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Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« on: October 28, 2008, 08:27:46 PM »
Brothers, Sisters and friends,

I feel incredibly selfish for even bringing this up, but I really need your thoughts and prayers with this.  For several months now, almost a year really, I've had serious doubts about my relationship with my girlfriend.  Several years ago, I prayed and prayed to the Theotokos asking her for a companion; not merely any girl of course, but one that She felt I needed.  I know that She sent my girlfriend to me to pull me out of a bad situation I was in (alcohol, drugs, etc...)  We've been through a lot together and I really love her.  But there's something that makes me hesitant to continue the relationship.  I've had friends who've told me that they like her and all, but that they also feel the same way.  Plus, she doesn't like my town (I don't blame her- it's kinda small and xenophobic and she's from Europe).  I can't express how bad it really hurts to think that we might actually break up, but I can't shake these feelings.  There are some negative aspects about her (I guess there's some with all of us), but I'm full of doubts about the whole thing and just really depressed.  I've been praying about it but either I'm too thick-headed to hear God, or He's withholding for a reason.  Please pray for me that I will understand the Lord's will for me (us?) and that I won't loose my sanity over this.

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« Reply #1 on: October 28, 2008, 08:29:48 PM »
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« Reply #2 on: October 28, 2008, 08:30:29 PM »
Lord have Mercy and guide your servant.

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« Reply #4 on: October 28, 2008, 08:34:04 PM »
Lord have mercy, forgive, heal, and guide your servant.
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« Reply #5 on: October 28, 2008, 08:35:15 PM »
Dear brother, you are in my thoughts and prayers!

May the Lord guide and direct you as you seek His will!
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« Reply #6 on: October 28, 2008, 08:36:33 PM »
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« Reply #7 on: October 28, 2008, 11:52:15 PM »
I feel incredibly selfish for even bringing this up,

It is not selfish at all! Absolutely.

Dear Lord, have mercy on Your servant Gabriel and help him in everything.

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« Reply #8 on: October 29, 2008, 12:03:27 AM »
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« Reply #9 on: October 29, 2008, 12:35:38 AM »
Lord, have mercy and guide your servant.
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« Reply #10 on: October 29, 2008, 12:51:38 AM »
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« Reply #11 on: October 29, 2008, 01:34:17 AM »
Lord, have mercy!

I know how heart wrenching uncertainty in a relationship can feel, especially since I am still going through it; my prayers will be with you!
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« Reply #12 on: October 29, 2008, 06:38:06 AM »
Lord have mercy on Your servants.
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« Reply #13 on: October 29, 2008, 07:44:02 AM »
Relationships are very difficult, especially when considering a possible breakup. LORD have mercy!!!
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« Reply #14 on: October 29, 2008, 07:55:03 AM »
Been there, it really kinda robs you of your sanity.. Lord have Mercy on your servant! Grant us your peace!
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« Reply #15 on: October 29, 2008, 08:02:51 AM »
Lord, have mercy on Your faithful servant Gabriel, illumine his heart and lead him to right decisions in life!
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Lord, guide Thy servant!
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« Reply #17 on: October 29, 2008, 10:35:27 AM »
I'm sorry you're unhappy and things are rocky for you right now, Gabriel! :(
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« Reply #18 on: October 29, 2008, 10:37:47 AM »
Lord have mercy!

My thoughts and prayers are with you, brother.  :) 
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« Reply #19 on: October 29, 2008, 12:09:03 PM »
Sort of been there. Lord have mercy on both Gabriel and his girlfriend.
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« Reply #20 on: October 29, 2008, 02:27:00 PM »
Yuck, not cool for you at all Gabriel, stay strong, keep seeking; we'll be praying!

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« Reply #21 on: October 30, 2008, 12:05:34 AM »
Gospode pomiluj...Amin,,,SmileyCentral.com" border="0Lord have Mercy,,,Amen..
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« Reply #22 on: October 30, 2008, 01:16:53 AM »
Relationships are very and difficult and complex. Give yourself time and don't do anything you will regret in a year's time (or 10 years or 20)
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« Reply #23 on: October 30, 2008, 01:36:31 AM »
Lord have mercy on your suffering servant Gabriel!

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« Reply #24 on: October 30, 2008, 10:18:45 AM »
May the Lord bless the decision that you must make!
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« Reply #26 on: October 30, 2008, 09:10:10 PM »
 Lord have mercy on his servant. +  I found this prayer, and thought it might be of some help.


