, thank you sir! I'd do the same for you, but you're already married as you mentioned previously.Elisha
, like I told nilus, who ever said anything about gynecological examinations and the like??? If there didn't exist enough trust in the relationship for one partner to believe what the other said, what good would a physical test do?sinjinsmythe
, along with completely agreeing on the points you made I want to also say that I laughed out loud when I read that comment you made about us being aliens from another planet
The funny thing is that this hasn't been the only thread where me and you have been "singled out" in our opinions, as it were. We'll always be misunderstood it seems...CDHealy
, I do understand what you're saying about the "ontological aspects of purity" being restored through through confession, repentance, and askesis but even so I still could not forgive the loss of virginity even if God did. For me this is a deeply personal thing which symbolizes more, and goes far beyond, than just a question of an individual's purity. It has a lot to do with the things that form the very basis of my world-view...
Personally, I'd much rather be alone than in wedlock to someone who refused to wait for me, like I did for them. TomS
, what are you saying? That I have NO right to expect certain things from a person I wish to spend the rest of my life with? That there should be no standards whatsoever when I go to choose my wife? Are you sure YOU aren't the one not being serious?
And please don't deal me this "not knowing the consequences of her action" thing. She didn't jaywalk or park in the wrong area, she allowed another human being to do very intimate (maybe even sickening, revolting) things to her and she reciprocated them as well. It was a conscious choice and as such there must be consequences for it.
Yes, it's true we all make mistakes, but it's also true that we must take responsibility for them.
As for God judging me for not forgiving her for a shameless debauchery and loss of all self-respect, well, in that case I can do nothing but gladly accept my fate. Let me be judged and let me be damned even, if the only other option I have is to accept a despoiled creature as my wife, thereby lowering and degrading myself.