Well, this is interesting. I have never married, nor am I a nun. That's just the way it is. I've never thought my life was anything "less" because of the omission of either state.
I certainly am not "anti" marriage, however, the opportunity simply has not yet presented itself.
When I was in my 20's, I couldn't wait to get married. However, over the years, when the "right" man hadn't entered my life, I've resigned myself to being "alone". Why fight the state you find yourself in? Why be unhappy and always "wait" for happiness. I am happy and grateful every day of my life, for what I DO have, not sad for what I am missing.
I busy myself with work, taking care of an aging mother, and spending time with my godchildren. Additionally, I try to help out with any church activities that come my way (being "single" leaves more time to do these things).
I believe there is a reason why things happen the way they do, even if we are not aware of that reason.
My life is full, and I DO try to live a "good" Orthodox life - even though I often fall short.
This is news to me that God should be unhappy with me for being single. However, I don't think he'd be happy with me, just because I was married, if I married for the wrong reasons.
Besides, I don't need a husband or an abbess to keep me in line, if I have the Lord "before" me at all times. My conscience does a good enough job on its own.
Just my opinion.