I'm not sure what my great-grandmother did with 12 children at liturgy in church slavonic? To be fair I think the older children sang in the choir, served on the altar and helped with the babies!I mean Matins beforehand and in those days they read the bulletin as well since no one had copiers. My grandmother had 8 children they took to mass.. but I know how that went. I'm still afraid to fidget or turn around in church
But there isn't any need to pile on prayers just to make a service longer for aesthetics or feel goodness in a parish.
A parish isn't a monastery. On the one hand it would be nice to see people say "Father can we have Matins before Sunday Divine Liturgy if we get a few people together to sing it." But on the other hand just piling on prayers to make things longer because it seems more "Orthodox" isn't a valid reason to do so. Prayer done with quality is better than prayer done for quantity.
And truthfully Vespers is an evening service and Matins is the morning Service. So the need to stand in church for 6 hours on a Saturday night isn't more "Orthodox."
I realize it is a Russian small tradition (somehow people get small tradition mixed up with Tradition) to have hours Vespers hours Matins hours with Confessions on Saturday evenings but it isn't the tradition of the entire Orthodox world.
While visiting a Monastery may pump you up and make you think every parish should be in church most of the weekend before Sunday Liturgy that's not how it flies in the parish.
And remember there really is no "I" in team. I realize (haha I used I) that we Americans often think we have some right to always say "I this, I that, I want, I like, I don't like, I think..." but when it comes to the Body of Christ, the Church, the community of gathered believers united by the Eucharist there isn't really an "I" per se.
So while some of us may want this or that we must remember that there are others that belong to the parish as well and have different circumstances etc.. that the priest pastorally guides the flock the best he can and be fair to all.
For instance in many parishes around here you won't find Matins. Shocking, surprising, oh my! Not really. It takes people to sing Matins. Often in parishes one person was the professor/cantor/choir director. Many times the cantor knew all the details and so forth for just about all the services. She could have told you that on this feast day you sing this while Father blessed that and walked around the tetrapod thrice and did this and you sang that in tone 6 but then went back to tone 2 because that's the tone for that feast.
So what happens is that the cantor passes on and the knowledge and organization dies with her. Or something happens in the parish after her passing or when she's in the nursing home. Anyone that would have remembered half of what she knew either left the parish or moved. In the meantime services go from Church Slavonic to English which equates to a huge change as well and without the leadership of the cantor/choir director who knew everything in Church Slavonic to help the transition... I mean a million different things happen and there are many reasons. So then you have different people that may not know exactly how to serve/sing all the services. So really as complicated as my post seems it shows that there are often reasons larger than our own and more complex as to why somethings just don't occur in all parishes.