Almighty God, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, come to my help and deliver me from this difficulty that besets me. I believe Lord, that all trials of life are under Your care and that all things work for the good of those who love You. Take away from me fear, anxiety and distress. Help me to face and endure my difficulty with faith, courage and wisdom. Grant that this trial may bring me closer to You for You are my rock and refuge, my comfort and hope, my delight and joy. I trust in Your love and compassion. Blessed is Your name, Father, Son and Holy Spirit, now and forever. Amen.
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #27 on: October 30, 2008, 11:32:47 PM »
Lord have mercy on his servant. +  I found this prayer, and thought it might be of some help.


Almighty God, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, come to my help and deliver me from this difficulty that besets me. I believe Lord, that all trials of life are under Your care and that all things work for the good of those who love You. Take away from me fear, anxiety and distress. Help me to face and endure my difficulty with faith, courage and wisdom. Grant that this trial may bring me closer to You for You are my rock and refuge, my comfort and hope, my delight and joy. I trust in Your love and compassion. Blessed is Your name, Father, Son and Holy Spirit, now and forever. Amen.
Beautiful.  Thank you for that sister;  I'll include this in my prayers.


Also, thanks to everyone else for the kind words and esp for your prayers.  We've been having some heart-to-heart discussions; our future together could go either way.  It hurts to type these words, but I will trust in the Lord that things will go the way they should.  Please continue to pray for me (us).

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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #28 on: November 01, 2008, 12:02:49 AM »
Things have taken a downturn in the last 24 hrs. :(  Please continue to pray for us, but I honestly feel that the rift has become too wide with one too many heated discussions between us.  It just seems that our lives are simply moving in two different directions.  Thank God I'm on vacation next week though because I know the despair will catch me soon.  Please keep her in your prayers as well.  Pray that God will give us both the strength to soldier on.
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Re: Difficult decision- Please pray for me
« Reply #29 on: November 01, 2008, 12:06:34 AM »
Lord, have mercy.
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« Reply #31 on: November 01, 2008, 12:09:21 AM »
Sorry to hear, my friend.

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Lord have mercy on the both of you during these difficult times!
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« Reply #34 on: November 04, 2008, 11:15:55 PM »
Lord have mercy on His servant and his handmaiden.

I hope you know that we care about you, and we're all here for you if you need us. *hugs*
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« Reply #35 on: November 04, 2008, 11:26:06 PM »
Yes, I was thinking about you today too, for certain reasons. May God strengthen and help you!
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« Reply #36 on: November 04, 2008, 11:44:13 PM »
Thank you sisters (and everyone else)!  I'm so glad that we can all rely on each other for prayers here.  As for an update, we'll be getting together this Thursday night to try and work through some issues that are bothering both of us.  I'm wanting both of us to set down with our priest for his thoughts, it's just a matter of all of us getting our schedules to line up.  Thank you all for your continued prayers.
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« Reply #37 on: November 22, 2008, 11:29:44 PM »
Dear friends,

 Please keep myself and my ex in your prayers as we have decided that it's best if we part ways for now.  After much thought, prayer and discussion, we both sadly realize that our lives are moving in two different directions and that we are not as compatible for one another as we had hoped.  As you might imagine, this was a very difficult and heart-breaking decision and I humbly ask that you all please say a little prayer for the two of us. 

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May the Lord have mercy on both of you!
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Still praying :(
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« Reply #40 on: November 22, 2008, 11:36:48 PM »
May the Lord have mercy on His servant Gabriel and his friend and help them through this difficult time of change! Grant to them Your peace, love and divine Presence!
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« Reply #41 on: November 22, 2008, 11:38:19 PM »
Dear friends,

 Please keep myself and my ex in your prayers as we have decided that it's best if we part ways for now.  After much thought, prayer and discussion, we both sadly realize that our lives are moving in two different directions and that we are not as compatible for one another as we had hoped.  As you might imagine, this was a very difficult and heart-breaking decision and I humbly ask that you all please say a little prayer for the two of us. 

In Christ,

Gabriel

Gabriel,

This took an enormous amount of courage to do.  You are to be admired for it.  Many people do not do this and live the rest of their lives saying, "I wish I had..."

God be glorified for all things!

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« Reply #42 on: November 23, 2008, 12:08:40 AM »
Hugs, brother.  I hope everything works out for the best for both of you.  Lord have mercy!
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Lord have mercy.

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« Reply #44 on: November 23, 2008, 12:32:07 AM »
Lord, have mercy.

Hugs, brother. And very best wishes in everything. May God help both of you to have the best possible results in the future.