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First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« on: August 07, 2008, 10:09:17 AM »
Grace and Peace,

I am bringing my little daughter (6 years old) to Divine Liturgy this Sunday and I was wondering if there is anything anyone would recommend? My daughter is Baptized Roman Catholic and she's never been to any other parish except for the one she was baptized in and the Cathedral of the Sacred Heart in Richmond VA.

I'm a bit nervous and I feel a bit concerned that I am taking her away from the faith she has known and the children she knows in her Catechesis Class. I, personally, have a great love for Orthodoxy but I have to be honest that moving my child is proving to be most challenging.

Your advice and prayers are welcomed.
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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #1 on: August 07, 2008, 11:03:21 AM »
Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on your servant Ignatius.  Will your daughter attend Sunday school at your Orthodox church?

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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #2 on: August 07, 2008, 11:14:46 AM »
Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on your servant Ignatius.  Will your daughter attend Sunday school at your Orthodox church?

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I'm not sure they have one since it's just a mission Church but I will talk to the Parish Priest about that. He has several little girls of his own there who will get to know my daughter but I do feel bad that I'm taking her out of what she is familiar with and the children who attend her Elementary School. I really feel bad about it.
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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #3 on: August 07, 2008, 12:22:23 PM »
I'm not sure they have one since it's just a mission Church but I will talk to the Parish Priest about that. He has several little girls of his own there who will get to know my daughter but I do feel bad that I'm taking her out of what she is familiar with and the children who attend her Elementary School. I really feel bad about it.

Remember to stay positive, make sure she is introduced (and gets some play time) to the other girls there.  Be with her a lot while she is uncomfortable - you'll be the only one she's comfortable with at the beginning, and your attention to her will be a critical factor in how she responds.  Don't bring up the fact that she doesn't know anyone - instead, focus on the new people and friends. She's at a very resilient age - don't forget that.


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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #4 on: August 07, 2008, 02:34:22 PM »
My eldest turned 6 the day she went to her first DL. I would suggest you bring a picture bible, and if you can bring some icon cards for her to shuffle thru and look at that is good. If you can let her pick some icons online and then print and laminate them that is ideal. It can be kind of boring for a 6 year old at first. They don't know what is going on and it is really confusing. My then 2 year old and 4mth old adapted more quickly than my 6 year old. If she can read, I would show her the text of the DL to follow along with. In any case-explain what is and is not expected of her well in advance. There are certain points where she MUST stand, otherwise she can stand or sit at other parts. Set up a hand signal that she can use if she needs to go potty or leave the service.

This is great advice from a woman at my parish-explain the length of the service as the length of your arm and when your child asks how much longer it is show them by the length of your arm left.

When we first started going we went to Orthos as well as the DL. The parish church school was during Orthos, so we had the 2 year old and 4mth old with us at this time. So we would be at the parish from 8:15 until after coffee hour was over at 1:30. The coffee hour (lunch) and all the playtime she could have with the other kids is what sealed the deal for my kids. There is a big yard around our parish for the kids to play in and my daughter loved having the freedom to go off and play right after eating.

Almost a year later my eldest cries and is really upset when we don't go to DL even when there is no church school.

Good luck!

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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #5 on: August 08, 2008, 08:12:36 PM »

Glory to Jesus Christ!

My Wife will be coming also to meet the Priest! Praise God!

I was under a lot of stress today! Feel a lot better right now. Thanks for the prayers!
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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #6 on: August 08, 2008, 08:34:22 PM »
^ If possible, I would recommend that your family sit together at the end of a pew rather than trying to engage her with the other children.

At my Church, I've had many a discussion among parents with small children throughout the decades - welcoming them to the Community.  I imagine that some of the children are now young adults at college hopefully living Orthodoxy.   :)

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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #7 on: August 10, 2008, 04:52:06 PM »
My wife and daughter went to Divine Liturgy with me this morning and afterwards there was a rather large fellowship meal which really broke the ice. It was great! My wife really liked the singing and my daughter was crossing herself like her old dad!

Thank you everyone for the advice, prayers etc.

Peace and God Bless.
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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #8 on: August 10, 2008, 06:15:51 PM »
My wife and daughter went to Divine Liturgy with me this morning and afterwards there was a rather large fellowship meal which really broke the ice. It was great! My wife really liked the singing and my daughter was crossing herself like her old dad!

Thank you everyone for the advice, prayers etc.

Peace and God Bless. 

What a great day!  May the Lord continue to bless your efforts, and may He shine His countenance upon you always.
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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #9 on: August 10, 2008, 07:14:15 PM »
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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #10 on: August 11, 2008, 11:55:23 AM »
^^^Lord, have mercy!  May the Lord continue to Bless your family's path to Orthodoxy and keep them strong during the journey, Amen!

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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #11 on: September 07, 2008, 02:15:49 AM »
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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #12 on: September 07, 2008, 02:35:35 AM »
Grace and Peace,

I am bringing my little daughter (6 years old) to Divine Liturgy this Sunday and I was wondering if there is anything anyone would recommend? My daughter is Baptized Roman Catholic and she's never been to any other parish except for the one she was baptized in and the Cathedral of the Sacred Heart in Richmond VA.

I'm a bit nervous and I feel a bit concerned that I am taking her away from the faith she has known and the children she knows in her Catechesis Class. I, personally, have a great love for Orthodoxy but I have to be honest that moving my child is proving to be most challenging.

Your advice and prayers are welcomed.

The Ukrainian Catholic Eparchy puts out a little blue book called "the Guardian Angel" book (or something like that). Its a liturgy book that just highlights the parts, with colorful and appropriate illustrations. It is very simple, but my sons first learned there way through the DL with it.
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Re: First time bringing whole family to Divine Liturgy...
« Reply #13 on: September 07, 2008, 04:06:27 AM »
My wife and daughter went to Divine Liturgy with me this morning and afterwards there was a rather large fellowship meal which really broke the ice. It was great! My wife really liked the singing and my daughter was crossing herself like her old dad!

Thank you everyone for the advice, prayers etc.

Peace and God Bless.

Somehow I missed this. That's wonderful new, Ignatius. As ozgeorge said; everything is overcome by love. :)

God be with you and your family.
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