I have been a seeker and an inquirer for going on 2 years now.
Have you taken any opportunities to visit an Orthodox Church for Vespers or any other services? If only occasionally, perhaps you could start making at least Vespers a regular part of your spiritual journey.
Family issues hold me back (14 year-old beautiful and wellbeloved daughter who is involved in every program and aspect of our Methodist church.
This is a very significant issue and to be perfectly honest, one that I don't think I would rock the boat with. If your daughter is involved in church, let her remain so. She is at a vulnerable age. You want her to remain on solid ground with which she is familiar. Let her keep her involvement with the programs and worship services. Though it may seem largely social, and it probably is, that's okay IMHO.
If you were to make Orthodox services a regular part of your life, would your husband be willing to make sure your daughter got to her programs and services at the Methodist Church? That may be a potential solution.
Major problems with the Theotokos. I told a priest, I just can't pray, I mean I just can't do it, to a saint or Mary or anybody else but the Almighty God. It says in Isaiah somewhere, "My glory I Will not give to another." HOW can I take a chance on displeasing Him?
You are right, you can't take a chance at displeasing Him. I don't think that by respecting and honoring His Mother, you would be displeasing Him. If anything, you would be showing Him honor. Imagine how you feel when someone shows respect and honor to your mother. As for praying to the Saints, I am sure that you ask others in the church (militant) to pray for you. I am positive you've asked your friends to pray for your daughter and your husband. Right? Asking a Saint to pray for you before the Throne of Grace is just asking another person in the church (triumphant) to pray for you. They, after all, are in heaven with God, which is where we all hope to be too.
And if I did make the leap here, what about those widows, orphans, prisoners, and sick? I don't see the big outreaches happening in the Orthodox churches like they should be, but this is just my perception. Convince me if I'm wrong. God knows, I want to be convinced.
It is true, you won't see BIG outreaches in the Orthodox Church. At least not like you see in some of the mega-Protestant churches. But what you will see is the little outreaches which ripple out like when a pebble is thrown into a pond. And those ripples spread far and wide. It is seen in all the little things we do for one another: pray, cook a meal for someone who is sick, bringing the neighbor's trash can up to their garage door after it is left laying in the middle of the street, shoveling the neighbor's walk, and the list goes on, and on and on.
I can't just call up a busy overworked priest every day and quiz him about the Orthodox church.
Oh sure you can! Of course you can! Maybe not every day, but at least every day of the first week till you get to talk to him and set up a regularly scheduled monthly chat-fest!
So I'm reading all I can, because I want to KNOW... What does God require of me...
Micah 6:8 "To do justice, love kindness, and walk humbly with your God." [paraphrase mine]
The justice and kindness part can be easily seen by many. You mention it in the ministries of your Methodist church. But what about the humbly part? That's harder to see because it's not so much "in the face" as the other ones. The humbly part is the little pebble in the pond. It's the trash can thing. It's the meal thing. Ya know what I mean?
Question: My life seems to have been a dismal failure up to now... If I embraced Orthodoxy, would there be fruit in my life? Or would I just end up joining another social club?
Well Texasgypsy (sorry, don't know your name), you may very well be joining another social club to a certain extent. But would their be fruit in your life? I cannot judge that. I can only speak to my own experience. Whether there is fruit is not for me to say but I can assure you my spiritual life is beyond anything I had ever imagined possible. God has blessed me in ways that I cannot put into words.
Thank you for your charity and patience, and, ah, gentleness.
You are more than welcome! Keep asking. Keep talking. Keep praying. God has brought you this far. He surely will not abandon you now!
Sincerely in Christ,