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« on: September 08, 2008, 09:17:22 AM »

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Is confessing your wrongdoing to the victim of your wrongdoing a part of what is considered a "good confession"? Thanks!

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« Reply #1 on: September 08, 2008, 09:40:54 AM »

This would be up to your spiritual father.

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« Reply #2 on: September 08, 2008, 09:50:55 AM »

I agree. It's something which we need to discern with our Confessor.
Sometimes it can be a good thing to acknowledge to others how we have let them down, and at other times, this may actually do more harm than good and cause unnecessary hurt to others in a selfish attempt to make ourselves feel better. Discernment is what is needed, and if we have been the perpetrator of an injustice to someone, we're hardly in the best position to be able to claim to be discerning.

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« Reply #3 on: September 08, 2008, 10:01:06 AM »

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Is confessing your wrongdoing to the victim of your wrongdoing a part of what is considered a "good confession"? Thanks!
Yes. It's best to go to your priest first for confession.  If your victim doesn't forgive you. It's their problem. Since they choose to sin by not forgiving you. In no way feel that God has not forgiven you. He has. If your victim forgives you as well, than he must be Orthodox in his belief. It's easy for your victim to become the Prodigal sons brother. It's best you pray for him rather than yourself. People love to use guilt as a weapon.

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