This is a big hobby-horse of your's, I can see. It's perfectly natural for the Orthodox to define themselves in opposition to the RCC, since non-Orthodox seem to find them to be so similar, and since many RC ecumenical types often poo-poo the differences between the two Churches.
The RCC is a much bigger "noise" in the world today than the Orthodox Church. I don't think you realise how sensitive the Orthodox are about this, and how nervous the RCC makes them feel. Or to put it another way; you are aware of how the Orthodox feel, but seeing the RCC as being essentially a benevolent organisation, or in fact as the very vehicle of salvation, you are aghast at why so many Orthodox see the need to distinguish themselves from the RCC. Some of the Orthodox concern is due to unreasonable paranoia, but some is clearly not. A couple of years ago, I mentioned to you that RC schools in the Middle East encourage Orthodox to join them and receive a free education. All they have to do in return is join the Melkite Church. How is this to be understood by the Orthodox?
I personally really love the present Pope. I really respect how he "tells is like it is", but does so in a spirit of love. I trust in his sincerity. However, I am really not sure that the Roman curia wants anything other than to absorb Orthodoxy, not come to a consensus with Her about ecclesial matters. It's unfortunately only far too human to want to preserve what prestige, power, and influence one already has, and not give it up. I'm not saying that this is true only in the RCC; Orthodoxy has its problems with this kind of attitude today too. Suffice it to say, however, that while I may love and admire individual RC people or prelates, that I do not trust the motives of the RCC as a whole.
Also, you know full well that there is a tendency in the West to be more juridical. I don't know why you feel the need to completely deny this. You probably have a legitimate point to make in your critique, but really, to deny that there is a more juridical tendancy in Western thought is really quite disingenuous.