I feel that this new poll pigeon-holes the respondent into answering how you want them to answer. (Btw, I did vote 'yes' on this poll.)
Yes, we believe fornication is bad and serious. Yes, we believe one should confess often. Yes, the general morality level of man Orthodox regarding this sin has deteriorated significantly, but at the same time, we think you are focusing on sexual topics in an unhealthy manner.
First of all, are you using the royal we?? Secondly, I disagree with your analysis, we are not focousing on sexual topics in an unhealthy manner, but rather in a balanced manner. If you had read my posts, you would understand what my understanding and opinions are and why I rephrased the poll. I will quickly summarise it for you.
We are all sinners that need healing from the sickness of sin. We all have evil in our hearts that affect ourselves and everyone else. A person has no right to judge another person. Only God is the ultimate judge of man. Through the power of the Holy Spirit, in co operating with God, we are to crush our egos and through repentance and the Holy Mysteries try to achieve Theosis. Love also covers a multitude of sin. I do not think that I am better than anyone else, and I believe Nacho would probably say the same. We must all approach the Holy Chalice with humility and repentance.
With that all being said, it is not a sin, nor is it judging to observe the problem of sexual immorality in the church. It would be like saying it is unhealthy to point out the corruption and scandal within the OCA. Are we to bury our heads in the sand and not acknowledge there is a problem. It is a simple fact that there are a lot of people in the church in this particular day and age that openly live lives of immorality and unrepentance. Moreover, quite often clergy turn a blind eye to this for one reason or another (probably because they just simply don't want to deal with it). For those who are sorry for their sin and have fallen, and are repenting and trying to stop this lifestyle, I genuinly hope that they recieve healing and victory over their sin. I truly do. My problem is with those who don't care and blatantly live an immoral lifestyle for all to see. This is a serious contemporary problem within the Orthodox church today, and it is valid to point it out. I believe that this is also an appropriate forum to do so.
I don't know if you are a cradle Orthodox or a convert like myself, but my background before becoming Orthodox took this sin serious, and expected Christians to behave in a Holy Manner, much like the Holy Elders teach. I have said nothing out of line with what the Bible, Holy Tradition, The Saints and Holy Elders teach. In the past, this behavior would have been unacceptable in the church.
Another reason it is a concern to me is because I have two children. They are little but my wife and I are raising them with Christian values. As they get older, I don't want them to see that it is alright to live a sexually immoral lifestyle; that it is no big deal. If they grow up seeing this behavior in the Church, they are going to think that it is alright. I want the church to back up the values we teach our kids. This is how the church used to be and still is in many parts of the world.
Moreover, what kind of a message does this send to those outside the church whether Christian or not?? I have seen people get turned off to the Holy Orthodox faith because of witnessing rampant immorality amongst a great number of Orthodox. I even saw it before I became Orthodox, and it was a concern to me back then.
Now, I rephrased the poll because the first time I made the poll, I used the word "Mortal Sin". This ruffled the feathers of a few and the point I was trying to make got skewed under the termenology, so to get an idea of what people on the board thought about it, I rephrased the same thing I meant in another way. It is not a trick, it is a simple question. It is yes or no, and anyone can post their opinions after voting. I also wanted to see if the extent of peoples laxness on the issue was the same on the internet as I have seen in general over the years.
If I have come off judgemental or prideful in any way for the sake of Christ please forgive me. That is not what I am trying to convey in my posting. Like I said earlier, I do not think I am better than anyone else, nor have I said that. I do think that this is a serious issue that must be dealt with.