Why, I’m right here, of course!
In my own case, my wife was led into the Church through me (she was Catholic, and fortunately she found through the Church the answers to multiple questions she had been asking but could never find an answer, especially since she was teaching in Catholic schools virtually her entire teaching career. The conversion was done on the down-low just to avoid any potential problems).
Regarding conversions where one spouse sees Truth and the other just is content to stay where they are, IMO the most important issue is the communication between the spouses. In one case here we have one member of a family converting and the spouse wants to stay in their former church home. However, the non-converting spouse is fine with the conversion---no opposition has been voiced, and frankly I think I’ll be chrismating the other spouse in a few years.
The reason this is cited is because it shows how a couple can handle this situation well. What concerns me are the couples who apparently have no ‘consensus-building skills’ between themselves and then one’s conversion, if not handled properly, can lead to problems.
In most marriages I’ve seen, it is unusual to find both partners spiritually inclined. The division of responsibilities usually is to have one spouse lead the religious life and the other take more of a back seat (I know exceptions do exist, but this is a general rule of thumb for most families). Often the ‘spiritual’ member gets clued to the Church and the other then is placed in a difficult position---s/he doesn’t see what the other sees and understands that the friends they had in their former church home may now be lost. Therefore the recalcitrant spouse often stays back to keep ‘a foot in both camps’ and see how this Orthodox ‘experiment’ works out.
Then, it is incumbent upon the Church community to show the spouse staying behind that we are not concerned about the ethnic background or that s/he can’t trill the ‘r’ sound when speaking, etc. Once again, conversions come down to love---just as the Spirit helps move someone to enter the Church out of love, so now must everyone in the Church love the non-Orthodox spouse so that he or she will know that they will find what they are looking for.
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