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Offline Simayan

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Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« on: June 02, 2008, 07:01:38 PM »
Well, in my three years on this forum, I've never asked for a prayer here, but I think now is as good a time as any:

I guess it all started a week ago. I'm apart of a circle of 4 friends, one of which (a female) has recently become desperate for attention, the reasons still being unknown. I chose to ignore her yesterday when she faked an illness (and admitted to it) to gain sympathy.

Anyway, one of my friends is sick of her and has broken off contact, while the other feeds her emotional dependency. He demanded that I apologize, and when I asked for what, simply said "it's the only thing that will keep it all from breaking apart." I relented, called her, apologized, but she hung up before I could say anything else. The second call I made was blocked.

The friend that then pressured me to call her got angry at me, and now we're not speaking, effectively splitting what was an extremely close knit group of 4 into two factions of 2. What's worse, I didn't see it coming at all; most all developments came within the past 2 days.

Prayers that this will work itself out. I'd hate to see it end in such a petty way.
« Last Edit: June 02, 2008, 07:02:35 PM by Simayan »
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #1 on: June 02, 2008, 07:09:01 PM »
Lord have mercy.

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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #2 on: June 02, 2008, 07:09:51 PM »
Lord, have mercy.
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #3 on: June 02, 2008, 07:23:47 PM »
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #4 on: June 02, 2008, 07:39:57 PM »
Lord have mercy! It sounds like it would be very helpful  if your friend could get some professional  counselling...
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #5 on: June 02, 2008, 07:53:03 PM »
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #6 on: June 02, 2008, 07:55:14 PM »
Thank you for all of your prayers.

It sounds like it would be very helpful  if your friend could get some professional  counselling...

Don't play the games- you will just lose yourself. Stay honest.

That's the problem I have. I can't stand to be around her, but I still care for the fact that she is dangerously co-dependent. I suppose a break had to occur eventually, it's just a shame that it happened for such a foolish reason.

"He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death, nor mourning nor crying nor suffering, for the old order of things has passed away."

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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #7 on: June 02, 2008, 09:02:37 PM »
Lord have mercy.  Ozgeorge has good advice here.
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #8 on: June 02, 2008, 11:50:03 PM »
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #9 on: June 03, 2008, 03:39:14 AM »
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #10 on: June 03, 2008, 07:33:29 AM »
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #11 on: June 03, 2008, 07:53:16 AM »
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #12 on: June 03, 2008, 10:03:27 AM »
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #13 on: June 07, 2008, 08:08:17 PM »
Update time.

Great news, though. I decided that because I was leaving on a trip for a week, I would call one last time to try and work all of this out (or else it would be on my mind the whole time, making it un-enjoyable). More importantly, though, I realized that when I ignored her plea for attention, it wasn't getting at the heart of whatever issue is causing it, merely exacerbating the problem.

So I called, and left a message sincerely apologizing for "whatever I did that made you frustrated." Less than two minutes later, she calls back, sobbing that "you didn't deserve any of the awful things I've said or done," and begged that I forgive her. Of course, I told her it was all forgotten, but that feeling of complete mutual forgiveness transcended all words we had for each other. She then passed the phone to the other estranged friend who was in the room with her, and a similar exchange took place.

Glory to God, who softens all hearts!
 
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #14 on: June 07, 2008, 08:40:06 PM »
What great news!!  Thanks be to God for all things...be they difficult or wonderous!

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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #15 on: June 07, 2008, 09:57:18 PM »
Update time.

Great news, though. I decided that because I was leaving on a trip for a week, I would call one last time to try and work all of this out (or else it would be on my mind the whole time, making it un-enjoyable). More importantly, though, I realized that when I ignored her plea for attention, it wasn't getting at the heart of whatever issue is causing it, merely exacerbating the problem.

So I called, and left a message sincerely apologizing for "whatever I did that made you frustrated." Less than two minutes later, she calls back, sobbing that "you didn't deserve any of the awful things I've said or done," and begged that I forgive her. Of course, I told her it was all forgotten, but that feeling of complete mutual forgiveness transcended all words we had for each other. She then passed the phone to the other estranged friend who was in the room with her, and a similar exchange took place.

Glory to God, who softens all hearts!
 

Simyan, words cannot convey how happy I am to hear this outcome. I am so happy you chose kindness. There's a trite old saying I often  remember, "You can never be too kind, because you never know the depth of the pain the other person is facing.", and another one, "People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care."

Truly, we never know just how much pain one of our fellow pilgrims might be bearing within himself. Another thing to remember is that women are ever so  hormonally vulnerable! Sometimes we lose our ability to be happy in a  split second and our irrational tears and outbursts last a whole week long and then disappear just as suddenly as they appeared!
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #16 on: June 07, 2008, 10:38:38 PM »
Lord, have mercy.

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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #17 on: June 07, 2008, 10:51:44 PM »
Glory to God for the faithfulness of friends.
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Re: Prayers for a strained (perhaps broken) friendship
« Reply #18 on: June 08, 2008, 03:50:21 AM »
Glory to God!
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