, 2008, 07:33:35 PM »
Lord have mercy on the work of your hands.
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #53 on: December 11, 2008, 04:46:44 PM »
Thought I'd provide an update...

 It is still very difficult for both of us though we don't see each other but maybe once every other  week now.  She'll be leaving for Chicago next week only to return for two weeks before leaving for good.  Some days I feel as though I made the right decision, others days I'm nearly overtaken by despair and sorrow.  Brothers and sisters, if you find the time and remember, please pray for both of us that the Lord will comfort us and give us wisdom and courage to face our future- whatever that may be.

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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #54 on: December 11, 2008, 04:56:21 PM »
May the Lord give you both strength and discernment according to His will and mercy.
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #55 on: December 11, 2008, 05:00:03 PM »
Lord, have mercy on Your servants!
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« Reply #56 on: December 11, 2008, 05:22:00 PM »
Lord, have mercy! Gabriel, brother, may the Lord give you strength and healing.
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #57 on: December 11, 2008, 05:29:22 PM »
Lord have mercy!
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #58 on: December 11, 2008, 05:31:06 PM »
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #59 on: December 11, 2008, 05:51:52 PM »
Lord, have mercy.
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #60 on: December 12, 2008, 12:45:07 PM »
Lord, have mercy!
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #61 on: December 16, 2008, 09:48:09 PM »
Lord have mercy.
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« Reply #62 on: December 16, 2008, 09:49:00 PM »
Lord have mercy.
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #63 on: December 17, 2008, 01:03:36 AM »
Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy!

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« Reply #64 on: January 12, 2009, 11:46:30 PM »
Dear brothers and sisters,

 This is absolutely by far the most tragic and terrifying ordeal I've yet had to go through.  I've lost both sets of grandparents, gone through my parents' divorce and my own divorce eight years ago.  But I don't know how to get past this one.  The waves of sorrow and depression are relentless to the point I've had to take sedatives just to sleep.  I never really understood what such a loss would feel like until now.  It really is like having my heart ripped from me as I still love her so much.  She left for Chicago last night and these past four days have been so difficult.  I really feel like I'm losing my sanity and filling up with doubt, fear, and such despair.  Sorry for rambling on and being so dramatic.  As you say your prayers, if you remember, please pray for myself and Luminitsa.

Thank you so much,

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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #65 on: January 13, 2009, 12:18:55 AM »
Dear brothers and sisters,

 This is absolutely by far the most tragic and terrifying ordeal I've yet had to go through.  I've lost both sets of grandparents, gone through my parents' divorce and my own divorce eight years ago.  But I don't know how to get past this one.  The waves of sorrow and depression are relentless to the point I've had to take sedatives just to sleep.  I never really understood what such a loss would feel like until now.  It really is like having my heart ripped from me as I still love her so much.  She left for Chicago last night and these past four days have been so difficult.  I really feel like I'm losing my sanity and filling up with doubt, fear, and such despair.  Sorry for rambling on and being so dramatic.  As you say your prayers, if you remember, please pray for myself and Luminitsa.

Thank you so much,

Gabriel

Have you spoken to your priest about this? Perhaps he could reccomend a good Orthodox counselor who could help you through this.

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« Reply #66 on: January 13, 2009, 12:27:05 AM »
Lord have mercy!
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« Reply #67 on: January 13, 2009, 12:49:38 AM »
Lord, have mercy!
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« Reply #68 on: January 13, 2009, 01:23:20 AM »
Lord Jesus Christ, grant mercy to this thy servant!

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« Reply #69 on: January 13, 2009, 04:36:46 AM »
Dear brothers and sisters,

 This is absolutely by far the most tragic and terrifying ordeal I've yet had to go through.  I've lost both sets of grandparents, gone through my parents' divorce and my own divorce eight years ago.  But I don't know how to get past this one.  The waves of sorrow and depression are relentless to the point I've had to take sedatives just to sleep.  I never really understood what such a loss would feel like until now.  It really is like having my heart ripped from me as I still love her so much.  She left for Chicago last night and these past four days have been so difficult.  I really feel like I'm losing my sanity and filling up with doubt, fear, and such despair.  Sorry for rambling on and being so dramatic.  As you say your prayers, if you remember, please pray for myself and Luminitsa.

Thank you so much,

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« Reply #70 on: January 13, 2009, 04:58:38 AM »
The Lord of mercy and grace turn your sorrow into joy soon. The Lord visit and exalt you and shine His face on you. The joy and light of the Lord's resurrection penetrate your whole life. Amen.
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« Reply #71 on: January 13, 2009, 11:25:41 AM »
Lord, have mercy on Your faithful servant Gabriel!
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #72 on: January 13, 2009, 11:26:20 AM »

Lord have mercy!

You are in my prayers, Gabriel!

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« Reply #73 on: January 13, 2009, 11:33:20 AM »
Lord, comfort and give strength to Your servant!
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« Reply #74 on: January 13, 2009, 12:37:20 PM »
Glory to you o Lord, Glory to you.

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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #75 on: January 13, 2009, 07:47:12 PM »
Lord have mercy on his servant Gabriel and his handmaiden Luminitsa and guide them through this difficult time.

And Gabriel. . . you know that your family at St. Thomas is always here for you. *hugs*
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #76 on: May 04, 2009, 09:40:01 PM »
Since the end of February, L and I had been talking almost daily.  For some time now, I had really thought that there might actually be a chance for us to get back together; I had even entertained the thought of moving away and marrying her.  Even though I joked about all the typical guy stuff like 'ball and chain' and 'suffocation', the truth is, I really wanted it to work out between us. 

Tonight, after conversing at length with my priest, I realized that no matter how much I love L, we're just two different people who want different things.  It kills me to think about my life without her; and I feel doubly stupid for attempting to change my mind and now needing to ask for prayers again.  L is a wonderful, intelligent young woman who really deserves the best in life.  Unfortunately that person is just not me and it breaks my heart.

I am so thankful that God allowed me to see the truth in this whole situation, but now I ask that you please pray for the both of us to give us strength and courage to go on with our lives.  Please pray that this pain will bring both of us closer to Him, and that if possible, it is short lived.  Thank you, brothers and sisters.
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #77 on: May 04, 2009, 11:25:16 PM »
Lord, have mercy and compassion on Thy servants, Gabriel and L.! I cannot begin to imagine how difficult this must be for you both, after having been together for so long!! :-X
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« Reply #78 on: May 04, 2009, 11:35:36 PM »
Lord, have mercy on them!

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« Reply #79 on: May 04, 2009, 11:40:52 PM »
I pray that through your sorrow and suffering God will bestow His grace on you brother.  Amen.

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« Reply #80 on: May 04, 2009, 11:45:58 PM »
I've been through this myself, Gabriel (many years ago) and it's a very tough road to travel. But time will heal the pain... trust me. Lord have mercy on your servant, Gabriel.
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« Reply #81 on: May 05, 2009, 12:12:46 AM »
Gospode Pomiluj! Amen
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #82 on: May 05, 2009, 01:01:44 AM »
Lord, have mercy on your servants.

At the end of 2006, I broke up with someone because she deserved to be happy with someone who wasn't me.  Try to look at your situation in a similar manner in that L. will find happiness with someone else, which is not a negative reflection on you.

Lord, have mercy.

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« Reply #83 on: May 05, 2009, 02:50:57 AM »
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« Reply #85 on: May 05, 2009, 01:47:27 PM »
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« Reply #86 on: May 05, 2009, 02:03:54 PM »
Lord, have mercy.
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