Ideally, I'd love for my wife to respect my opinion on EVERYTHING. Generally she does.
But I don't consider someone's religion to be equal to their political views or taste in music. If you do, you have a gross misunderstanding of what place religion must take in your life.
I know I am going to express this very poorly. Forgive me.
This is different than taste in music, political veiws, etc. The purpose of Marriage is mutual salvation. In fact, one of the unique things about Orthodoxy is the emphasis on "we are saved together". I have made mistakes and wish that I had been wiser in taking these things in to consideration before my husband and I ended up in different churches. (the decision was made with cool heads, mutual understanding, and respect...but that did not spare us the wedge it has driven between us).
I can never forsake my Lord, and I believe the Orthodox Church contains the fullness of faith. But sometimes even the right thing can be wrong when you put to much trust in your own wisdom and what seems to be the right path. I will never know if being more willing to trust that God would have been able to accomplish through Grace what I thought I could do by I could do by taking a stand and showing my commitment to choose Christ before all things.
Things may have turned out the same, but I know there was a little bit too much willfulness and pride on both our parts, and now we have more healing to do because of our unwillingness to give God more time and room to work. The Lord's Grace and Mercy is never exhausted and will cover even our mistakes and foolishness if we forsake our pride and humble our hearts. .
An offended brother is more unyielding than a fortified city,
and disputes are like the barred gates of a citadel.